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ASIAN AMERICAN ISSUES
IS THE AA GENDER DIVIDE REAL?
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Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:38:55 AM)
sian American women are abandoning AA men by the millions. Young AA women seek out any race of men but their own. Women like Amy Tan write books and make movies that dump on AA men and glorify Asian women in relationships with white men.
That's the perception of many AA men.
On what do they blame this state of affairs? Brainwashing by media that play up white men while cutting Asian men off at the knees. Desire for payback by AA women who feel slighted by their families and Asian society. Large numbers of non-Asian men with blind fetishes for Asian women. Some even acknowledge that Asian men are often too fixed in their ideas of how a woman should look and behave, causing many AF to feel devalued.
Other Asian Americans see AF outmarriage rates as merely a natural state of affairs for a 4% minority population that includes many recent immigrants. The outmarriage gender gap will narrow as growing Asian population centers provide ready access to bigger pools of singles. Besides outmarriage is't the same as rejecting one's racial identity, they argue. Many AF who outmarry retain strong identification with their Asian identity.
Is there really an Asian American gender divide? Is so, what's behind it? If not, what's behind the perception?
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FOP,
In the land of milk and honey, we admire capitalism and social bliss. If you haven't noticed already the US is quite an individualistic society and unlike FOBS we like to hang out with other races (yeah, white people in general) and therefore we have assimilated into American culture. Simple as that, if you start hanging out with "other" people you may learn a thing or two about "Americanized Asians". We may look the same, but we sure hell don't act the same.
Gregory-the Saint
ohhhhweee@hotmail.com
Tuesday, March 12, 2002 at 20:29:48 (PST)
Honestly, having grown up in a town with a very large technical university, among other things, I'd have to say that the stereotype that prevailed in my childhood was that non-american-born Asian men were the nerds (came to study), whereas American-born Asians weren't really seen as nerdy at all. I don't agree with either stereotype any more than I agree with any other stereotype, but I thought I'd mention it. These things vary so much from place to place...I'm sure that people in the midwest, etc., have a very different experience of these issues that people from big cities or college towns.
Ahankara
Tuesday, March 12, 2002 at 19:43:09 (PST)
ac dropout:
is there more than 1 person who goes by your name, because I could have sworn that you or some other ac dropout said he was in his 40s and married. I am glad that 33 yr old father of two has seen this post too!
shame on you old man! haha! not that yer really all that old, but come on... you already said it before, so don't go trying to take it back now ... hehheh!
chicky poo
Tuesday, March 12, 2002 at 16:14:12 (PST)
AC Dropout
"boogie-down...was a term I used in the "Boogie Down Bronx" a while back about abortion post. Maybe you're not a native NYC an not notice the revival of some aspects of 70s pop culture. But the new eubonic term for the Bronx is the "Boogie Down Bronx" within the Latino community in NYC...But I heard it from one of my employees..."
Seventies revival or not, Latinos have their own idioms and don't borrow phrases like "boogie-down" from the seventies. They're inspired by today's latino music and culture. Nostalgia revival takes the best, not the worst, of the seventies and puts today's own spin on it. Words from the past are usually not revived for common or faddish usage especially by creative and innovative minorities. People wouldn't be caught dead using that word unless they want to be laughed at. Your employee must be in his forties too. Oh yeah, "eubonics" came to national attention in the seventies. I looked that up on the internet. Your repeated references to seventies terms and events are not coincidence.
Jan7 Is Hollywood undermining Chow Yun Fat
"Jackie Chan will not change the style of acting he has been doing [since the 70s.] He basically filled Bruce Lee vacuum in HK."
You're very familiar with people and events in the seventies. They crop up in many of your posts.
Dec18 Coming shifts in the Pacific Power balance
"I don't have answers to people and relationships. I use to think IR was basically not good. [But as I got married, had kids, and gain more experience in life.] And my new view is an individual base. People need to feel happy in life. If it mean they need to be in an IR relationship, that's that. Not every asian can have a healthy relationship with another asian."
You're very experienced for a 29 yr old. Generally, most AMs in their twenties are in various stages of establishing careers and dating. You're only deluding yourself when you say you're a tad under 29. But your experiences cannot be disputed.
Mar6 Men's First date
"I thought you were in your forties for some reason."
Other people thought the same way. YOu sound older, that's all there is to it.
The evidence: Familiarity with seventies shows and events, research during Pres. Ford's term, married with multiple children, life experiences. If you insist, I accept that you're younger than 29 but I know you're forty plus.
33 yr. old father of two
Tuesday, March 12, 2002 at 13:31:30 (PST)
33 yr. old father of two,
You know I have a proposition if your ballsie enough to take it. If I'm over 30 calendar years old as of this post I will double your net worth. If I'm under 30 calendar years old as of this post, I take everything you own.
House, 401K, IRA, cars, kids education funds, clothes, funiture, life insurance. Every material asset you have and also 50% of any joint assets.
This would be the dumbest way I've ever bankrupted a person/company. But it will also be the easiest.
HAHAHAHA
AC Dropout
Tuesday, March 12, 2002 at 11:57:25 (PST)
33 yr. old father of two,
"Most kids study after school, not glued to the set for hours."
Sucks to be stupid. Just like some kids can touch rim at 6th grade. Some kids find formal education to be quite intuitive.
AC Dropout
Tuesday, March 12, 2002 at 11:24:30 (PST)
33 yr. old father of two,
Where is Pres Ford Library? All presidents build one after their term is up and store all their non-sensitive documents in there from their term. Where did Pres Ford go for his undergrad? I left enough hints so that you can cyber sleuth. So sometime in the mid 90's I read socialogical research of a president that came to office around the time of my birth. Yes, you too can read papers of long ago presidents if you choose. And your child can also go in and read stuff.
I can't believe this a front page topic on Goldsea.
I'm flattered you might think from my posting that I'm 1.5x my actual age. Actually I was born later than 1972. Ford came into presidency after my birth. In the process of researching ran across that article by accident while I was there.
"Boogie" - I guess pickup terms in "Boogie Nights" or "that 70's show" is a no-no for you.
I can also use "represent," "step," "dis," "static," "bugging," "sweat," "frontin'," "school." in proper black eubonic systex. Doesn't mean I'm 18 and black either.
Intresting method of trying to discredit me. But, Daddy-o you're a [].
AC Dropout
Tuesday, March 12, 2002 at 10:55:28 (PST)
[We thought the topic merited a front-page link because you have been one of our wittiest, most colorful and most informative posters! No doubt many are curious about your background and rich life experiences. --Ed]
AC Dropout and 33yof sound like Roger and whomever in a silly fight!!!
Reader
Tuesday, March 12, 2002 at 09:27:50 (PST)
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