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Hi, Im Jessica Tsab and I am a white female married to a Hmong-Thai male.

Has anyone ever noticed that its more "socially acceptable" for an AF / WM couple to exist than an AM / WF?

Why is that?

(personal experience-- I was in the mall with my husband and a tiny Asian woman walked by me with her white boyfriend.
Later we came across each oter and she was trying on shoes. I had said hi to her boyfriend *we recognized each other from high school and she went off on me telling me not to try to take her man. About that time, my husband returned from the bathroom and she turned bright red from embarrasment. )

Why automatically assume because someone is a certain color, they automatically like a certain race?

-jessicatsab

What you experienced is the dumb AF (usually FOB) phenomenon.

There is a high percentage of dumb AF(usually not American-born) and WM with Asian fetish. Though it cannot instantly be classified as unhealthy relationship to give them the benefit of the doubt. I'm ok with it because :
1. I'm not them
2. Whatever works for them. If they have lasting marriage, nobody else can question them

In my life I've encountered prideful and secure AF and the opposite types. The opposite types hide their insecurity very well and like to claim that they like certain features of WM. Their exposure to other races is so little that when they are overseas, they think everybody looks like Brad Pitt because they can't distinguish an attractive WM from a less attractive ones. I know quite a few Thai girls who have personality defect. I don't know where to start or how to explain, I just left them alone and cut off contact with them.

White lady

I didn't know it was more socially acceptable for a WM/AF than AM/WF. Do you have any experiences to support that view?

I honestly don't think anyone really cares, at least in the NW where I live.

LOL at that AF who told you not to take her man........ so insecure.

I live here in Virginia (because Im in the Navy and so is my husband) and yes. When it comes to even just being seen in town, people give my husband and I weird looks, they treat me differently, and several of my African-American counterparts always joke about things like "You need a black man" "That Asian **** isnt doin' it for ya, is it?" I get a lot of hell. But there is a Vietnamese girl, Anna, who also works there at the precinct (Im military police) and she's engaged to this guy Rob, and he's white. They never give her any hell about it. She and I usually are put on post together, ride together, etc. (bc there isnt many females at our precinct that get along well enough) And Anna even told me "...they give you a lot of s*** about your husband..." so yes, indeed I do have an experience to support that.

--JessicaTsab

JT.

You're not allowed to fraternize in the military, didn't the SSG's go over it with you in basic?

Just a joke... well it is a legit question... but don't take it personally.

Also I'm not sure if the teasing is serious, most of the time military people give each other sh** just for fun.

You can always respond "hey guys, Asians are the most populated "race" on earth for a reason" *wink wink*

maybe u should go tell ur black friends to f-ck off, find their own women, and mind their own business...black people have been complaining since practically the beginning of time about racism and stereotypical remarks towards them, so they're certainly not in a position to make racist remarks about other groups....

the same people who believe that black men have the largest di-ks also believe that all black people (not just the men) have the smallest brains.....so, PRETEND that the myths are all true: I think ANY man would prefer a smaller di-k in order to have a larger brain.......

also, are u living for others or are you living for yourself?

anyone who gets together w/ someone of another race is gonna have to deal w/ these kinds of issues and believe it or not asian females who date/marry white males deal w/ that kinda sh-t too, if not from white people, then certainly from other asian people.....i'm certainly not defending those asian females whose internalized racism may make them want to marry outside their race or becuz they think they're "better" than their "people," but many of them are ostracized by their respective asian communities if not to their faces, then certainly behind their backs once they get together w/ a white man.....i've heard what asian people (not just the asian men) will say about some asian girl w/ a white guy (and it's definitely not complimentary) and those asian girls are very likely aware of it too....so, no one gets off clean in the process..

perhaps your viet female friend is not telling you the complete truth about her experiences...

so, what i'm trying to tell you is that you shouldn't feel that u.s. society doesn't accept you or be bothered by the fact that some don't accept your situation....if you are truly bothered, then perhaps you never should've gotten married to this fellow to begin with becuz you can't handle it....

