AA MEN SEEK OUT NON-ASIAN WOMEN
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sian women are only interested in non-Asian men and don't give Asian men the time of day. That's the reason cited by many AA men for dating and marrying non-Asians. A minority of AA men say they simply find non-Asian women more physically attractive or more appealing in terms of personality, values and interests. Whatever the reasons, the rates at which young Asian men are dating and marrying non-Asian women are quickly approaching the rates at which Asian women are outdating and outmarrying (about 38%). Some Asian women are complaining that they aren't getting a fair shake because Asian men have been brainwashed by media standards of desirability.
     What are the real reasons for so many Asian men seeking out non-Asian women? How do Asian women really feel about this trend? Who benefits most from it? Will the trend continue? We want to hear your views.
My parents are cool. They never force me to find a Chinese girl here in the USA or back in Hong Kong or China. There are no arranged or blind marriages and dating in the Chinese community. Problem is that I have always liked girls from one particular ethnicity in the Soviet Union. I have grown up only seeing the beauty of these Dagestani girls in San Francisco. Their laughter, their bright eyes and delicate faces. But, the girls from that group are hard to date because they are so insulated and their parents force them to marry their own even the USA. I love the girls of this race so much, I can only imagine myself being with one of them. And, frankly, I have got the looks from the girls of this race too. I have saved money to make the trip over to that former Soviet republic (Dagestan, it is near Chechnya). I know that I can easily find back a wife from there. But, is it worth it? Will I have self hate or emotional issues someday?

I know that if I am forced to marry a Chinese girl, I will not really love her and perhaps someday just abandon her. Love is not a game and I will not do it. I want to follow my heart and go for the type of girl that I have always wanted and longed for.


R Z    Monday, January 21, 2002 at 15:07:08 (PST)
Asian Dominatrix,
thanks for complimenting me upon my English skills however, I am NOT as articulate as you probably think of me. You give me more credit than I deserve. Thank you though, as I do appreciate your praise. Being an engineer by trade, I sometimes do find it difficult to write in a non-dry, non-technical way. So forgive me if I sound rather stiff at times.
I agree with you that the rates at which Asians marry outside their race is a little alarming compared to the rates at which other races outmarry. Where is it now? 30%+ for females and 20%+ for males? This is essentially destroy to our Asian communities as a whole if two things are a given:
1. These rates are consistent across all communities including Asian enclaves in the Bay Area and Los Angeles, and
2. The trend of Asian immigration is somehow curtailed by the "Jesse Helms'" and "Trent Lott's" (the idiotic side of the Republican party) of the world. But to tell you the truth, though the second may become a distinct possibility with the current administration in place, the later is somehow more farfetched. This could be because growing up amongst Asian Americans, many young Asian children born in California have a sense of identity that CANNOT be undone by the media. There are also places where young Asian Americans can hangout and chill here in the California without ever being in contact with other races. Though I find that behavior somewhat short sighted in it's own right, it does, for better or worse, keep our communities together.
I do agree wholeheartedly however, that this tension between our two genders must stop. Hating between races is bad enough, hate within one is FAR WORSE. If people would just stop basing entire races of people on stereotypes. But until this stops, I believe the mutual disrespect for one another that we do see, will inherently damange to our communities.
Thanks,
Kevin Yang    Monday, January 21, 2002 at 13:25:45 (PST)
David Muller,

Just by reading your post I can tell you would never make is as a sub. You probably run at the first sign of the collar and would not submit to humilation.

Go play out your fantasy on a yahoo board of something.
AC dropout    Monday, January 21, 2002 at 11:24:05 (PST)
David Muller,
your statement is NOTHING but a unproven generalization upon Asian Americans. I can easily say that some women don't wish to be with WM because they're stupid and achieve less in the academic relm. Is it true? probably NOT, but neither is your claim. Apparently, you have absolutely NO idea of what you're talking about!
Kevin Yang    Monday, January 21, 2002 at 10:47:15 (PST)

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