AA MEN SEEK OUT NON-ASIAN WOMEN
(Updated )

sian women are only interested in non-Asian men and don't give Asian men the time of day. That's the reason cited by many AA men for dating and marrying non-Asians. A minority of AA men say they simply find non-Asian women more physically attractive or more appealing in terms of personality, values and interests. Whatever the reasons, the rates at which young Asian men are dating and marrying non-Asian women are quickly approaching the rates at which Asian women are outdating and outmarrying (about 38%). Some Asian women are complaining that they aren't getting a fair shake because Asian men have been brainwashed by media standards of desirability.
     What are the real reasons for so many Asian men seeking out non-Asian women? How do Asian women really feel about this trend? Who benefits most from it? Will the trend continue? We want to hear your views.
Gzus in NYC,

I totally agree.....if you live in a country that is overwhelmingly white (ie the USA) IR is going to be inevitable.....i don't think it's got anything to do with being brainwashed by the media, after all if you want asian role models then look at the asian media

i would encourage AM to date outside their own culture more.....i have a lot of asian friends in Sydney and the guys are generally reluctant to do this.....they are quite often real studs so it's not as though they couldn't....i think it's their preference.....i can't argue because as a WM attracted to AF's i see their point!
maxdacat    Thursday, May 16, 2002 at 04:36:10 (PDT)
wf

yeah cant generalize but my girl is a german american and she is PERFECT. definately marraige material. So are many many many other white women.

Men who play with women or vice versa just for kicks are LOSERS. It's just not nice to hurt other people.
SOG    Wednesday, May 15, 2002 at 23:46:24 (PDT)
Okay; after eating my dinner I just realized that I made some mistakes/spelling errors in my previous post. But that's not the real reason I'm writing this new post. After all, I'm not writing a doctoral thesis.

I dated a Puerto Rican girl for about six month when I was in grad school. She and I lived in the same apartment complex near my school campus. Does she count as "black"? Many people say Puerto Ricans are a mixed race with varying degree of Spanish, American Indian and African blood distributed in their veins/genes. You know how our society is; one drop of black blood, you are nothing but black no matter how white you look like. This girl used to think of herself as being Italian than anything else though. Many times, she used to proudly tell me, "don't I look like a nice-looking Italian girl?" And I approvingly nodded at her. Appearance-wise and everything else, although somewhat dark, she seemed Caucasian to me than anything I knew. She was short, but very well-proportioned, witty, and sexy as hell.
In any case, she could have had some black ancester long time back and could qualify as my only "black" girlfriend.
Maybe not...

Let me tell you this though; along with one other red-headed Latina woman(a divorcee with one little boy) I met on the subway station - I thought she was white. And I somewhat reluctantly went into relationship after finding out she had a litte boy - these Latin women would make some of the best wives in the world; not only were they fun to be with wherever we went and whatever we did, but they could cook too! They even washed the dishes for me from previous nights when I came home late from school! This was quite a contrast to many of my domestically-challenged white girlfriends. But white girlfriends had many many upsides as well; I particularly liked their assertiveness - sometimes bordering on aggression - and uninhibited social behavior which even an outgoing individual like myself sometimes lacked. They taught me quite a lot. But, I had some nightmarish experiences with them as well...
One Korean Man    Wednesday, May 15, 2002 at 17:23:29 (PDT)
Ok, oh boy, I feel like I have to respond. I could write a whole book on this topic - truthfully! - but I'll tell you only the important facts to be coincise and more to the point. I hope it'll be short. And I'll be honest although I fear some of my statemets may be perceived to be racist in nature and of stereotyping people into generalization including my own Asian race. The lack of my interest in black women largely stems from the fact that my interaction with them have been very limited and sparse hitherto. I met most of my girlfriends in classes I was taking from 9th grade on through college and grade school. And so on. Most of my classmates tended to be either white or Asian. But, mostly white. After all, we Asians comprise only 4% of US population. However, almost 30% of entire student body in my high school were black. I don't want to speculate on why there were almost no black students in my advanced and AG/AP classes. I went to a middle-tier public high school in North Carolina. Well, okay, those classes that I took tended to be either very advanced in level or hard-core heavy-duty science subjects. I'm not nerdy at all although in high school one pretty white girl (a cheerleader!) in my homeroom that I really liked flat out rejected me being too nerdy in her mind after showing some initial interest in me. I think her girlfriends kind of influenced her thinking a lot because I was taking many classes with our mutual friends, and I was acing all these math and science tests. The fact that I was on a varsity soccer and tennis teams didn't change her opinion one bit. Tennis and soccer aren't masculine enough, you know. And I played piano! Also the fact that she wasn't all that bright only confounded the situation in my mind. (But, she somehow managed to go to University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, a school considered to be one of public-Ivys, and majored in psychology from what I heard)
I tried to be a well-rounded person to the best of my ability and time constraints that I had, but to some people I appeared to be more of a brain than a brute or whatever. She later went out with this huge football player who kind of abused her, and lost her virginity to him from what I heard from my white friends later on.
I really liked her a lot...