AZMAN,

The story that black men are well-endowed is one of the biggest myths known to mankind. I've see enough to to snow the truth.

jessicatsab,
Those people areso ignorant that you just need to ignore them.

azman

Sometimes I feel compelled to say something about AF/WM relationship is because I often see a FOB AF who can't speak English properly with a WM who makes himself a doormat. These WM will be nice to the girls at first but when they're married and they notice that they're not any different from any females except probably harder to communicate with, then it's Hell for both of them.

So no, I don't give weird stares to AF/WM. I couldn't give a sh*t. But it quite sad if things are to end that way.

generally speaking the asian-white interracial thing is a fad and should be gone in the next 10 years.

interracial in general is for the "losers" of both of the participating person's races. Let's just look at the most common:

-fat white woman and underclass black man (nobody wants a fat woman, black men in general are poor and want status), better than black women cause white = money and submissiveness compared to loud black elephant women.)

-ugly asian woman, 2nd rate white man (asian woman is ugly and/or fat 9/10 times unless the white guy is rich, which he isn't 9/10 times. white guy is too fat, short, balding socially inept (nerdy) or looks like a 7 foot frankenstein, take your pic)

-white-wannabe a$ian "man", fat/gold digger/nerdy white woman (asian man turns bald, wears black all the time, tries hard to be white, never will be. White woman is usually fat unless the Asian guy is rich; us Asian guys are generally shorter and hence we got smaller penises; the pariahs of society, particularly the porn industry where the truth perpetuates itself hardest in this stereotype.)

-little asian man, black woman (two pariahs of society, one sexually and socially (that's us!), the other economically. This type of couple is seen as a total pity case and a "last resort." but this isn't too common knowing how proud and stubborn us asian men are.)

-big and poor black MAN, little china asian woman (black men are lazy and asian women are women so they both won't make much, so the dude will be dependent on her until he decides to leave. he will impregate the asian woman, maybe leave an std, and proceed to his next impregnation thinking nothing of it. double minority kids of asian/black are ostracized like no other on this planet, regardless of who their parents are. pity them.)

-normal white man, good looking black woman (he's white and rules the world, while the woman is black and knows white = money and SECURITY, so she becomes more feminine although this is another pity case, and also not as common. White men and men in general want a woman will cook and clean for us at will.)

..........And all of their kids end being absolutely ****ed up.

Oh, if we just coulda stuck it out a little longer, everything would have been a lot better.

Now listening to:
U2 - Where the Streets Have No Name

Pearl City

I wish you could have been more creative, then it would actually be funny rather than lame.

Good idea but bad execution.

Anyways, better luck next time.

how the hell did this post get off topic so quickly?? She is only asking why af/wm seem more socially accpetable, not why they are together. If you see something often enough, it won't seem as strange. there are more af/wm couples, wm are percevied to be weathier, better educated, and more dominant, so it seems natural for a female to pursue men with those perceived qualities. there are a lot less am/wf couples, am on the other hand, are perceived to be weak, asexual, geeky, and more submissive, so obviously when people see a wf with an am, they are thinking: what's wrong with her??? and all that BS about interracial relationship are amongst the "losers" of the races is just ignorant and idiotic. sure there are fat wf with poor bm, but i have also seems some hot ass wf with wealthy bms. there are some truth in what peralcityguy is saying, but to say that MOST IR relationship are built on pity and agenda sounds kind of insecure to me. stop staring at the grapes that you can't reach, stop watching Jerry Springers and stop making generalizations that yourself would find offensive.

to the original poster: i think EVERY IR couple gets the staring and the whispering and some differential treatment. you might think you had it tough, but trust me, your husband has gone through worse all his life. just focus on your husband, be glad you found a man you love, and screw all those prejudice, racist assholes.

as for every IR couple, including myself when i was interracial:

i was always on the lookout for people looking at me from behind when i was with the non-asian women because I knew this wasn't considered normal. any interracial couple you come across will "feel" stares on them, it's like you're eating in a room with people all sitting down, or stealing. you know it's not normal, but you do it anyway.

the kids have to live with "switching sides" all their life. Japanese/white kids hang only around filipinos in hawaii, and from what ive been seeing on myspace it's the same thing. so it's not only in hawaii. Filipina/white kids hang around Chinese and Japanese kids because they know that both their sides reject them.

