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ASIAN AMERICAN ISSUES
IS THE AA GENDER DIVIDE REAL?
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sian American women are abandoning AA men by the millions. Young AA women seek out any race of men but their own. Women like Amy Tan write books and make movies that dump on AA men and glorify Asian women in relationships with white men.
That's the perception of many AA men.
On what do they blame this state of affairs? Brainwashing by media that play up white men while cutting Asian men off at the knees. Desire for payback by AA women who feel slighted by their families and Asian society. Large numbers of non-Asian men with blind fetishes for Asian women. Some even acknowledge that Asian men are often too fixed in their ideas of how a woman should look and behave, causing many AF to feel devalued.
Other Asian Americans see AF outmarriage rates as merely a natural state of affairs for a 4% minority population that includes many recent immigrants. The outmarriage gender gap will narrow as growing Asian population centers provide ready access to bigger pools of singles. Besides outmarriage is't the same as rejecting one's racial identity, they argue. Many AF who outmarry retain strong identification with their Asian identity.
Is there really an Asian American gender divide? Is so, what's behind it? If not, what's behind the perception?
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Are Asian women really abandoning Asian men by the millions? Take another look at the AFWM couples in your life. You may notice that such couples follow two predominant patterns:
1) The WM is an unattractive nerd, perhaps the intellectual type, who can't really hack it in Western society. The AF is decidedly more attractive than the WM.
Both parties in this scenario have it in their heads that Whites are higher than Asians in the racial totem pole. Thus the WM trades his race for a non-White mate with better physical characteristics than he can hope to attract in the White world, while the AF also thinks she got something of value in her man's race.
When you come right down to it, both of them are losers and, frankly, deserve each other. May they have happy years together and beget Eurasian children who are more attractive than their parents and hopefully less afflicted with loseritis.
2) The WM is a "mature" (read old) man; the AF is a divorcee, perhaps a single mother. The AF has a really tough time in Asian society, which frowns upon divorced women in general. Her chances of finding happiness with another Asian man is close to nil. The WM may have some material possessions but cannot compete in the dating arena full of younger, more vigorous versions of himself. He suffers the pangs of loneliness.
These two are a match made in heaven. He doesn't mind her past because every WF he knows has been divorced at least once. Some of them hop from bed to bed with reckless abandon. Compare to these loose females, the AF is quite a find. She, on the other hand, finds in him the security and acceptance she's desperately looking for, but has failed to find in her own world.
There are enough AFWM couple of this type that it should become a standard practice for all estranged Asian women to immediately enroll in an English language immersion program as soon as the divorce is final. The older White man has become a sort of great recycling plant for these unlucky-in-love Asian females.
One might think of such a couple as pathetic too, but I feel sympathy for them. They represent each other's best shot at happiness. If, in the process, the WM entertains illusions that he is riding to the rescue of the AF in a manner befitting of the Great White Hunter, and the AF convinces herself that the White man is more romantic than the Asian man after all, then let's just leave it be. They are relatively harmless.
Are their exceptions to the above two archetypes? Probably. Exceptions prove the rule. Again, take another look at the AFWM couples around you. See how many of them fit the above pattern. You may be surprised.
Telling it like it is
Wednesday, February 20, 2002 at 12:58:19 (PST)
What the HELL does Deconstructing Roger or his idiotic comments relate to the AA gender divide? This should be in another topic altogether.
And by the way, I AM A FRIGGING ASIAN AMERICAN FEMALE!!!
Janet Chang-Hawkins
Wednesday, February 13, 2002 at 08:35:30 (PST)
"he is covertly racist and the position he takes is really a front for a disparaging opinion of AMs. villageidiot seems to take this view"
i don't get it bro, how can somebody only be racist towards 50% of the population and not the other half? i just think this roger guy needs to check his facts first and go to the AF/WM board.
anyhow, giving as much time to refute guys like him is probably like giving legitimacy to their arguments in their minds. like i wrote way back, i don't want to give any credence to their troll behaviors by replying, but roger just keeps ticking me off with irrelevant AM issues. probably the best way is to ignore them, but can't help reading their posts because of the format of this board.
heck, live and let live.
villageidiot
Tuesday, February 12, 2002 at 16:46:06 (PST)
Miscegenation is great,
do you really want Roger to post again? I agree with Everything in your post, except that point. I have heard enough from Roger. I think most other people have to.
Asian Sting
Rogergoaway.com
Tuesday, February 12, 2002 at 16:29:11 (PST)
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