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IS THE AA GENDER DIVIDE REAL?
(Updated Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:38:55 AM)

sian American women are abandoning AA men by the millions. Young AA women seek out any race of men but their own. Women like Amy Tan write books and make movies that dump on AA men and glorify Asian women in relationships with white men.
     That's the perception of many AA men.
     On what do they blame this state of affairs? Brainwashing by media that play up white men while cutting Asian men off at the knees. Desire for payback by AA women who feel slighted by their families and Asian society. Large numbers of non-Asian men with blind fetishes for Asian women. Some even acknowledge that Asian men are often too fixed in their ideas of how a woman should look and behave, causing many AF to feel devalued.
     Other Asian Americans see AF outmarriage rates as merely a natural state of affairs for a 4% minority population that includes many recent immigrants. The outmarriage gender gap will narrow as growing Asian population centers provide ready access to bigger pools of singles. Besides outmarriage is't the same as rejecting one's racial identity, they argue. Many AF who outmarry retain strong identification with their Asian identity.
     Is there really an Asian American gender divide? Is so, what's behind it? If not, what's behind the perception?

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There is nothing wrong about Asian women having their share of good-looking White men because there are some really beautiful Asian women out there. But MOST White men (especially the best-looking ones) still prefer White women and that is a fact. Let's face it only 8% of White American men are involved in interracial relationships ( in that 8% includes WM/BF, WM/Latina ralationships). MOST White men are not into Asian women only a tiny fraction of them.
tell it like it is
   Monday, January 07, 2002 at 09:45:04 (PST)
energytraderus,

I don't know how old you are, but if you have been to the clubs or any high school lately, you will clearly see the Asian male image does not quite sell off yet.

Asian females are desired because they are perceived as sexually available and docile, while black and Hispanic men are ultramasculine blockheads who would go crazy for light skinned women.
just another view
   Sunday, January 06, 2002 at 15:13:42 (PST)
"That means we Asian men are OUTNUMBERED by white females available to us. Isn't that a great news?"

The only problem is that they may prefer Hispanic or black men over Asians or Asian Americans.

Asian American Male
   Sunday, January 06, 2002 at 12:45:09 (PST)
Twinkie:

I speak from experience as well. Here in the Washington DC area there are many Asians. I work for a global organization. Unmarried white American women in this organization complain all the time about Asian women taking "their" men, but when asked about dating a Korean or a Vietnamese even if they are of the same religion, they say no.

However, I am glad things are working well for you.
Asian American Male
   Sunday, January 06, 2002 at 12:41:18 (PST)
"Ever notice how most minorities in America would prefer if their children married someone of their own race but that they would not totally object to them marrying a white person."

Actually there is an article on this board to that effect. A Vietnamese father would rather have his daughter marry white compared to Japanese or Korean.

"And it's also not a coincidence that no non-black family would ever want their children to marry an African-American."

True.

"Blacks have always been on the bottom of the totem pole. They are the lowest socio-economic class and thus they get the shaft in the dating and marrying game also."

....this is a world wide view...although Bahamas and Barbados which are 95% black have higher per capita income than most white countries of the Former Soviet Union, Portugal, Malta, and even states such as Louisiana and Mississippi!!

"Truth is poverty sucks and pride doesn't make your life any better."

Last I saw, two hours ago, Asian Americans were richer on average than whites, at least here in America...although there are more white millionaires in this country...actually there are more Chinese and Japanese millionaires in sheer numbers...in HK, Singapore, Taiwan and Japan.

"The white race only comprises a small proportion of the world's population yet what are the richest countries in the world? US(60% white), Germany, France, UK. Japan's in there too. Yeah, i know."

Actually whites are also amongst the poorest people in the world...especially the blonde ones...Latvia, Ukraine, Belarus, Lithuania, Slovakia, Bulgaria, Romania...I have seen whites living in far worse poverty in Eastern Europe than any East Asian with perhaps the exception of Cambodia and Burma. The poor in China live better than the middle class in Ukraine. And in your list..you also forgot Singapore, Hong Kong, Taiwan and Korea.

"All communication with the Old Country will have been severed and your family members won't even care to boot."

Not likely. It is a different world now than back in 1900.

"But maybe in a hundred years or so when the sun sets on the American empire and rises on another perhaps non-white civilization (the People's Republic of China???) will a different color man influence the world and define beauty, power, and stability to be in his image."

Do not have to wait that long..in two years whites would be a minority in Texas, and in ten, most likely in Florida. Minorities may not have a short at becoming President but they would control who becomes President. By 2050 whites would be a minority in this country...but America would continue to be the most powerful in the world.
A Proud Asian American
   Sunday, January 06, 2002 at 12:36:43 (PST)
energytraderus,

They might have won, but they wish to dominate the scene. So the battle is not over in their minds.

Although it may sound alarming. I have come from highschool with 40% asian. Most were moderate in their ethnic thinking. But there were many who projected there acedemic sucess in the city of New York City specialized public school system, as justification for society dominance. Whether or not they have changed their views, I do not know. But as a past subscriber to that kind of thinking, I can understand if there are some highly talented Asians out there that are not satisfied with status quo, even though a majority of USA would envy it, and desire more in their ethnic favor.

Asians are prone to racism just like the next human being on the planet.

Valley Chinese Dude,

That was very well put. The world is green and we are all slaves to the greenback.

I like that it is very elegant. Greed would explain many of the inconsistencies of IR that fails enthocentric explainations many of this board are putting up.
AC dropout
   Sunday, January 06, 2002 at 12:35:50 (PST)

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