Baffled by a Chinese Mother-in-Law
am a black woman. I try to be postive. I have been married for 4 years to an Asian American (we dated 3 years prior). Now his dad thinks I'm great, but his mother (they are divorced), I'm not so sure about.
When we first went out I asked my husband why is your mother ignoring me and he said what are you talking about. With a little pressing he said that his mother thought I was an "oreo," yes a asian mother doesn't like me, because I'm an oreo. Then he went on to say that she thought I would break up with him for a white guy. I was a little offended, but I let it go. Then we dated for a while we got married, so obviously I wasn't going to leave him. But still she is very cold to me (in my opinion), so I asked my husband what's the deal what is it and then he said, "well that's just how chinese people are." I just don't know. I try to relate to her. Maybe it's just that I know something is wrong and I just want someone to say it. I have never openly said this, but every so often it goes through my mind that maybe she has a problem with me, because I'm black.
It just really hurts my feelings, because if my husband and I go out with her to a neighborhood eatery, she will say this is my son, but she won't introduce me, but then when I ask my husband about it she said she did I just didn't hear her.
I feel as if I'm crazy or something. I'm not overly sensitive and I don't think I am crazy, but I wonder. I should just let it go, but I can't. I've known that woman for over 7 years and she has said 20 words to me.
by LLI
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