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white-wannabe a$ian "man", fat/gold digger/nerdy white woman (asian man turns bald, wears black all the time, tries hard to be white, never will be. White woman is usually fat unless the Asian guy is rich;

Ok, well I'm white, attractive face with long blonde hair, blue eyes, slim with curves and have (real) breasts. I'm not nerdy or a gold digger as my boy ain't rich. I can't help but wonder if you got this view from those online AM/WF yahoo clubs. If you go on that, sure I agree with you..the WF's are usually one or more of the following: overweight, 40ish looking for younger AM, divorced, single moms, slim but plain, ugly , nut job, or work as strippers, hookers , or just plain tarty. Most of those women are online looking in those clubs as well as joined up to online dating services for a *reason*. I suggest you look at the ones in real life instead.

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i was always on the lookout for people looking at me from behind when i was with the non-asian women because I knew this wasn't considered normal. any interracial couple you come across will "feel" stares on them,

You obviously have some issues if you care so much about what *strangers* on the street think of you and whoever your dating. It should only matter what your family and friends think. Do you think these strangers give a damn what you think of them? Of course not. But if you want to play it safe, marry an AF instead so you have one less thing to worry about when going out in public.

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the kids have to live with "switching sides" all their life. Japanese/white kids hang only around filipinos in hawaii, and from what ive been seeing on myspace it's the same thing. so it's not only in hawaii. Filipina/white kids hang around Chinese and Japanese kids because they know that both their sides reject them.

What are you going to do if one of your kids gets into a IR and they want to marry and have kids? What happens to your *safe* world then? Will you be a bigot and tell your kids not to date anyone non-asian? See the problem is not IR, it's not the racists out there, the problem is you and your paranoia. If you were to have mixed kids and you raise them to have self confidence and belief in their own value as a human being, they will be fine. But if you project onto them your own insecurities and paranoia about what everyone else must be thinking, it goes without saying they will turn out to be basket cases like you.

I think you need to get some self respect and confidence, so you will be respectful and attractive enough for a woman to want to be around.

[QUOTE] interracial in general is for the "losers" of both of the participating person's races. Let's just look at the most common:

-fat white woman and underclass black man (nobody wants a fat woman, black men in general are poor and want status), better than black women cause white = money and submissiveness compared to loud black elephant women.)

-ugly asian woman, 2nd rate white man (asian woman is ugly and/or fat 9/10 times unless the white guy is rich, which he isn't 9/10 times. white guy is too fat, short, balding socially inept (nerdy) or looks like a 7 foot frankenstein, take your pic)

-white-wannabe a$ian "man", fat/gold digger/nerdy white woman (asian man turns bald, wears black all the time, tries hard to be white, never will be. White woman is usually fat unless the Asian guy is rich; us Asian guys are generally shorter and hence we got smaller penises; the pariahs of society, particularly the porn industry where the truth perpetuates itself hardest in this stereotype.)

-little asian man, black woman (two pariahs of society, one sexually and socially (that's us!), the other economically. This type of couple is seen as a total pity case and a "last resort." but this isn't too common knowing how proud and stubborn us asian men are.)

-big and poor black MAN, little china asian woman (black men are lazy and asian women are women so they both won't make much, so the dude will be dependent on her until he decides to leave. he will impregate the asian woman, maybe leave an std, and proceed to his next impregnation thinking nothing of it. double minority kids of asian/black are ostracized like no other on this planet, regardless of who their parents are. pity them.)

-normal white man, good looking black woman (he's white and rules the world, while the woman is black and knows white = money and SECURITY, so she becomes more feminine although this is another pity case, and also not as common. White men and men in general want a woman will cook and clean for us at will.)

