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Carrie: Advice to Shy Girl on Starting an Office Romance
hy Girl:
I had a situation similar to yours. In my office, office romance is discouraged. But I like this guy very much. I’ve never been approach by Asian guys before so I did not know how to proceed. I asked a coworker to talk to this Asian guy for me and see if he had interest in me. I’m kind of shy like you so it was difficult for me too. There was no pressure on the third party coworker so he was happy to help me. Anyway, we started dating and it was clear that our relationship was becoming harder and harder to keep discreet from the office. Rumors started flying and so I just decided to leave the company and move to another company. I did not want to get both of us in trouble for violating the office policy and procedures.
My advice to you is first make sure you know what your office policy is regarding office romance. Then proceed with caution. Asian guys can be more difficult to know at the beginning because some are shy too. But if you take the time to know them and break their shy outside shell, you will discover some sweet and nice guys. I actually prefer the shy guys because I know they will not be running around after other women. Remember, when a guy is too smooth with women, he got that way because he has practiced a lot.
Since you are talking about a gorgeous Asian man, don’t be surprised he has other females interested in him. I would not ask another female for help because of obvious reasons. You don’t want her to take him from you. Ask a male coworker to help you be the icebreaker. That’s the easiest way for two shy people to finally connect. After I moved away from my old company, my relationship has continued to get better. We don’t have to be discreet anymore and we work within 10 minutes of each other and have gone out on many lunch dates. Good luck to you. I hope my story helps you with your relationship.
Carrie
Tuesday, June 26, 2001 at 12:02:13 (PDT)
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