Anyway, very few of my high school classmates were black let alone black females. I mean the sheer number of available black girls was stacked against me. Nil. In high school I used to know this one pretty black girl who was going out with my Vietnamese friend who later moved to California and became a dentist. She was articulate, friendly, smart, and sexy. She was dark-skinned, but had sharp features, and a smile that could brighten up a whole room. I was definitely interested in her, but we both were already taken, you know. Besides, she and my Vietanmese friend were crazy about each other at the time. And I really liked the girl I was with.

In college and grad school, I saw the trend continue, only this time around there were disproportionately large number of Asian students in classes I was taking and in the general student body as well. I met a lot of good Jewish friends in Boston. And a very very few black students from what I saw. I just couldn't interact with them on the social/academic level. There just weren't enough common ground. It is true that I din't actively seek out their friendship, but that should come as natural, you know. In any case, compared to the South where I grew up, Boston seemed like a true melting pot to me. However, what you have to understand about dating culture in Boston, particulary in colleges is that you only go out with your own kind of people. Socioeconomic caste system is rigidly in place for one thing. I think it's even more severe than separation by your ethnicity or racial background. You have your own circle of friends. That's it. You don't dare venture outside of your own group for fear of being castrated or branded. Sometimes I felt like an outcast from the rest of my own Asian people just becasue my girlfriends were mostly Caucasian. Some Asian guys and especially Asian girls din't like it too much. (Well, I had really good open-minded Chinese, Korean, and Indian friends though to be fair.) But, that's another story that I cannot write about today. My trial and tribulation with Caucasian women will take too much time and space to write about in this forum, I'm afraid.
And you know what? I feel like I was as much sexually exploited by them - If I can use that term - as I might have used their companionship for my own selfish reasons. Hey, it's two way street...

I find some black women attractive, let me clarify my previous post. However, I'm not willing to go out, and marry one yet - maybe because I haven't met any black women who are equal or better than my previous girlfriends in all aspects of life. Besides, my family will universally oppose that kind of union. They have warmed up to the idea of dating Caucasian women quite considerably over the last decade. Still their number one preference is Asian, preferably Korean. I know there are a lot of beautiful, intelligent black women out there, maybe more so than Asian women in numbers. I heard 12% of US population is black, almost 3 times more popular than Asians in this country. Where have they all gone? Meanwhile my women of choice continue to be overwhelmingly Caucasian, so what?
One Korean Man    Wednesday, May 15, 2002 at 14:40:50 (PDT)
Russell's Sweet Delight,

I think Black women are so beautiful. I see them at the mall and at school and damn, they are so damn sexy. Its not just me its all my asian friens think that way 2. Dont let one asian guy get u down.
Azian Mail    Wednesday, May 15, 2002 at 13:11:34 (PDT)
Chifang, Korean Dude, I think you guys need to stop worrying about the race of women you date and worry about what is inside the women that you date. If you would not limit your thinking about the women you guys meet maybe you can find a suitable mate. Yes I am saying you should get rid of those preferences. I believe that preferences hold people back. They are like our everyday fears.
Is she asian? Is she white? I won't go out with a girl unless she is this height or this color or this weight. I mean, come on. I understand you may want some one physically appealing or sexually available. But is that all you want from a woman? Is her race that important when we are all Human anyways?
Women are women around the board. They all have the same fears and share all the same joys but experience it different because of the many cultures on this planet.

Also Korean dude, who says that black women are not attracted to asian men? You should see the AM/BW Poll on this site. This forum is full of black women posting daily about their love or adoration of asian men. You mean to tell me you have never been attracted to one black woman in your life? If you haven't, than you are really excluding this one race out of your dating scheme because of their race. And that would be sad and hypocritical. We are all the same we only look different because we have to have our own special identity.
Third Eye    Wednesday, May 15, 2002 at 12:50:47 (PDT)

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