..........And all of their kids end being absolutely ****ed up.

Oh, if we just coulda stuck it out a little longer, everything would have been a lot better.

Now listening to:
U2 - Where the Streets Have No Name

pearlcityguy,
If you are trying ro be sarcastic, it's not working.
If not, then have some hope. Maybe one day, you'll end up with a fat (fill in ethnicity) woman, who will try to drain you of every penny you have earned.

the [expletive] are you two talking about. this is what i see. i live in hawaii and this is dead on what i see when i step outside in public. generally speaking, i have seen very very few exceptions. And don't forget about those kids having identity crises and hanging around another ethnic group different from both their halves.

this is a trend and again something i notice because we got so much of this [expletive] going on. You think it's cause all of these mixed kids are open minded? no. it's cause they know both their sides feel uncomfortable around them and prefer not to associate, for fear or whatever. Interracial is obviously not for everyone. it creates these uncomfortable mixed kids, and it pisses people off.

if you're an AM reading this and thinking about doing the interracial, don't if you can help it. what i just described will be the same for your future mixed kids unless they're purebred and/or adopted. then all they'd have is a last name they would easily change, if the situation called for it.

pearlcityguy....

You're over 20. Just grow up mentally for change and stop judging everything by using yourself as a standard. You are beginning to sound like my nieghbor's parents killing him from the inside out bit by bit until there's nothing but a wasted shell of a man.

You may call it as is based on your own experiences around or growing up with mixed kids. What you have only proven is that life will be hard and is everything else. And that you are a coward afraid to face a few challenges. Always trying to play it safe. You sound very old. Don't tell me that your self-conscience prevented you from trying to go out with someone who interested you and vice versa solely on the basis of race?

You sound like a pushover.... meaning that you have let what others think of you dictate your own actions and thoughts. If you buy into those concerns 100% of the time, then you are not living life to the fullest. In turn, you may very well thorwn in the towel and prove those bigots right.

So what if people are going to stare or question or ridicule?!?! Let them! The world needs a bit of chaos to challenge the social status quo every now and then. What others may criticize as abnormal or strange should not reaffirm that you're a freak for trying to go interracial or some bull[expletive]. If you're half a man, then you know very well that you have committed no crime against nature (we're still the same genus and species last I checked) by going out with someone a bit different on the superficial level. You think that you got it bad for trying to go interracial. Try it in my folks time when whole community mobs of confused, supertitous, paranoid, mis-informed white men would burn your house and yourself just because you took a white girl or Mexican girl for a dance.

Let me tell you something. If mono-racial marriages are purported to create stable families and kids, then why is it that that nearly 65% of marriages in the United States end up in divorce? I highly doubt that all 100% of those 65% failed marriages are interracial given the current racial demographics. We all still make up for 4% of the American population. Blacks make up for over 12%.

Keep in mind that whoever you marry that any past insecurities and pains that you may have harbored do not completely disappear and can bleed in your marraige and family life before you become aware of it. THIS statement also includes mono-racial marraige and relationships.

don't even look at my profile. step outside and look at things objectively. do you really wanna create these rejects of society? do you really wanna be responsible for your wife giving birth to some thing that doesn't know what the hell it is or where it came from, switching sides all the time just to get along with people? come on! you don't want that responsibility!

you want the reason for the high divorce rate? this is america: capitali$t society with a heavy dose of liberal feminism: it breaks apart families. this is why there's such a high number of divorces - women wanting more for less. nothing is so un-sexy as a "strong" woman. come on.

but anyway, you don't want to deal with the crap of mixed race children if you don't have to. that's why i'm saying interracial is wrong.

I happen to be mixed race and my boyfriend is Chinese. Pearl City guy
you sound very hateful and ignorant. Our racial make-up is only
tissue covering bones. Our souls are what matter so who cares about
genetics. There are high rates of divorce because people are
selfish and make unwise choices then bail out when it's too hard.
They say dumb and hurtful things. Sound familiar?

