AA MEN SEEK OUT NON-ASIAN WOMEN
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sian women are only interested in non-Asian men and don't give Asian men the time of day. That's the reason cited by many AA men for dating and marrying non-Asians. A minority of AA men say they simply find non-Asian women more physically attractive or more appealing in terms of personality, values and interests. Whatever the reasons, the rates at which young Asian men are dating and marrying non-Asian women are quickly approaching the rates at which Asian women are outdating and outmarrying (about 38%). Some Asian women are complaining that they aren't getting a fair shake because Asian men have been brainwashed by media standards of desirability.
     What are the real reasons for so many Asian men seeking out non-Asian women? How do Asian women really feel about this trend? Who benefits most from it? Will the trend continue? We want to hear your views.
It is not always the case that AM always wants to seek non-AW, or vice versa. I'm pretty sure that some AW feel bad about this trend. I'm an AM, and I have no intention to date a non-Asian. It's not because of their looks, personality, or interests. It is solely based upon a cultural conflict. Of course this trend will continue on, though not all AM/nAW couples will last longer. That's a fact. Besides, there are some AW more beautiful than non-AW out there.
chinalova    Wednesday, May 15, 2002 at 05:36:49 (PDT)
One Korean man,

I know what you are thinking and going through. Let me say that if you have never really loved Asian women, then it will never come around. You can't force love. It is your preference and nothing can take that away.

Just like why we or other races men don't have a thing for black women. Just remember, that many women of other races see us Asian guys the same way some of us see black women.

If you got play, then you are lucky.

Never settle for less. That includes marriage.

We can't lie to ourselves that looks and sex play a big role in love.
Chifang    Wednesday, May 15, 2002 at 01:07:43 (PDT)
Korean dude

See you got BURNED ssssssssssssss. You reap what you sow. You play around with other peoples lives and look at you now!!!. Why do you feel like it's your right to mess with other people's minds??? "i was just playing around". That is unethical and you got the price. I could dive into you a lot more but then you'd start crying... boo hoo. shessh. I am glad no women stayed with you. Pathetic excuse to be a man.
SOG    Tuesday, May 14, 2002 at 20:36:32 (PDT)
~One Korean Man~
I am African-American, I find Asian men attractive.
Maybe the fact that you live in the South has a lot to do with the fact that Black Women aren't attracted to Asian men. The diversity isn't there, but ouch!!!!! You don't find black women attractive? Each is entitled to their own opinion, but damn that hurt.
I guess we should be used to it by now. Hell our own black men aren't attracted to us anymore either.
Just for the record I think we are all beautiful people no matter what color our skin may be.
I know I said that I wasn't going to respond to any more post on here, but I just could not read your post and not respond.
Russell's Sweet Delight keshayork@rocketmail.com    Tuesday, May 14, 2002 at 16:43:34 (PDT)
One Korean Man,
What you choose to feel toward ANY race of women is your personal choice. I am one of MANY Black females who have married an Asian man. Some of us BW have REALLY enjoy the cultures and Asian families we married into. Finding a wife is a big step and whoever you choose to spend the rest of your life with, I wish you all the best. I'm just glad that you know that BF's are friendly and do have different personalities. Good Luck on your soul-mate journey search.

AM/BF12yrs.plus    Tuesday, May 14, 2002 at 12:56:30 (PDT)
One problem with AM/AF couples is that instead of complimenting each other's strengths Asian couples often duplicate each others' strengths instead.
Anyway I don't see how anyone can expect to date exclusively within their own group if it's no more than 2/3 of a percent of a population.

I mean it, Chinese are .7% of the USA pop, and there are more Chinese-americans than any other Asian group in the US.
Anyway, as an ABC I got more in common with with the average black, hispanic, or white American than immigrants from the Philipines, Japan, India, or even Korea.
As for the guys or girls who worry about racial purity/continuity, well, I never worry cause there's another 1.2 billion pure Chinese back east.
gzus in NYC    Tuesday, May 14, 2002 at 12:21:22 (PDT)
Korean man, it seems like you had a mentality of using white women as playthings and sex toys for kicks, and then tossing them aside for a more desirable and marriageable asian woman. Is that what asian men really think of us? That we're just for kicks but then you'll find your asian female soulmate and drop us? Many of us white women are indeed worthy of marriage and wonderful people, why wouldn't we be?
wf    Tuesday, May 14, 2002 at 11:29:09 (PDT)
From high school on through college and graduate school till now for some reason my dates/girlfriends have been mostly Caucasian, including one Indian girl. And one beautiful Latina woman. I'm a well-built, above medium height, outgoing Korean American male that grew up in the South for God's sake. But I went to college and grad school up in Boston. Women of all races somehow found me attractive and intelligent enough to give me a chance. For some reason, I didn't go after Asian sisters, then, my parents tried to set me up with a few nice Korean girls as I approached that age. It didn't work out for various reasons although I deeply fell in love with one of the girls. I have to confess; with non-Asian girls, I was simply playing around experimenting, you know. I was never serious. Then again, I was young and foolish. I always figured that I would ultimately marry a Korean girl to settle down or an Asian girl of other ethnicity in the worst case scenario. The attraction towards non-Asian women were, thereby, born mostly out of curiosity and hormones, you know. But as I sit here in my early 30s, sizing up my future and family, I'm not so sure anymore; I could marry a Caucasian woman and be happy! Some of them are really excellent potential mates for marriage and good people... The sad thing is that I still don't find black women attractive at all. Yes, I could be a hypocrite. I know. Then again, I don't think they find us attractive either. Sex has been equally good with non-Asian women as with Asian women. So that's not a problem at all...
One Korean man    Monday, May 13, 2002 at 18:59:16 (PDT)

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