AA MEN SEEK OUT NON-ASIAN WOMEN
(Updated )

sian women are only interested in non-Asian men and don't give Asian men the time of day. That's the reason cited by many AA men for dating and marrying non-Asians. A minority of AA men say they simply find non-Asian women more physically attractive or more appealing in terms of personality, values and interests. Whatever the reasons, the rates at which young Asian men are dating and marrying non-Asian women are quickly approaching the rates at which Asian women are outdating and outmarrying (about 38%). Some Asian women are complaining that they aren't getting a fair shake because Asian men have been brainwashed by media standards of desirability.
     What are the real reasons for so many Asian men seeking out non-Asian women? How do Asian women really feel about this trend? Who benefits most from it? Will the trend continue? We want to hear your views.
Asian Male in the Thirties,
you are too cute :P

PocahontasDoingItKoreanStyle    Saturday, January 26, 2002 at 21:19:48 (PST)
how it is supposed to be... ok, i guess God created love for chinese to chinese and white to white....negative. it you can love someone of a different race then you can marry someone of a different race. God never said "thou shalt only marry someone with the same skin color as yourself....unless they speak the same language as you, then i can't tell the difference"...we are all human...all pink in the middle, all bleed, all breathe the same. how will racism end with a mentality like that? people ask me all the time if my mom is asian...no, she isn't. She is Native American, same as me. i guess i can get away with it huh?
PocahontasDoingItKoreanStyle    Saturday, January 26, 2002 at 21:17:46 (PST)
I'm not posting this as a diatribe against my Asian sisters. I'm too old for all the hate now.

I had once dated solely dated Asian girls. It was this way until my university years. It was really hard to find an Asian female to date if you had attended a large university campus on the West Coast. The attractive ones already had more than their share of boyfriends, while the least attractive ones always seem to be with the white guys. So, an average "Joe Blow" Chinese American guy like me missed out on the dating scene during those 4 years of college. I had taken a liking to other races women at this point, in particular Hispanic, Indian and Middle Eastern girls. But, I did not have the courage to date interracially and was too caught up with studies.

I have since graduated. I have dated 2 other Asian girls since I got the "job and decent money." Still, I find it hard to connect back to those days when I only had love for Asian girls. I noticed the more educated and assimilated Asian American girls are a part of different world from us Asian men. You hear it in their refined manner of speech, their facial demeanor and just their total outlook. They are more "white" than white people. Deep inside, I felt these Asian girls were too good for me. They knew their way around society much more than I, an Asian man will ever be able to.

I met a Hispanic girl, while I went back to a local junior college for an afternoon stroll and workout. She was the most gorgeous creature I have ever seen. The first time we locked eyes, it felt like magic. I have never felt such warmth, humor and instant click with a girl since those more laid back high school days. We talked small talk, then I found out I can converse with this girl much more than I can with any of the "sophisticated" Asian girls I have been seeing after graduation. I felt no pressure to impress with this Mexican girl. I understood her way of talking and I think this is the type I can live with at ease and comfort. I didn't let the chance get away. I got her phone number and everything has been like a page from the fairy tales. I couldn't be more happier. I felt all these years I was lost and hopeless.

I have opened myself to a whole new world. I do not look back with regret or bitterness. I'm an easy down to earth kind of guy. I thank myself for following my heart and not my race.

I know there are other Asian brothers out there who are waiting and waiting, but sometimes the grass is greener on the other side of the hill. It took me a very long and stubborn time to see it.
not bitter and disappointed, but just realistic    Friday, January 25, 2002 at 23:41:23 (PST)
Asian American Male,

Well, that's probably true of the DAR, who think their shit don't stink (colloquially speaking) but I think most white Americans are more accepting of Italians and Polish--notwithstanding some ethnic jokes.

Truth to tell, the WASPs I've met from Ivies at academic conferences have turned out to be much more open-minded than I expected. I remember one tall, very stately emeritus professor at an Ivy in his '60s who visited Oxford every summer. Because of the way he dressed--bow tie, crisp shirts, navy blue blazer, and immaculate shoes--I kinda assumed he would be a pompous old fogey. Actually turned out to be the one of the sweetest and friendliest guys who always stopped to chat and have tea with me: we talked about just about everything academic and political. He has NEVER asked about my ethnicity for the two years I've known him.

Same for a WASP woman I met at a conference: she looked very snooty and distant to others, but spent much of the meals talking to me: didn't try to monopolize the conversation. Very helpful too in introducing me to people.

But of course, it's hard to judge from two examples alone. I guess we can only say that we can't always stereotype WASPs as outright bigoted. (But whether they would let their children marry a non-WASP or ethnic minority is another question too!)

One interesting thing the WASP guy told me about academia: "Jews like to promote other Jews, Catholics like to promote other Catholics and Marxists other Marxists. WASPs spend too much time trying to beat each other down." (Sounds like a test question, huh?)

Hey, any AM's here dated old money WASP women? Have you ever encountered any prejudice from their folks?


Asian Dominatrix    Friday, January 25, 2002 at 11:33:05 (PST)
Persian women with dark hairs and light eyes are a beauty to behold.
A Star    Thursday, January 24, 2002 at 23:54:39 (PST)
"If a man of any color doesn't lust after Kimora Lee then I have a word for that also..Gay."

Too bad she married that old ass Russell Simmons. That old perv was jockin' her ever since she was jailbait.
TSJ Eric@KristinKreuk.net    Thursday, January 24, 2002 at 15:01:15 (PST)

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