AA MEN SEEK OUT NON-ASIAN WOMEN
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sian women are only interested in non-Asian men and don't give Asian men the time of day. That's the reason cited by many AA men for dating and marrying non-Asians. A minority of AA men say they simply find non-Asian women more physically attractive or more appealing in terms of personality, values and interests. Whatever the reasons, the rates at which young Asian men are dating and marrying non-Asian women are quickly approaching the rates at which Asian women are outdating and outmarrying (about 38%). Some Asian women are complaining that they aren't getting a fair shake because Asian men have been brainwashed by media standards of desirability.
     What are the real reasons for so many Asian men seeking out non-Asian women? How do Asian women really feel about this trend? Who benefits most from it? Will the trend continue? We want to hear your views.
I love to date outside my race. I am especially attracted to white and hispanic women, and I don't give a damn what Asian women speak. I am not particulary tall or muscular, but I have a handsome face and dress extremely well. Many non-Asian girls have told me this, and I am hit on often. Besides, I have little sympathy for Asian women who complain that they're losing their men. They've been doing it for years themselves. The last Asian girl I dated was in Junior high, then I was 13.
Asian Slick    Sunday, November 04, 2001 at 12:48:14 (PST)
You guys are cracked! Damned if I do and Damned if I don't. As an AM I feel this is what is tearing up the world. AF who date WM/AM who date WF exclusively are obviously insecure. Asian females and males who date exclusively outside of their race have severe psychological problems. This is the same for all those who date exclusively in their race also. This problem of race is going to destroy the human race. I am sick and tired of hearing what AM should act like and should do. It's obviously in this country that WM are in control, so what else is new? I've traveled to Asia and guess AM are in control over there! True open minded people are rare in this world and if you happen to find that other person then fight with all your heart and life to keep her/him. But if you're with your partner just because of their race then you have more problems than you think. Nuff said...I've vented and now I feel better...lol

AZN Outlaw    Thursday, November 01, 2001 at 06:25:38 (PST)
Try Washington DC 10 ton cake. Keep your blatant ignorance and self loathing to yourself.

Killer Bee    Wednesday, October 17, 2001 at 18:07:36 (PDT)
Hispanic Blue Syndrome????

whats that??
??    Wednesday, October 17, 2001 at 16:44:01 (PDT)
AMs date outside their race for all the same reasons why AFs date non Asians: social status, western perception of desirabilty, and just plain accessibility.
I think AMs were just a little slower than our asian sisters in getting accepted into the "desirable" dating pool. No doubt AFs were helped a little by media exoticism and what not, but they have also done well in establishing their value in the western world. Just look at how many more asian female celebrities there are out there. They are more visible and hence desirable.

However, I think the time for AMs have come (or at least will come). Walking around in NYC, I see an increasing number of AMs with HOTTIES of all races (and some not quite hot ones, but you do what you gotto do, right?). Increasingly AMs are being viewed more as potential mates, rather than ethnic wallpaper. As the number of AM/non AF couples start sprouting, people (specifically women) will start getting into their thick skulls that the AM is a quite a savory piece of meat. Even AFs will appreciate AMs more as competition heats up.

However AMs still have a long way to go. If you're an AM, do the rest of your brothers a favor and do what it takes to be a stud. Join a gym, get contact lenses, start taking your career serioulsy, whatever. For the blessed ones, take up careers that enhance AM visibility - pack your bags for hollywood, go for NBA tryouts, become a porn star (if you have the credentials), etc. As time goes by, and if Jet Li starts making decent hollywood fims, AMs might reach the same levels of infamy as AFs.

B.A.    Wednesday, October 17, 2001 at 14:42:08 (PDT)
I think that AF have the right to date whomever they want because a relationship is very much a personal decision, and we should honor this.

However, it is simply when I see AF ignore other asian guys altogether, simply because of their background, that I feel disheartened, because the feeling of repect and admiration that AM have for AF is not reciprocated or mutual. It is like a culture being torn apart.

Is this the result of some catastrophic failure by the asian man? I don't think so, but we must also make an assertive effort on our part. To all the AM out there, be strong, yet compassionate, temper intelligence with wisdom as well and not only AF, but all people will come to see the beauty of your nature and strength of character.

Taiwan FOB    Wednesday, October 17, 2001 at 12:16:45 (PDT)
So sorry to shock everyone's delicate sensibilities with my painful analysis on how certain couplings are percieved. I guess you don't here my kind of insensitive opinions way up on Waldon's Mountain or Dawson's Creek or where ever the hell you people live...
10 ton Moon Cake    Tuesday, October 16, 2001 at 17:36:48 (PDT)
Old Glory:

I agree with you. I date a white women simply because she is very nice to me, makes me feel important, and is aggressive. I don't bother analyzing it to death. People like 10 ton Moon Cake are just losers who have too much time on their hands.

Also, I'm not a sellout either. I don't bash Asian women just to justify dating a white woman. Some of my best friends are Asian women and are very good to me. It just happened that the white woman I'm dating is aggressive enough to show interest in me.

