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ASIAN AMERICAN ISSUES
IS THE AA GENDER DIVIDE REAL?
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Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:38:55 AM)
sian American women are abandoning AA men by the millions. Young AA women seek out any race of men but their own. Women like Amy Tan write books and make movies that dump on AA men and glorify Asian women in relationships with white men.
That's the perception of many AA men.
On what do they blame this state of affairs? Brainwashing by media that play up white men while cutting Asian men off at the knees. Desire for payback by AA women who feel slighted by their families and Asian society. Large numbers of non-Asian men with blind fetishes for Asian women. Some even acknowledge that Asian men are often too fixed in their ideas of how a woman should look and behave, causing many AF to feel devalued.
Other Asian Americans see AF outmarriage rates as merely a natural state of affairs for a 4% minority population that includes many recent immigrants. The outmarriage gender gap will narrow as growing Asian population centers provide ready access to bigger pools of singles. Besides outmarriage isn't the same as rejecting one's racial identity, they argue. Many AF who outmarry retain strong identification with their Asian identity.
Is there really an Asian American gender divide? Is so, what's behind it? If not, what's behind the perception?
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Political Observer
I truly sympathise with you as I too feel sad when I see so many attractive AF hanging on the arms on ugly WM. I want to yell out to them that they are missing out. I think AM have a lot of sex appeal. They usually have good skin, great hair and a lot of them have excellent dress sense. They usually don't have BO or a lot of hair. These are very attractive traits missing in a lot of WM. But I think things are changing, and the perception of AM as major HOTTIE will surely come.
Justagirl
Sunday, August 25, 2002 at 03:51:35 (PDT)
B. Lee,
You have pretty good points, but I wonder where you find so many asian women like that. I grew up being the only asian kid in town, but when I went to college many of the asian girls I met where pretty stuck up and materialistic. It was easier for me to hit on a hot WF than a gorgeous AF. There were some nice asian girls but I'd say that about 70% of the girls I met had this attitude.
just wondering
Saturday, August 24, 2002 at 16:19:14 (PDT)
Deng Ai:
"The next time I use the Black Playa technique to pick up a white girl, I'll credit it to you! :)"
You deserve a trip to the circus.
There's no way you're getting laid with that attitude unless it's with someone who thinks like you. That's not a compliment because it's probably not even worth it - no sense of fulfillment you know :)
There is no black way to pick up an attractive, intelligent female. There's only a gentleman's way. The exact same approach works for black, Asian, white and Hispanics guys. It's all about respect, dialogue, physical attractiveness and courage to take a chance.
Yea, you can walk around a woman while grabbing your nuts and talking about all your ho's, but what respectable lady is going to talk to you for more than 2 minutes? Not many.
I've dated ladies of all races in different age groups. It's interesting to see just how much women are really the same regardless of race.
Political Observer:
"...so she doesn't bring all her relatives into my house."
What if she brings them over in installments? That way it's not too much of a culture shock...just kidding!
Geoff DB
GeoffDB02@aol.com
Friday, August 23, 2002 at 23:38:18 (PDT)
Deng Ai:
Funny that you should always bag on sell-out AF's when that group AND YOU share one thing:
You both like sniffing the Whites's ass.
Look in the mirror, fool
Friday, August 23, 2002 at 20:44:38 (PDT)
"To disagree is to have a diversity of opinions.. no?"
Deng Ai, I agree with your above statement -- after all, life would be pretty dull if everyone thought the same way or if we only hung out with people who thought like us.
What I take issue with are the posters who personally attack other posters and tell them they shouldn't even be visiting this site. I don't agree with a lot of the opinions I read, but I want to read them anyway.
Northwest Girl
Friday, August 23, 2002 at 19:00:16 (PDT)
[Hey, Northwest "Girl": Why not just post under one ID instead of using 2 or 3 to repeat the same points? It just forces us to delete the extraneous ones. Better yet, why not simply ID yourself for your true gender and race? Let us rephrase that: Git, schmuck. Save us all a lot of time. ;) --Ed]
"What is your point? Are you saying that all AM's are cheaters, gamblers, mysonginists, and unemotional toward
AF's? I would like to know."
My point was, these are some of the reasons I hear from AF's that don't date AM's. They're not my viewpoint. Being an AM myself, I would never remotely classify myself as such.
However, some Af's had bad experiences with AM's and somehow assumes this is true with the AM's enmasse.
NotConfusedAsianDude
Friday, August 23, 2002 at 15:02:58 (PDT)
"I met asian men that gone to Europe and south america and said that the women there are more open....."
When we think of Europe, metropolises such as London or Paris come to our minds. Yes, people there are relatively open. However, rural Europe is just as rednecky as the America's South
FOP
Friday, August 23, 2002 at 13:39:40 (PDT)
Deng Ai,
I noticed you said "AF's who are open to dating AM". That sounds kind of strange, shouldn't AF's naturally be open to dating AM (one woudl think anyway)? What do you say?
AC,
If I were planning on dating an entire student body, it sure as heck wouldn't be the AF group. Imagine the maintenance costs? They'd be staggering. By the way, I'm arguing here because my brother, not me, likes AF. I'm just pointing out what I see as an injustice by the fairer sex. Also, my bro is currently dating a Korean girl incase you think he's the sort who can't get a date.
Chinese marrying Vietnamese isn't really outmarrying. Are you saying my English/German friend's parents were in an IR marriage?
huu76
Friday, August 23, 2002 at 13:15:28 (PDT)
Korean/American Pride,
"In LA, I can go days without even interacting with a white person. In NYC, you can't do that."
I disagree, not counting my white employees, I can go for months before need to interact with a white guy.
But the Chinese community is slightly larger than the Korean community here. But I'm sure if you try really hard at total self segregation it is possible. I don't know why someone would want to do that. But its not hard to do.
AC Dropout
Friday, August 23, 2002 at 12:49:23 (PDT)
Deng Ai,
I just disagree. For every white washed AF there is a white washed AM. So it balances out, despite what the statics say. Anyway what if an AM doesn't want to get married. I see that trend among my friends as well.
I don't know many individual AM that think of this as a dilema.
AC Dropout
Friday, August 23, 2002 at 12:46:59 (PDT)
Jake wrote:
"But I digress. Can you tell me what you were trying to say in your reply?"
I was saying you are hip and the life of the party.
Deng Ai
Friday, August 23, 2002 at 11:30:35 (PDT)
Deng Ai, you said
"Isn't the point of dating to test the waters, so to say? To see how things will work out? I'd agree with you if someone married another person just to see what it felt like."
I do agree with you that dating various people (not only varying races, but attitudes, looks, temperaments) is testing the waters, it helps you to figure out what you do and don't like in a potential mate. I think it's fine if it's a casual relationship, but what if it were a really long-term, commited relationship? I just don't think it's right to lead someone on for years and then drop them because you were just dating them to see what it felt like. Just my thoughts.
curious girl
Friday, August 23, 2002 at 11:29:12 (PDT)
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