AA MEN SEEK OUT NON-ASIAN WOMEN
(Updated )

sian women are only interested in non-Asian men and don't give Asian men the time of day. That's the reason cited by many AA men for dating and marrying non-Asians. A minority of AA men say they simply find non-Asian women more physically attractive or more appealing in terms of personality, values and interests. Whatever the reasons, the rates at which young Asian men are dating and marrying non-Asian women are quickly approaching the rates at which Asian women are outdating and outmarrying (about 38%). Some Asian women are complaining that they aren't getting a fair shake because Asian men have been brainwashed by media standards of desirability.
     What are the real reasons for so many Asian men seeking out non-Asian women? How do Asian women really feel about this trend? Who benefits most from it? Will the trend continue? We want to hear your views.
I don't mind interracial couples so long as they look balanced. I know what your gonna say.."How Shallow"...but honestly ask yourself; when you see a hot women with a dorky guy don't they make you wonder...or visa versa? Usually when they are the same race and the guys ugly I think "Money" and when the girl is ugly I think "She must toss a mean salad and hoover like a pro". But when I see some fine Asian women date the most incredibly dorky non-Asian guy I think "low self esteem". Then I'll see a pretty good looking non-Asian guy dating a nasty dog lookin Asian girl and I think "yellow fever has caused some blindness". When its a good lookin Asian guy with a dog white women again i think "low self esteem" and when the women is hot and the Asian guy is ugly i think "money". All the interracial couples out there want to convince you that its all about inner beauty and true love or some other horseshit. Those inner beauty people are rare at best. The fact is that these perceptions will never ever change...so live with it you interracial daters...the masses of humanity will never celebrate your love especially when you don't look balanced. Rather they will sum up your situation as either: money, low self esteem, yellow fever blindness and hoover pro salad tosser.
10 ton Moon Cake    Thursday, October 04, 2001 at 17:20:23 (PDT)
To ABC,

I suggest that you go with the white chick. Show that japanese girl that you don't have the time for those yellow uncle toms.
FOP    Thursday, September 27, 2001 at 02:52:43 (PDT)
Luk's post to energy trader struck a cord. Here at my college campus truly I am impressed. How can those lame mangy goofy, dorky looking fat white dudes get with those Japanese exchange students. It is so sad, but possibly also a reflection of Japanese culture which is weak, misogynist and produces inferior men. Seems like a stereotype that holds true. However American born Asians can hold their own and our democratic way of life is a great gift. Still, what on earth do those attractive stylish girls see in those obvious losers who suddenly won the lottery in the dating game? These jap chicks think white is better and even settle for ugly ass ones. sad. I should now go and educate that fine looking japanese girl in my yoga class what a pretty boy ABC can do before she succumbs to misguided white fantasy. She's been giving the right signals so far. ;) Hell that cute white girl's been looking my way also.
ABC    Wednesday, September 19, 2001 at 23:44:49 (PDT)
Personally I think there are alot of issues at play here. First off is the way Asian males and females are portrayed in the American society. Asian males are portrayed as shy, single guys who are martial artists. examples of this are Pat Morita, Jackie Chan, and Jet Li.
Secondly is Asian females are protrayed as quiet and submissive, that is why you see alot of them portrayed as prostitutes in movies.
Another issue I think is the homogenous traits of Asians' as opposed to Americans. I mean all Asians basically look alike.
So I think this whole issue is about Asian American men trying to blend in with another culture. Asian women remind them they are different. American women present a way for Asian men to fit into the American society. They may also find them more intriguing because they do not all have dark hair and eyes.
Lastly I feel the bottom line is how long the Asian male has been in America. Was he born and raised in the US or was he born in Asia and brought over as a child or adult? This certainly will determine how much the American culture influences him.
Zooger dmaday7@yahoo.com    Thursday, September 13, 2001 at 09:28:43 (PDT)
I don't think so -- i think that there is some truth to a lot of Asian women, especially those that are born here, to date caucasian men first before they'd consider a guy of Asian descent.

The reason why Asian men went for other non-Asian women is purely statistics: Newsweek i believe last year did an article on interracial marriages and found that about 60-70% of all US born Asian females wed OUTSIDE of their race, while only about 20-25% of US born Asian men did the same. If that isn't a disparity i don't know what is. Thus, Asian men have no choice BUT to date outside of their race. I don't know, i think that's a good thing actually. But the growing trend is that more and more interracial couples are of the AM/WF types, rather than the other way around. AM/WF couples face a lot more, um, "unwanted attention" from bigots, etc. than the other way around. I don't think we do this because we want to.

