AA MEN SEEK OUT NON-ASIAN WOMEN
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sian women are only interested in non-Asian men and don't give Asian men the time of day. That's the reason cited by many AA men for dating and marrying non-Asians. A minority of AA men say they simply find non-Asian women more physically attractive or more appealing in terms of personality, values and interests. Whatever the reasons, the rates at which young Asian men are dating and marrying non-Asian women are quickly approaching the rates at which Asian women are outdating and outmarrying (about 38%). Some Asian women are complaining that they aren't getting a fair shake because Asian men have been brainwashed by media standards of desirability.
     What are the real reasons for so many Asian men seeking out non-Asian women? How do Asian women really feel about this trend? Who benefits most from it? Will the trend continue? We want to hear your views.
Hey Howard,
I think your chances are pretty good if you approach a woman that you already know somewhat. Part of the reason I say this is that I think it gives you a better chance, but also because I find it somewhat creepy when guys I don't know at all hit on me an ask me out just because they find me attractive.
I currently have a huge crush on an AA guy that I met in a class. It turned out we work in similar fields and we've just started dating. My only hang up with this guy is that I feel I may not be good enough for him because he is much better educated than I am. I think I felt more comfortable around the guy before I new he'd attended an Ivy league school.
Give it a try!    Tuesday, February 26, 2002 at 14:35:21 (PST)
This is my first time on this site. This thread is something we young Asian-American men rarely talk about but increasingly want to explore. I am deeply attracted to white and Latina women but have never asked one out.

What are the chances? How many rejections must I go through on average to get with one? And, how hard is it to get an attractive white or Latina beauty?
Howard    Saturday, February 23, 2002 at 11:36:36 (PST)
Asian Dominatrix,
I guess I like variety. Unlike most men, I don't have a type as there isn't usually something shared (common traits) between the women I've been with. See, us Engineers can be well rounded too huh? In fact, I find many to be as well rounded as people from any other field. It is of course impossible to generalize people in one group as being a particular way due to the fact that every individual is different. Whatever the case however, I often find myself defending myself from the "nerd" stereotype from people who assume that I'm socially inept.

To tell you the truth, the males I met who did not act "straight" were of all colors. It just so happened that most were Asian due to the fact that the majority of the high tech field is Asian (Indian inclusive). Heck, I have yet to see a non-geeky white engineer though I know many exist. I think they're "gayness" is not so much that they hang around each other, or even that they are socially unaware, but rather many are just rather feminine in their actions. They shake hands like "wet-fish", they walk in a timid, stiff fashion, and they don't say "hi" to people on a regular basis even if the other party knows them. Of course, with the bad, there’s also the good. Most high tech people I’ve known (non-marketing) can be incredibly NICE and well mannered. They don’t swear very much as they don’t talk that much at all and they’re always cordial when approached. Again, these are also generalizations to some extent as I’m sure there are arrogant engineers out there (Bill Gates types). Whatever the case, it is horribly unfair for WM you know to claim that AM act gay when there are significant amounts of their own who are no better. The actions of these people (hi-tech people) are more a product of their career paths and how they were brought up than their race. Hmm…, guess there aren’t too many AM in your field huh? Have you considered meeting ones in other fields? Just curious, that’s all…
Thanks,

Kevin Yang    Wednesday, February 20, 2002 at 11:12:55 (PST)
FOP,

Well, you're definitely spot on about the lack of personal hygiene. Things haven't changed much.

I remember being rather interested in an intelligent, very attractive-looking British guy at one of my seminars. (Note I said "looking.") I *happened* to sit next to him one day--and that was the end of any allure he had for me. He smelled so bad I could hardly concentrate on my thesis supervisor's paper.

Should have figured out why there were empty seats around him!
Asian Dominatrix    Sunday, February 17, 2002 at 09:47:21 (PST)
Kevin Yang,

Sounds like you've had a good variety of women! As for myself, I have to admit I've probably been a bit narrow; even the lawyers, management consultants, (and one doctor) have all been English majors at one point. But I definitely agree that engineers and others in the sciences are more cultivated and/or broad-minded than they are made out to appear. I had one acquaintance studying physics at the University of Chicago who loved discussing music history. And one cousin in marine biology who's climbed mountains in three continents. Finally, even my old man actually knows Asian classical literature and enjoys piano.

I would be interested to finding out how Asian males in engineering and math did not act "straight." Did they hang around each other a lot? Or were they just socially inept? I've always been puzzled by white men claiming that Asian men act gay because none of my male cousins or sons of parents' friends were gay (or as far as I knew!)

I remember some of the white guys in my HS advanced physics/chemistry class being some of the worst geeks I have ever met. They were the ones who got firecrackers/sparklers lit under their desks and/or got their experiments sabotaged by others.

At Oxford, the only Asian males I met at the few Asian/Pacific Rim parties were studying PPE (Philosophy, Politics, Economics). They all seemed to be from Singapore or Hong Kong and were probably destined for some kind of government/finance career.
Asian Dominatrix    Sunday, February 17, 2002 at 09:40:14 (PST)
Happy Valentines,

you are such a punk! most of the asian girls i know are just as how you are describing "EASY" as everyone else you listed. it is an individual thing. maybe you are just a pervert and only the desperate would play with you. put that lollipop away before you attract ants.
if i met someone as pompus-assed as you i'd chop him in the neck and kick him in the crotch.
PocahontasDoingItKoreanStyle    Friday, February 15, 2002 at 13:52:32 (PST)

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