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Puzzled AAF: Why Can't I Seem to Attract AM?
ell im a 16 year old AF living in a
white suburban town with a good few
number of asian guyz. ive been told by
many that im attractive and beautiful. im
not trying to brag here, but im not exactly a beauty queen here either. i am very attracted to asian guyz, and i would always assume asian guyz would be attracted to me. well there were some, but some either did not make the move to approach me or was only temporarily interested in me and would forget me to go talk to a white girl. its strange, but it seems that non asian guyz give me the day with their attention. there the ones that flirt with me, ask me out, call me and when they talk to me they act natural. with some azn guyz, they act awkward and quiet when in reality there not! i dunno if i intimidate them becuz im not what u call a meek submissive girl, but not a loud ghetto girl either. im not a sellout, i have full azn pride and talk about these things with azn guyz, and they appreciate me but never take me for a love interest. besides, i thikn azn guyz can be too picky. can u tell me whats wrong and what should i do?
Jaye
jayelina@yahoo.com
Thursday, August 16, 2001 at 07:01:59 (PDT)
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Jaye,
I've seen much worse grammar...writing in all lower case is alright. I do it myself because I get lazy. Have you seen when pEePs wRyTe aN sPeLL lYkE dIs? now THAT's horrendous. I do admit that using "z" instead of "s" is a bit annoying, but I don't think she really used any slang besides that. I also highly doubt that she talks in "asian slang" in real life.
What IS your definition of "Asian slang" anyway?
In anycase, Jaye's post was posted in 2001...I hope she found her Asian cutie by now. hehe ciao.
short asian girl
Sunday, October 06, 2002 at 03:32:21 (PDT)
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Jaye,
First thing first, use proper casing and stop the "asian slang" way of writing. I hope you don't speak the way you write. That would be a problem. May be you should drop the Asian pride thing. Be sincere in making all kinds of friends, not just Asians. One practical advise, for every asian guy you meet, give him a smile. Very soon you will find yourself a asian bf.
ranmasaotome
darrengoh@mindspring.com
Wednesday, August 07, 2002 at 09:20:17 (PDT)
jaye...
personally i think it has alot to do with your living in a suburban pre-dominantly white town. over here in san francisco i grew up surrounded by asians, and i find that most asian guys in our age group (i'm 19) are fully devoted to the asian female. it's probably because of the exposure the guys in your social circle have to white girls, (and media in america) that shape their preferences for white girls rather then their own. i'm sure if those guys took a trip to shang-hai or hawaii they'd return with a newfound interest in you. i'm sure you're very pretty. the guys will grow out of it (whether it's their being shy or that they haven't discovered asian beauty yet.)i think it's really really great that you live in a predominantly white town and still maintain that you're asian and not white trapped in an asian girl's body. don't give up on asian guys. i bet some of them are just intimidated because you're so pretty, yanno? perhaps because you act very comfortable and at ease with them (because you feel that you connect with their "asianess"?)combined with the fact that you're attractive that they act funny and are intimidated. well stop looking for love and your asian guy will come to you out of no where when you least expect it. that's all i gotta say.
short asian girl
Monday, July 15, 2002 at 16:37:25 (PDT)
"can u tell me whats wrong and what should i do?"
The positive thing with Asian guys is that they won't Orientalize you. They'll read you as a human being and then see how you compare with other human beings that happen to be in the Asian ethnic "racial" category. BUT, the negative thing is that you now have to compete with other woman of Asian descent as an attractive personality. Many Asian women, from Asia, grow up with a stronger sense of themselves as a human individual than, I suspect, most women of Asian descent here, because those women (women of Asian descent here in the U.S.) grow up around negative disinformation rather than an accurate portrayal of their characters, their abilities, AND THEIR POTENTIALITY. This might, therefore, mean that you should begin the work of developing yourself fully as a human being. Are you doing that? I wonder. Hence, this experience of yours actually represents a positive rather than a negative: an opportunity to grow and to eventually attract an equally attractive male of Asian descent.
Finally, I wonder if many Asian males don't prefer either "pure" Asian females (i.e., native speakers of an Asian language, etc.) than a "diluted" Asian female (i.e., an American-born Asian female). If they are going to go non-Asian, then they'll just go ahead and go after either a Caucasian female or an African American female. I personally do not feel that way, but it is, I think, a significant question.
Asian Machiavelli
Thursday, May 23, 2002 at 15:27:00 (PDT)
Jaye,
so, would any old asian guy do? how much does the guy's soul, being, and self matter to you? i'm not saying disregard the color boundary and take the hand of the first guy who touches your heart, azn or white. keep it in the asian arena since that's what you want, but the harder you keep looking and hoping, the harder you're gonna fall. the right asian guy for YOU will come along so quit trying to market yourself like a side of beef and just let whatever happens happen. you sound like a very strong personality so i bet that won't sit well with you, but i bet that a romance will blossom just where and when and with whom you're least expecting it to! yeah, azn guys tend to be a little on the shy side, esp. when they've got all their boys to hang with but the right one for you will step it up cause he knows that's what he has to do to be with you. in the meantime, just chill and enjoy the single life cause there's something to be said for the exhiliration of innocent flirting.
just another k-girl
Monday, November 26, 2001 at 23:30:46 (PST)
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