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How an AF Built Great Communications with Her AM

never claimed all men are attracted to me, nor should they be. That's what makes this world great. There are so many different types of men and women who are attracted to different people. There are Asian men who are ideal for women like my friends and me, just like there are ideal women for guys like you. One reason we have a feisty, bitchy side is so that we can deal with the unwanted attention from guys. Since I already have a boyfriend, I don't need more romantic attention from other guys.
     Sometimes, I have to turn on my bitchy side to discourage guys so they can move on to other women. It's not something I like to do, but it's necessary sometimes. With my boyfriend, I am the woman he wants me to be because he is worth it. He's proven to me time after time that he is not only my boyfriend, but also my best friend. One reason we have such a strong relationship today is because we took the time to really get to know each other as "Friends First". I know you don't agree with many things I say and that's okay. I don't expect every guy to agree with me. Be happy! There are women who would be more agreeable to your views and a better fit for you.
     Tom Ho: Not bad response. However, I think you misunderstood the intent of my custom post to you. I was merely telling you there are barracudas like my friends who do not like guys that don't know when to listen without rebuttal. They are barracudas because they have too many guys after them. When I say listen without rebuttal, I don’t mean the guy must be a wimp always with no opinion and rubber stamps everything I say. One of the sexiest thing about my boyfriend is his confidence. There are appropriate times in communications between men and women where specific responses are important and appropriate to a healthy relationship.
     There is a time to listen without rebuttal, a time to debate, a time to argue, a time to have a point by point discussion, a time to convince, a time to makeup, a time to be quietly supportive, etc. My boyfriend and I have a strong relationship because we both know when and what type of responses to use since we know each other so well.
     When a woman takes the time to give you sincere advice, this is one of those times to listen without rebuttal and be supportive. She will appreciate you more for it. Let me give you an opposite example. My boyfriend asked me recently what I thought about him investing in a new business. Whenever he is passionate about anything, I know good things will follow. He had rehearsed many good reasons to convince me this new business would be a great idea for both of us. I noticed how passionate and excited he was even talking to our consultants about different aspects of this business.
     This was one of those times for me to listen without rebuttal and be supportive. I did not need to engage him in a long debate or discussion about investing in this business because I trust him to make an intelligent and diligent decision. What I said to him was straightforward and simple. "I can tell you are passionate and excited about this business. I trust you to do the right things. You have my full support." No further discussion was necessary. My Boyfriend appreciated my understanding support.
     Not all communications require a long debate. Sometimes, a monologue is the most appropriate for the specific situation. In fact, some of the best communications between men and women don't even involve words, but body language. My message to you: Know your partner so well that you know when and what type of responses will be most appropriate for a healthy and strong relationship.
     Kevin Yang: Thanks! You are a class act. I think many of us Asian females are just silently happy. Since my boyfriend is my best friend, I really don't have anything to complain about. But others are not as lucky as me. They must have challenges in their life and just need to vent. Hopefully, when they are finished venting, they can go on to have a healthy and strong relationship.
     I think I've responded to everyone who posted to me. If I did not acknowledge your kind words, please forgive me. Take care Everyone!
     Luv
Asian Princess

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