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Confident ABC: Advice for Raising Adoptive Chinese Child
'm not adopted, but I've dated a korean adoptee and have AA friends who are adoptees. I went to a Lutheran university (ELCA) where asian adoptees and "hapas" (asian-white) are very common, both straight and closet gay. ALL are deeply conscious of their ethnicity and yearn to learn more about their native land and culture. The #1 problem for them is communicating with people of their own ethnicity. They always feel left out and frustrated when I gab with int'l students in their native tongue. Raise your child normally despite upcoming prejudice. I don't care about racism b/c that's guaranteed in America. FLUENT MANDARIN is your TOP priority for your child, not discrimination. Literally force mandarin every year even if she/he rejects it. Go to chinatown and buy him chinese comic books and mags. Don't worry about confusion with english, your kid will deal. Asian parents are kicking themselves for choosing not to raise their kid bilingual in fear of grades. I hated my parents for making me speak my native language, but then realize how freakin' awesome it is now! Fellow chinese will include your child socially and get strong respect from both asian and european foreigners for not being a typical "banana" (yellow outside-white inside) or "lost american". Daily affirmation is assured if your kid is bilingual. FURTHER, you kid may get better quality friends in the process. good luck!
mcse2020@yahoo.com
Friday, June 29, 2001 at 06:50:45 (PDT)
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