AM in Austin typerviolin@hotmail.com    Wednesday, September 05, 2001 at 00:27:38 (PDT)
As for me, i f*** whoever. Counting, i mostly sleep with white girls. Why? well theyre more liberated to sex. Asian girls on the other hand, you have to buy them something precious before they start humping you. Asian women are just gold diggers.
i love white p***y    Wednesday, August 22, 2001 at 01:29:48 (PDT)
What I find with lots of AA [male or female] or CA { canadian-asians } is their weakness vis-a-vis what ever peer group they may or may not belong to dictating their choices. For me it's about what attracts me in a female,regardless if she is asian or non-asian. And this recent "concern" with asian women dating or perfering caucasian men is just bs from my perception. I believe this "resentment"stems from certain asian men feeling inferior. For me I don't give a s--t, it doesnt concern or impact my choices or my ability to aquire a female of my desires. This "trend" is not some social problem but a natural progression of living in a multi-cultural society. Personally, I think it's great to have the variety of females available to me. I have dated black{african-american] ,arab and presently a very hot and loving latina{to whom I am engaged to}.In a nutshell what I am trying to say is the age old cliche" love defies boundaries". Peace...out.
latina loving korean hombre    Monday, August 20, 2001 at 23:06:50 (PDT)
well, dammit, all these asian women be dating white guys, so they can feel more enculturated themselves, so we got no choice. Besides, asian women seem to be in general very vain and self centered; white chicks are more easy going.
Angry Asian polo6@hotmail.com    Tuesday, August 14, 2001 at 15:39:58 (PDT)
i recently went to an acquaintance's birthday party. There were about ten couples among the party goers. About half of the couples were asian guys with white girls. i thought the asians guys were attractive but the white girls, on the other hand, were almost skanky-looking. it's disheartening to see something like that. It makes me wonder what goes through those guys mind.
blame it on social conditioning    Tuesday, August 14, 2001 at 10:44:33 (PDT)
Asian Women's sickness:

While I was in college, I've seen so many Asian girls practically throw themselves at some white guy/non-asian guy, mostly white. I see this still years after I've left the university. White men have told me how easy it is to data an Asian female or 2.

The fact I find funny is this. If you see White girls behave the way these Asian girls behaved, they'd be labeled SLUTS!! The only reason, they're not being labeled outright "tramps", in my opinion is that their hit rates, are actually much lower than that of a white female behaving the same way. Yet these Asian women are being liberated somehow, in their own minds. Liberated from what? Asian men?

As a man, I just wish to state something. Men are dogs (all men), and go for anythign easy. Make yourself available and someone will take advantage. It doesnt mean you're hot! I'd had friends actively seek out UGLY girls (b/c they're easy). I've bedded many girls I have no intention of ever marrying or even having a relationship with. And I'm an Asian man; supposedly much more meeker right. :-)


Asians: Lets help ourselves.    Monday, August 13, 2001 at 12:36:05 (PDT)
Orientals born outside Asia have the best of both Worlds. There is no reason why we should stick to our own race, or even go against our own race. We all stero type each other, and even before we are allowed time to express our individuality, we are already labelled. My brother has recently married a half Oriental/European but she is more European in personality. Whilst my friend has married an Australian who seems more Oriental than she is. What I'm trying to say is that we should not critisize our backgrounds and race, but just to except it. At the end of the day, you should date whoever you fancy or love.
Molly    Monday, August 13, 2001 at 05:47:57 (PDT)
DC,

Who says I blame anyone? There are too many AM who have experienced the idiotic behaviour and attitudes that some AF have for men of their own race. IF that bothers you, then that's your problem. My only argument is for AM not to limit themselves and automatically count out non Asian women.

AS for all asian women who date white guys are ugly, no. Just most of them from what I've seen. NO great loss for the most part. If they are going out with crackers cause they really like or love them, fine. Don't really care about those cases. But it's also clear that many date WM for less than positive reasons.

The fact is many AF act as if being some white guys sex toy is some great thing. Sorry, but if that's isn't obvious to you then get your head out of your backside and take a gander, unless your one of those self-righteous whities seeking to "rescue" poor, prosecuted minority women from their virginity. If you're one of those AF who dates a WM because of honest love, fine. But if you do it because you despise your own, then good riddence douche bag.

Why don't you try reading the post fully before coming to any conclusions about your "superior" maturity level, skippy.




Asian Hauptmann    Sunday, August 12, 2001 at 22:32:33 (PDT)
You can't really hold back an Asian brother nowadays if he is intent on marrying out the race. It is only common sense. There are just so few Asian girls for him to find around that are not taken by other races men. Many Asian guys I know have been just too fed up with Asian girl's consistently going out and marrying anyone beside her own. I really think it helps the Asian man psychologically by dating other races women as well. It is not to even the score. But, life is all about mating and reproducing. We lose the game by just sitting around and dying out (with no game and no kids). It is common sense.
It is pathetic to be AM in USA    Saturday, August 11, 2001 at 12:42:11 (PDT)
I the summary paragraph sums it up pretty good. i have heard many asian woman talk disparagingly about asian men and i whole-heartedly think asian men should date and marry other races. not just white woman, but black and latino as well. i know asian men who only desire to be with asian women and constantly get shunned and are consequently alone and dateless much of the time. well, the answer for them is to go after other races of women.
ck    Saturday, August 11, 2001 at 12:41:19 (PDT)
energytrader,

I think your assertions apply more to females of your own group. The intermarriage figure rates speak for itself. I have see lots of foreign exchange students (both Chinese and Japanese). The Japanese female foreign students practically sleeps with any available white, Latino or black guy on campus. The Chinese ones still hang out with their own. There's more......
Luk    Friday, August 10, 2001 at 22:13:41 (PDT)
Asian Hauptmann wrote:
"Perhaps Asian men are getting sick and tired of waiting for some Asian women to grow up and stop acting as if being some cracker's porno-dream-come-true is something to be flattered over and arrogantly pat themselves on the back for it. "

Keep blaming others...and you'll always be alone.

What's next? All Asian women who date white guys are ugly?

The immaturity of your's and other posts on this topic are amazing.
DC    Wednesday, July 25, 2001 at 16:05:43 (PDT)

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