To pearlcityguy,

Oh my Godness, I must have struck a nerve. Your comments on creating these "rejects of society" are starting to look very similar to those comments from a Stormfront white-supremist website.

Man, you sound angry, confused, and very hurt. Sounds like you have been hurt before. There's got to be a series of drama behind your asinine remarks.Get some help fast before this bleeds in a relations you may have right now or that of your neighbors who may have taken the "wrong" path of IR into their marriage. Try to say that their kids are rejects in front of their face.

You think you got problems with mixed kids. Just say that in front of them and try not to be so shocked if a fist makes contact with your face.....as what happened with my uncle and his Irish-born wife when some dip[expletive] nieghbor called his three kids "mongrels." The wife, who first struck the blow, felt very vindicated to do so. No surprise here, those are her kids that that igoramous was talking about.

I don't think that you have the guts even though you may think of them as no more special than an insect. That's not going to help them go through college or preschool.

Unless we both have had raised kids, you and me are in the same boat. My judgment on raising kids may not hold as much weight as your judgment that mixed kids are destined to be pariahs since we're not parents. The only thing I know about raising kids is that it's only an understatement to say it's tough. It would test you resolve to their limits no matter if the kids are mixed or not. If you do have kids or have seen kids that are mixed and they have problems about their identities and what society thinks about them, they need your full support and whatever love you possess, NOT you anger and pity. You are NOT helping by compounding their problems.

The only thing wrong with interracial relationships and having kids in my opinion is when one or both partners think that thier marraige would help change the opinions of others around them. That it would help them become more tolerant of their marriage and kids. People may change but it's up to them to change. Just a reminder that you are not the master of them but their opinions should not be the master of you.

i dont wanna hurt their feelings so i dont say it to them in their face. but you know they know what they are. also i got a life of my own. i just dont wanna see more asian guys stuck in a situation so strange and awful.

btw, if you look at history irish are on the lowest tier of white people, class wise. that's a double eww.

Pearlcity guy

You give out lots of abstract examples.

I would like to hear explicit stories to illustrate your point.

"oh its hard", "its terriable" "aweful"

Those words mean NOTHING.

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btw, if you look at history irish are on the lowest tier of white people, class wise. that's a double eww.

Despite what you say about their class standing and apprearance, they had managed do very well wiith their own lives without naysayers pointing otherwise at their kids. Both the Filipino and Irish sides of this couple absolutely adore their union and their three children, two daughters and a younger son. Thanks to them I had the opportunity to visit their mom's homeland of "lowest tier" people who demostrated their "lowest tier" form of hospitality. Rejects of white society or not, I had fun with them and know that they would not take [expletive] from anyone with the nerve to screw around with them.

As for the kids, I personally think that they'll do fine, esp. the eldest daughter. She's been through quite a few stares and nasty rumors at her school and would care less what anybody thinks about her dubious origins. Like her mother, she's not afraid to give anyone a piece of her mind both verbally and physically. Like her father, she does not passively let respect and acceptance come to her but earns it by first by respecting herself for who she is and what she is. She does not wallow longer than a picosecond with self-pity. In her school, her dad quoted her fellow classmates and friends that say, "Only the stupid pick a fight with her."

And this is part of the reason....

This "double eww" union of supposedly "low tier" rejects has managed to produce their eldest daughter, of 9 years, to be a Gold Medalist at the 24th U.S. Junior Olympics Taekwondo Championships of 2004 in Atlanta, Georgia. She placed first in the 8-9 Blue Female 55 lbs. & Under SPARRING Bracket.

Half Asian kids are taught to hate the males of the mother's side.

They are trained by their parents, consciously or subconsciously to hate the males of the mother's side. Some other type of asian that doesn't look like the males on the mother's side. This is because the father of the half-breed hates the males of that side because he feels threatened, if not, uneasy when he takes his wife around those males, for fear of being assaulted or criticized or whatever.

Generally, Japanese/white families where dad is White.... Kids hate Japanese males, kids and parents hang around filipinos
Filipino/White where dad is filipino... Kids hate White males, hang around Japanese, Black, some other type of asian that doesn't look like the males on the mother's side. And the purebreeds reciprocate this sentiment, and choose not to hang around them.