A little advice to Asian women: When you are interested in an Asian guy, just be more aggressive in showing interest. At the risk of sounding boastful, in my lifetime, I've had white women, black women and latinas compliment and flirt with me. Some even with the touchy feely stuff that women are so great at. But I've never had an Asian woman compliment me, at least not initially. Perhaps because they are too shy initially. Once they get to know me, then they are like the other women. But that initial first impression is very important. When a women can openly show interest, compliment, and be more aggressive, I find that quality quite sexy and attractive.
AJ    Tuesday, October 16, 2001 at 11:01:31 (PDT)
10 ton mooncake,
i happen to have a hot white bf and trust me, i can assure you that yellow fever did not cause him blindness. in fact, all his previous gf's had been pretty white girls. and i'm the first to admit i'm not the nicest person in the world BUT there is something a/ me. one hot guy falls for me, no big deal but if it's 5 or 6, i gotta wonder. MAYBE it does have something to do w/ my personality
?    Tuesday, October 16, 2001 at 07:14:51 (PDT)


What are the real reasons for so many Asian men seeking out non-Asian women?

Erm...maybe because they thought the chick was cute and intelligent? Oh silly me...it's a race thing right? Right.

How do Asian women really feel about this trend?

I don't know. Does it matter? Is this the national day of "Let's pacify people so they don't feel left out"?
Who the hell cares anyway? I don't see too many people going:
"Hey now! That Latino girl is sure getting friendly with that Caucasian guy. Hmm, Marco how do you feel?"
Generally the people involved in the relationship don't give a damn about what you think. Tough reality...isn't it?

Who benefits from this?

What does anyone get out of a relationship eh? Companionship...maybe even...love?

Will the trend continue?

I shouldn't even validate this with an answer but it has to be said.

Firstly, clothing is a trend. Make up and hair styles are trends. (We all had that Cyndi Lauper moment) But who you find attractive and who you are drawn too should not be considered a trend. That's blowing down every single inter-racial relationship out there because it's a supposed fad that will fade by next summer along with platforms and peddle-pushers.

Second, do some people not have lives (sex or otherwise) enough that they spend that much time focused on other people? Does anyone else find this at least a bit disturbing?

I've heard some Asian women complain about guys who may have not been interested in them and the guy was asian, but that next week they see him with a white/black/hispanic female.

I tell them the exact same things.

A)He may not have been attracted to you.

B) That girl may have been his girlfriend. (Duh.)

C)Maybe your personality sucks.

Most guys are not gonna go for a girl just because she's the same race as he is. I thought we were humans not animals and so far I've only see animals with that amount of small-sightedness.

Chicks need to learn to move on and get it on. Period. Women are scary...I swear.

Also to 10 ton Moon Cake

Low self esteem- Uh-huh. So just because YOU may think the guy is ugly, that poor girl/guy obviously has low self esteem because they obviously care about your opinion.

Money--Most women/men these days are kinda liberated and even if a woman/man is using their partner for that. It's their business and no ones elses.

Yellow Fever-- That's the name of a disease and I don't think it's appropriate to use when stating a so called "racial condition" that people have. I also think that people who BELIEVE in that and practice it feed more into their own insecurity and in the end harm themselves by going slowly and painfully insane. Well the rest of us feel left out darn it! We want diseases too!

White Death
Black Plague
Hispanic Blue Syndrome

Give me a minute..about 150 other races to work on...

Sex-- If the sex is good...why flush out a good thing? I bet my salary that you'd dump a "cute" guy if he was horrid in bed.

So in the end I find you to be amusing. Since you are the voice of ALL of humanity, excluding me because my thoughts are not as warped, than please explain to me why we have war and destruction.
Killer Bee    Monday, October 15, 2001 at 23:51:17 (PDT)
10 ton Moon Cake:

You should rename yourself dateless and clueless, since you spend so much time watching others with relationships rather than acting upon it. Who cares what other people think about your relationship, or what your opinion is of a relationship. If two people are happy, and they don't bash their own people to justify their decision to date or marry interracially, then it is really no concern of yours. Go spend your time dating real people instead of watching people.
Old Glory    Monday, October 15, 2001 at 22:00:57 (PDT)
I've cheated on my AF girlfriend with a white woman. She was a cute, Nordic-looking snowboarder type. I met her on a ski-trip to Colorado. And I don't regret it, because I found out that the only reason my AF gf is dating me is because she feels guilty about her true character, which I'm afraid to say, is REALLY white-washed and full of self-hatred. I am really eager to meet a cute white girl that I can have fun and share experiences with.
I don't regret a damn thing, I'll probably dump her    Tuesday, October 09, 2001 at 12:13:55 (PDT)
10 ton Moon Cake,

Bro, you are one smart man. Or actually, everyone already KNOWS what you've described, but didn't really bother talking about it. Thanks for letting the world know man.
I hear ya man.    Monday, October 08, 2001 at 17:44:09 (PDT)

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