AA MEN SEEK OUT NON-ASIAN WOMEN
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sian women are only interested in non-Asian men and don't give Asian men the time of day. That's the reason cited by many AA men for dating and marrying non-Asians. A minority of AA men say they simply find non-Asian women more physically attractive or more appealing in terms of personality, values and interests. Whatever the reasons, the rates at which young Asian men are dating and marrying non-Asian women are quickly approaching the rates at which Asian women are outdating and outmarrying (about 38%). Some Asian women are complaining that they aren't getting a fair shake because Asian men have been brainwashed by media standards of desirability.
     What are the real reasons for so many Asian men seeking out non-Asian women? How do Asian women really feel about this trend? Who benefits most from it? Will the trend continue? We want to hear your views.
Get over it, folks. The forces at work to create these types of pairings are one part social indoctrination via the media, one part expansion of the dating pool, and one part human chemistry. Anyone who thinks that these factors aren't playing a role, even on a subconscious level, is fooling themselves silly. I think its ridiculous for us to debate why this is happening and consider instead the future of American society. There is little doubt that America is becoming an even more multi-cultural society. Will self-segregation continue. Yes, but at some point, and perhaps this is too idealistic, we will begin to blend more. The challenge, of course, is how do you preserve cultural identity and still have a blended society. I don't have an answer for this but history will. Time will carve out a niche for all of us(white, black, hispanic, asians, etc) whether we like it or not. Think of the forces that your children's children will be facing as you consider this issue.
nsearch    Monday, January 28, 2002 at 20:50:24 (PST)
Roger,

Technically speaking, WASP means "White, Anglo-Saxon Protestant" with no reference to social class. It is entirely possible to refer to a plumber married to a receptionist as a WASP family if both parents are of British and Protestant descent.

However, WASP has pretty much come to connote an educated (esp. Ivy) upper-middle-class way of life in America (not the U.K.!), particularly after the publication of that famous *The Official Preppy Handbook*. Some will go farther and say that it means not just Protestant, but Episcopalian, and of Mayflower descent.

In my question, I guess I'm using WASP to connote upper-middle class Protestant (figurative rather than literal, I suppose). Even if he or she was Polish and Roman Catholic only a few generations back and converted on the wing. (Think Martha Stewart, who changed her name from a Polish one so she could be more convincing about selling a WASPy lifestyle.)
Asian Dominatrix    Monday, January 28, 2002 at 18:48:53 (PST)
how about this....if you like someon of the opposite race, try to date them. if you date them, outstanding. if not, then move on in life. if you don't want to date anyone of the opposite race then don't....don't put down your borthers or sisters for their preferences. we all come form the same people...so get your heads out of your asses and be supportive of other people's preferences and decisions or shut the hell up....i believe a word for that is called RESPECT. i don't have any respect for people that scold others for dating who they want. my dad has no trouble with me and my sweetheart...he just wishes we were married before we lived together. he didn't scold me for it, and i respect him for letting me make my decision.
PocahontasDoingItKoreanStyle    Monday, January 28, 2002 at 13:58:27 (PST)
Asian Dominatrix,

What is an old money WASP woman?
FOP    Monday, January 28, 2002 at 11:01:13 (PST)
Asian Dominatrix,
I apologize for the gramatical mistakes in my previous post. It am somewhat abashed at my apparent lack of english skills. I'll blame that on the fact that I didn't go to an Ivy League institution. Whatever the case, I'd like to comment on your question as to experiences dating WASP women. Personally, I've only dated some 2 caucasian women, so I'll probably refrain from my own judgements upon this subject, however, my cousin's married to a WASP woman and his experiences with her parents were NOT good ones. For the longest time, her family thought my extented family members were refuges from China after the 1949 Communist Revolution. Therefore, they treated us NO better than uneducated immigrants. This was a slap in the face for my aunt and uncle as well as my parents since all of them had a graduate degree at the VERY LEAST. In the end, their opinions of us had NOT changed and therefore, they did NOT attend my cousin's wedding (rather sad actually). They now sparsely if EVER talk to their daughter NOR my cousin. I sincerely hope this situation does NOT happen to ANYONE on this board regardless of race or gender. This is by far the worst thing that can happen to a happy couple.

Anyways, a little off the subject, but did I hear you were from Chicago? I ask cuz I was born in that area. My parents actually met in Chicago and were married there. Interesting city, though I was a little too young to remember much of it. Besides, I spent most of my time there in Libertyville and Evanston. As always, it's a joy conversing with you.
Thanks,

Kevin Yang    Monday, January 28, 2002 at 10:58:32 (PST)
Who cares! Is there anything new to talk about besides Asians dating and marrying Non-Asians? Why can't we talk about something interesting or worthwhile like interethnic dating amoung Asians of different groups. There seem to be a lot Asians dating and marrying other Asians. For example, I'm Thai and I'm married to a great Cambodian person. I seem to relate to other Asians better than Non-Asians.
Happy    Sunday, January 27, 2002 at 19:23:33 (PST)

[One possible explanation -- this happens to be an interactive article on why AM date non-Asian women. --Ed]
I find it hard to believe that you can't find an AF on a large West Coast campus. I go to one and it's certainly not hard for the Asian guys here. Maybe you were just a hermit and needed to get out and see the world more, rather than your dorm room. Some of the stuff that gets written here is so unbelievable, and completely B.S. when one sees it's not true firsthandedly.
rolling my eyes    Sunday, January 27, 2002 at 17:08:12 (PST)
Asian Dominatrix,

Do you use the term "WASP" to refer to ANY wealthy non-Roman Catholic? Do you use it to refer only to the tiny handful of WEALTHY Americans of English descent? What is your understanding of the term "WASP?"
Roger    Sunday, January 27, 2002 at 13:30:55 (PST)

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