ASIAN AMERICAN ISSUES
AA MEN SEEK OUT NON-ASIAN WOMEN
sian women are only interested in non-Asian men and don't give Asian men the time of day. That's the reason cited by many AA men for dating and marrying non-Asians. A minority of AA men say they simply find non-Asian women more physically attractive or more appealing in terms of personality, values and interests.
Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:02:24 PM)
Whatever the reasons, the rates at which young Asian men are dating and marrying non-Asian women are quickly approaching the rates at which Asian women are outdating and outmarrying (about 38%). Some Asian women are complaining that they aren't getting a fair shake because Asian men have been brainwashed by media standards of desirability.
The new pairing?
What are the real reasons for so many Asian men seeking out non-Asian women? How do Asian women really feel about this trend? Who benefits most from it? Will the trend continue? We want to hear your views.
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Some funny things that I ve observed since I came to the US. Want to share some good laughs with you.
Interracial scenarios in the US:
For white men: Interracial relationships mean dating mostly black women. Dating Asian women is not considered interracial since white men consider asian women white (however asian men are still considered asian by white men), or it is an acceptable interracial relationship.
For white women: No interracial relationships are acceptable in white men's eyes. White women are expected to date white men only.
For Asian women: Love is color blind. Oh well...Black men, hispanic men, indian men or non-white men, don't really take it literally. We only date white men. You guys have better odds with other women.
For Asian men: Need to convince their sisters first that they are just as attractive as white men, even though there are thousands of non-Asian women waiting for them to make their first moves.
For Black men: Interracial relationships mean dating mostly blonde white women of Anglo/Nordic ancestry. If they can't get any, they will try brunettes, then redheads, then Latin women of European ancestry, then Hispanic women, and finally Asian women.
For Black women: Interracial relationships mean dating mostly white men, but they don't have time for that b/c they are busy keeping blonde-chasing black men from running over them.
For Hispanic men: They are already mixed with all kinds of blood. Any relationships are interracial.
For Hispanic women: see above.
Thursday, January 02, 2003 at 17:15:42 (PST)
I never said you did. How dare I what?
Tuesday, December 31, 2002 at 00:27:12 (PST)
"So the question is: do you want a woman who appreciates being treated well, or do you want a woman who needs to be treated poorly?"
NONE. I want a woman would treat ME well. It's not about treating women poorly it's about being a charming, interesting, and challenging man. I never said you should treat women poorly. How dare you?
Thursday, December 26, 2002 at 12:24:19 (PST)
You say AMs don't like this n that and that they're alll full of crap. That they only like either WF or AF? Well sorry to disappoint you but I am an exception to your little rule. It's funny how people claim that AMs whining is a turn off. In your case I find your whining will get you instant results. Put your money where your mouth is.
Interested AM Calbotix @yahoo.com
Thursday, December 26, 2002 at 11:31:32 (PST)
I think PErsian women and other middle Eastern women are FINE. I especially like their deep set, dark eyes and high-bridged noses. Very sultry, sexy. they are also more feminine than white women in their ways.
Don't Worry, be happy =)
Wednesday, December 25, 2002 at 19:07:43 (PST)
"I also personally know plenty Saudi women who are also very attractive too. They like AM and we have discussed the way most AM close themselves off...
For one thing white women are the only women around who are in abundance. If I knew that Saudi women liked me, I'd ask them out in a second. That is if I could ever see one with my own eyes. Just where are you girls anyway and how can we meet you? You talk like you guys are all over the place but I don't think I've ever seen one in my entire life. So what's the answer?
Dying to meet you
Tuesday, December 24, 2002 at 19:52:54 (PST)
Whatever: Some interesting thoughts there. Iím hoping the Bin Laden comment from the AM was a nervous attempt to make conversation with you but obviously, itís idiotic no matter how you look at it. I donít think that AMís will typically rule out non-white females that arenít European but I think it adds one more hurdle. Iím a first generation born in the US Asian male and feel Iíve got a foot in both worlds. My kids will probably be more Americanized than me and their kids will be, more than likely, totally Americanized. By default, most ethnic minority groups will move in that direction over time in the US. In general, I think a woman I would have most in common with, would be another first generation person; whether they were from Europe, Asia, Latin America, the Middle East or what have you. I would have concerns about anyone who was born in another country and had really strong ties to their ethnicity (which is natural) because they might feel more comfortable within their own ethnicity. And obviously, you would need to blend in your two ethnicities as a couple. Given the general evolution of any ethnic minority to becoming ďAmericanĒ (and Iím not saying thatís a good thing!), it may seem easier to myself and some others to date in that direction. And in the US, that typically means European white.
Now please donít get me wrong, Iím just trying to air out some possibilities. When living in New England, my idea of female beauty was Irish women and Italian women because thatís what happened to be around me. I personally am very sweet on Italian women, I love the dark hair, dark eyes, dark skin and shorter stature most Italian women seem to have and also appreciate the food and Italian culture. Since moving to California, Iíve had an opportunity to see and meet a lot more women of all different ethnicities and have seen some beautiful Filipino, Vietnamese, East Indian and Latina women, in addition to the stereotypical California blonde. The gals that attract my attention all tend to fall into the dark hair, dark eyes, dark skin look that appeals to me. I believe another hurdle may be that, as ethnic minorities, we may be a bit more subdued/lower profile than your typical American person (most people in the world are!) so it becomes more difficult to attract each other.
So in general, I think an AM/non-AF, non-WF relationship would just be a little trickier and would take more work to initiate and sustain. I doubt that AMís find women who are not Asian or White to be unattractive by default. We are no different than any men in that respect. If sheís attractive, bright, has a good heart and weíre hot for each other, go for it! But due to my own ethnicity, I certainly am aware of the additional hurdles that would need to be surmounted for a relationship like that to work out. I recently have noticed one CNN newscaster that literally took my breath away. Was flipping through the channels and I had to stop and watch her for some time, her name is Rudi Bakhtiar. (See below) Hereís a beautiful, intelligent woman who happens to be Iranian. Trust me, any AM, BM, LM or WM would be thrilled and extremely lucky to attract a woman like that...
Ronbo (Bay Area) firstname.lastname@example.org
Tuesday, December 24, 2002 at 17:46:29 (PST)
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