AA MEN SEEK OUT NON-ASIAN WOMEN
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sian women are only interested in non-Asian men and don't give Asian men the time of day. That's the reason cited by many AA men for dating and marrying non-Asians. A minority of AA men say they simply find non-Asian women more physically attractive or more appealing in terms of personality, values and interests. Whatever the reasons, the rates at which young Asian men are dating and marrying non-Asian women are quickly approaching the rates at which Asian women are outdating and outmarrying (about 38%). Some Asian women are complaining that they aren't getting a fair shake because Asian men have been brainwashed by media standards of desirability.
     What are the real reasons for so many Asian men seeking out non-Asian women? How do Asian women really feel about this trend? Who benefits most from it? Will the trend continue? We want to hear your views.
Howard and others:

One of the things I would always encourage an AM to do if he were interested in a WF is to GO FOR BROKE! Faint heart never won fair lady. Even though we supposedly live in a world of Liberated Women, most (not all) still prefer for the man to make the first move or approach. If you get a "no" or some kind of beg-off answer, just say "Thank you for your time." and then move on to the next one. (I don't mean the one immediately standing next to her while you ask her out either!)

One buddy of mine in HS named Enoch was an AM who was a real party dude with the guys, but was really kind of reserved around women. I was the opposite. I wasn't afraid of rejection and thus would ask a girl I liked out. I got some "No"s but I also got A LOT of "Yes"es as well. Enoch saw this, and at my urging to "go for it," he asked a cute Cajun girl in our Calculus class out to prom, and she said yes. Not only did he have a great date with her, but they "got busy" that night as well. The two of them have been married for 15 years and have cute two kids.

Enoch may be an exception in some peoples' eyes, but I have seen many, many AMs who step up with confidence and ask a WF they like out, get dates, get laid and even get married to them. This is IN THE SOUTH I might add, not on the West Coast either! Hell, in the Sunday School class my wife and I attend at 2nd Baptist in Houston, there are 3 AM/AF, 3 WM/AF and 2 AM/WF couples out of about 40 couples in the class--20% of the couples have one or both as Asian American partners. Both those AMs married to WFs are confident, take-no-prisoners guys who respect themselves and their wives.

Just some food for thought...
WM who knows AM can get WF if they go for it.    Wednesday, March 13, 2002 at 07:07:31 (PST)
Howard,

My last girlfriend was East Indian. I haven't asked many women out but like what others said, you don't know until you try. I was pleasantly surprised.
huu76    Wednesday, March 06, 2002 at 00:08:01 (PST)
Yup, it's a numbers game...the more you ask out the more dates you'll get...it's just the way it is. Don't be shy go out and ask the girl out...what's the worse that can happen they say no and you move on until you find one that says yes...it's pretty plain and simple if you ask me...now once you go out with them well that's another story...lol

Ghost Writer NYC    Friday, March 01, 2002 at 18:34:22 (PST)
Howard,

Your question is so lame. Are you sure you're a man? Just go talk to the girls and ask them out. If they say, "No", then move on to the next one -- it's not like they're gonna kick you in da' nutz. Stop making excuses and just do it..... Seems like a lot of AM want the girls to ask them for dates (like that'll happen). I am sure if you talk to the girls, they'll give you enough hints on whether they want to go out with you or not.

Your question should have read, "How many beautiful girls will I let pass before I gain the courage to ask one out."

You're a man, act like one.    Thursday, February 28, 2002 at 17:10:04 (PST)
Sometimes you have to go outside what is farmilar to the un-familar. My best longer lasting relationships have been those outside my race.

Step out side the box, cross the line until you find what you want. Asian guys are cool, love the hell out of them.

TheGoldenDragon@yahoogroups.com
blkazn blkazn06854@yahoo.com    Thursday, February 28, 2002 at 14:11:18 (PST)

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