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ASIAN AMERICAN ISSUES
AA ATTITUDES TOWARD EXTRAMARITAL FLINGS
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Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 06:03:53 PM)
bought 50% of American marriages end in divorce. An Asian American couple is only half as likely to suffer that fate. Theories abound to explain this marked difference. Asians are simply more committed to keeping the family together at all cost, goes the prevailing theory.
Others point to the fact that cheating plays a key role in the majority of American divorces and attribute the durability of AA unions to differing attitudes toward extramarital liaisons. Asian men may be less likely to cheat, say some. Asian women are less likely to see their mate's sexual fidelity as the litmus test for staying together, others argue, because they don't consider the sexual bond to be at the center of the relationship and aren't as threatened by a fling. After all, in traditional Asian societies affluent men sometimes had multiple wives and/or concubines. Even in modern Asian societies male executives are often expected to cavort with paid hostesses as part of routine business entertaining.
Younger Asian Americans would probably deny they harbor such sexist notions. The only difference between themselves and other American couples, they might argue, is that they typically marry later, avoiding the tribulations of impulsive youthful marriages. Otherwise, they harbor all the same gender-neutral expectations of romantic love and fidelity.
What attitudes do Asian Americans have toward extramarital flings? What role do they play in the durability of Asian marriages?
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AM 32 is a 32yr old WhoreMAN,
Your post doesnt even solicit a response. What is this gradeschool? Just read your tag. Whatever.
Geoff,
You're right, it could also happen to me. It could happen to you. Heck, Hugh Grant cheated on Elizabeth Hurley. What a moron! Sometimes, even if a man or woman tries his best to be a good wife/husband, thing can go wrong. Maybe the wife is under a lot of stress and takes it out on the man. Now instead of being a good husband, he seeks solace in his sister's girlfriend because he is under stress too and can't handle his wife's problems. There are so many factors. For example, I could be a faithful husband, and my future wife could cheat on me because she feels insecure about her own desirability as she ages or puts on a few pounds. I could be a perfect husband, and she could simply leave me because she found someone better. I dunno. I probably would never talk to her if she cheated on me and I would fight to get sole custody of the kids, but you know what? I WILL MOVE ON. I'm not sure if my flins will fess up to her man or not. Maybe she'll sweep things under the rug. Maybe she'll breakunderthe guilt and confess. That would land me in some hot water, but I think that her husband brought it upon himself. Things that involve human egoes are very delcate issues, and they are even more complicated. I believe that things in love and life happen sometimes for no apparent rhyme or reason. You just have to take the lumps that Life gives and ride with the waves.
None of you can make me feel any guilt with stupid insults. I look out for number one, and since I don't have my own family, that is ME. Is that selfish? I guess so. But I never asked to be Mother Theresa, so there.
AM 32
Thursday, September 05, 2002 at 13:53:40 (PDT)
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AM, 32:
That is going to catch up with you sooner or later.
One day you're going to find the Asian woman of your dreams and you're going to be living in bliss. But, then...a company party or social function will bring an opportunity for a white guy to make eyes with your attractive AF wife. The two of them will get into a casual conversation and they'll discover they have some things in common. I'll bet the conversation take place right in your presence, but you'll have to sit there with your cake and coffee and listen to the two of them. You might even want to lead her away, but she'll nudge you and say "stop, leave me alone. Chad and I are talking".
Before you know it the white guy will start meeting your wife secretly to spank that fine smooth Asian ass and you'll walk in on them in the heat of the night. Did you ever see the movie "One Night Stand"? Yep!
You're gonna be so pissed, but you'll remember what you did and will have to stand there and deal with it. Hopefully, the white guy will be short so you can kick his ass. If he's taller, oh well!
What goes around, comes around.
Geoff DB
GeoffDB02@aol.com
Wednesday, September 04, 2002 at 22:16:25 (PDT)
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AM 32,
You are a whoreman. dont try to make a double standard here. you took part in the sin. therefore, you and her are both whores! both of you! i don't care how single you are. you are wrong. i don't care if she is a white female, or if she is a blue or green female and the sex was sweet. it is still a wrong act. just because she is the married one, you still splept with the whore. so, what does that make you? a whoreman. because that is what you are. so face it you piece of scummy adulterating filth.
AM 32 is a 32yr old WhoreMAN
Tuesday, September 03, 2002 at 15:14:51 (PDT)
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