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Akira: Advice to Underachiever Concerned About Parents
can empathize with what you're going through and so do most Asians who, at some point in their childhood and adolescence, felt the pressure to live up to their parents' expectation. Although it is true that Asian parents would like to brag to other Asian parents about their children doing good in school and being a "good boy or girl", I think that, as the children come of age, they care so much more for their children's future and independence than their own bragging rights and "honour". When you're about to finish high school and on the threshold of adulthood, they WORRY about YOU and you only and what you're going to do with your life, not what others in the community might think of them. And no one should even care more about YOUR future than YOU :). I think that your soul searching is the right first step. If your relationship with your parents is somewhat strained right now, do you have an older sister, brother, cousin, uncle or aunt to whom you can confide to? An older sibling or cousin who has done well in school can perhaps coach you on courses to take, how to study, and so on. It is my experience that if you want to improve yourself, somehow, you will find and surround yourself with parents, family and good friends who will close ranks and who are more than willing to support you and guide you in your endeavour. Take care.
-- Akira
Tuesday, June 26, 2001 at 17:52:18 (PDT)
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