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How My Family Came to Accept Marisa

en years ago, my parents insisted that I date and marry only a AA Chinese woman. Chinese is not good enough, must be AA too. Since I was just a innocent teenager, I listened to my parents. Alot of their thinking about Non-Asians were really from ignorance and lack of actual interaction. Anyway back then, my mother got her hair done at a beauty salon and her stylist was a very nice Vietnamese woman. This was the start of the change for my mom. She actually said to me, "Son, if you want to date a Vietnamese woman, you have my blessing." All this because my mom started interacting with Vietnamese people and had great experiences. I went on to date two Vietnamese women. But for professional reasons and distances between us, the relationship later fell apart. Fast forward to two years ago, a Latin family moved into our neighorhood. At first, my mom was very aloof with them. But I welcomed them to the neighborhood, and I noticed their daughter, a beautiful latina named Marisa, was quite friendly with me. We talked alittle bit and came up with the idea of a house warming party. At the party, the parents met. I talked to Marisa's parents and Marisa must have charmed my Mom and Dad because after the party, my Mom said Marisa seemed like a nice girl. My mom knows me very well and she sensed that I liked Marisa. That was her way of telling me it's okay to date Marisa. Fast forward to now. Marisa and I have been dating for almost two years. I'm waiting for her to finish college because that is very important to her and her family. I don't want to distract her from her goals, so I am holding off on proposing to her. Her mom and dad already knows I love her and want to marry her. But they asked me to hold off until she finishes college. So I'm respecting her parent's wishes. The point of my story to you. Please don't jump to conclusions and say that we think Non-Asian, Non-White women are the plague. When you understand there is alot more pressure on Asian men than there are on Asian women, then you see it's not really closed-mindedness, but the Asian men having to deal with the cultural issues. Ten years ago, I never would have thought about marrying anyone other than a AA Chinese woman. Today, I'm a year and a half away from marrying Marisa. Half a year to let Marisa graduate from college to honor her parent's wishes(I am already a college graduate), and then I formally pop the question. One year to plan two wedding ceremonies. One in Argentina with her extended family and one in the USA for my extended family. If a stubborn mom like mine can change because she sees how happy Marisa makes me, then other Asian Moms can change too!
Chinese American Man

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