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ASIAN AMERICAN ISSUES
IS THE AA GENDER DIVIDE REAL?
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Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:38:55 AM)
sian American women are abandoning AA men by the millions. Young AA women seek out any race of men but their own. Women like Amy Tan write books and make movies that dump on AA men and glorify Asian women in relationships with white men.
That's the perception of many AA men.
On what do they blame this state of affairs? Brainwashing by media that play up white men while cutting Asian men off at the knees. Desire for payback by AA women who feel slighted by their families and Asian society. Large numbers of non-Asian men with blind fetishes for Asian women. Some even acknowledge that Asian men are often too fixed in their ideas of how a woman should look and behave, causing many AF to feel devalued.
Other Asian Americans see AF outmarriage rates as merely a natural state of affairs for a 4% minority population that includes many recent immigrants. The outmarriage gender gap will narrow as growing Asian population centers provide ready access to bigger pools of singles. Besides outmarriage is't the same as rejecting one's racial identity, they argue. Many AF who outmarry retain strong identification with their Asian identity.
Is there really an Asian American gender divide? Is so, what's behind it? If not, what's behind the perception?
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Telling it like it is:
Yes there are exceptions, lots of exceptions !
tap tap
Friday, February 22, 2002 at 09:06:33 (PST)
Boy, way to stereotype "Telling it."
It gets even weirder when read closely, too. You're creating model stereotypes based on the the assumed (and false) premise that in AFWM relationships, the AF is always FOB.
Well, you're SOL, bruh. As well as full of it.
Booyah!
Friday, February 22, 2002 at 08:10:30 (PST)
telling it like it is,
And what if some afwm relationship don't fit the pattern? would you come up with more lame excuses as to why they're together? Or would you finally concede that they are just two attractive human beings happy with one another. What would you do if you saw a pretty asian girl with an equally handsome white guy?
???
Friday, February 22, 2002 at 07:01:32 (PST)
There are millions of chinese people on this planet but they are one of the most disunited peoples. They spend most of their time bitching about each other - it's no wonder the white man has so much fun and profit from looking down on the chinese.
May be if chinese people (don't care where you are from) stopped critising each other and appreciated what it means to be chinese then the chinese as a race/nation can stand united - for once!
The Chinese of 21st Century are sharper, better educated and more miltant that their elders - they won't take shit any more so the west had better get used to it!
who is roger anyway? white man/ china man - just one small voice - not worth thinking about.
Cute China Dolls Living in London
Friday, February 22, 2002 at 05:53:29 (PST)
hey telling in like it is,
man, i couldn't have said it better myself. i know 7 afwm couples and 5 of them are type 1, 2 are type 2. you really nailed the analysis. i also like the cutting wit. you will be pissing a lot of people off with the blunt truth, especially those afs out there with those stupid hyphenated names. i love it.
chinny chin-chin
chinnychinchin@hotmail.com
Thursday, February 21, 2002 at 22:45:48 (PST)
Telling it like it is,
there are many, many times of relationships. the two you've described applies to other couples besides AF/WM as well. around my campus i do see some AF/WM pairings who seem to look good together and really into each other for all the right reasons. sounds like somebody's just jealous or a "militant asian." ;)
villageidiot
Thursday, February 21, 2002 at 19:35:22 (PST)
You forgot to mention the "mail-order" bride phenomenon. A sizeable number of these AF/WM relationships are of this variety. Kinda pathetic situation for white male losers! Pay $thousands for someone who is stereotyped to be submissive.
Asian guys should stop being so paranoid about interracial dating. It's the white males who "buy" these china doll/geishas who should be embarassed and hide their heads in shame!
Responding to "Telling it like it is"
Thursday, February 21, 2002 at 18:44:23 (PST)
I think asian females in general are white man hungry.They would do anything just to be with an unattractive caucasian male ;so they could have the financial security they need.Asian males are more picky when it comes to picking out women. We often rid ourselves of the uglys and retain the pretty.That is the reason why so many asian women marry outside their race because most of them would not be able to marry within their race due to unsighthly looks.
asian stud
Thursday, February 21, 2002 at 17:26:59 (PST)
Telling it like it is,
heheh I read just like a little bit of it, and the part I read is really true!
In hongkong, we call those woman pork chops *ju pah* cause they are sooo nerdy looking, pig face, short, unattractive and so on. It's not like the beauties of china leave for caucasian ppl. It's more of.. cant find a asian man to marry cause asian men have higher standands.
pupu
Thursday, February 21, 2002 at 15:37:09 (PST)
To "telling it like it is"
Amen, finally someone states the obvious.
yesgenderdivideisreal
Thursday, February 21, 2002 at 15:28:45 (PST)
Telling it like it is,
You are a very perceptive guy. I don't think I can explain this "phenomenon" better than what you have said. I would like to add my 2 cents.
(1) There are also these AFWM couples where the WM is a complete loser. He's not a WM nerd, rather a WM who has no redeeming qualities except that he happens to be white. These WMs are lazy, over-drink, and live off their parents. He's the type that goes along with the "Asian fetish" because he can't get any decent WFs. He is unable to provide for the AF, but uses without any intentions of marrying her.
(2) Then there is the military couple. It is romanticized so many times in movies and theatres that these AFWM couples are accepted by society. The AF is totally dependent on her white hero that she doesn't care what atrocities the whites have done to her people.
I don't think Asian females realize the secret ridicule they put themselves in by dating/marrying these abnormal WMs. There are many times when I see butt ugly, nerdy, white guys with Asian females.
Here's another great point. I hear that many Asian females are hooking up with Jewish men in New York. This really confirms my theories about AFs. They are the most materialistic and greedy women on earth. AFs learn that Jewish men are wealthy, and bingo, AFs hunt for JMs. Not surprising, even though a great number of JMs are ugly.
Weary of AFs
Thursday, February 21, 2002 at 13:43:40 (PST)
Telling it like it is
What about sellout AMs? Their perspectives might provide some insight into the gender divide.
not a sellout
Thursday, February 21, 2002 at 12:06:22 (PST)
Telling it like it is:
You are SO FULL OF SHIT!
GO TO HELL AND DIE!!!
One Hot AF with one Hot WM
Thursday, February 21, 2002 at 11:59:00 (PST)
Telling it like it is,
Having looked around at my friends that are in interracial relationships. Both the highly educated WM and AF are butt ugly, what about this archtype.
Or the military WM who picks up an AF while stationed abroad. The Pretty Women, hooker into princess scenario.
AC Dropout
Thursday, February 21, 2002 at 11:19:52 (PST)
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