Pearlcity guy

Nice stories.

BTW. are you related to the former iraqi information minister?

come to hawaii, PLA. and then you'd shut up

And what do those stories and accounts have to actually do with you? It's not like you are going to get married in the next couple of years!!! Who does at your age? No offense, but I don't think you are ready for kids period unless you first patch yourself up. You may be fair and objective on your observations but are so damn self-conscious of your actions and wants. I may give a tacit approval of your accounts from Hawaii but in conjunction with the topic that you started, holding such thoughts is simply not healthy in the long run.

If you don't want to have the complications of kids, mixed or purebreed, that's okay! You can still have IR relations. My younger brother and I have already done it with the help of contraceptives.

i agree. wear a rubber when you date interracial

cant have these half breed freaks running around wreckless all day messing with the overall state of society. get abortions if the condom breaks, or pay 18 years child support for a mud baby mistake. there. why do i call them mistake? cause no one coud possibly love a mixed race. it just isn't natural.

I think I've spotted a Troll.

its not trolling if its true

pearlcityguy,

That second to the last of your statements pretty much speaks volumes about how you view yourself and others not like you.

For the record, I probably find myself wishing to be engaged to a Filipina or other Asian mostly due to exposure and other environmental factors influencing my preferences. However, I do know that my tastes can change and have had changed or been added. if I ever find a wonderful woman to spend my life with, I'm opportunistic not to dismiss her because of racial complications. I know very well that my family raised me to take on whatever challenges one may face with such demographics.

I do agree that having kids, esp. mixed kids, has its own unique set of challenges ,but I cannot bring myself to call mixed kids freaks. Jesus Christ kiddo, I received far more understanding from white folks, even the white-supremist kind, than little pricks like you. I already had to deal with that [expletive] from other asians and non-asian idiots for being a mixed asian (spanish/mestizo, chinese, and filipino/malay). I neither pity muti-racial children nor project my insecurities on them. I attempt to give whatever help and support I can muster so that they could help themselves. Just don't come to California with that attitude around my friends and I, or you might find yourself feeding off a straw. Unless, you are ranting here just to get attention like another fighting44s forum?

Pearlcity

How ya like Amerka now home boy?

You dunt like muds eh? Well tough cookies for you Mr. KKK

Check the census lately? 30% of America is non-white and the multi-racial percentage of Americans are growing exponetially.

There ain't nothin you can do about it either.

Ah ha. I just sent you a Ryu fireball, what is you counter move NOW?

Just remember peartcity guy that you may pick your clothes, your spouse, or your ass but YOU can't pick your relatives. If your kids ever run away from you, they don't have to do it but I understand. You advocate about us asian guys not getting themselves into unnatural IR unions. I do the same for guys like you who may find themselves distancing themselves completely from their kids because they happen to bring home a spouse that doesn't look like you. From objective reasoning and analysis, no party, even the parent, finds themselves ever happy even if the parent succeeds in breaking such a union. I'll let you find that out for yourself.

it's cause we got minds of our own! we aint docile malleable stupid asian women who get an ego trip and apprehensive everytime we criticize them of interracial! we as asian men can be reasoned with which is why me convincing us and only us is more likely to be a success than with an asian woman. it's a word of warning. these kids are not normal.

and exponential? no PLA, not true. i live in hawaii and there are more monorace kids than mixed race here, and they do hang around each other by choice, whites with whites, asians with asians. But it's the handful of asian men who made the stupid choice that most asian women make that i don't want to see happen. it's like following them into the quicksand, creating sad looking mexican weeds.

PLA,

I bet pearl's the same type of guy I've had seen from the fighting44s that tries so hard to prove himself by dating IR as a way of evening the score. Not to mention, he could the same type of guy that moans and bitches constantly about white guys taking his women. That excuse is older than his ancestors. It's classic Beta or even Omega male characteristics.To be fair, I've heard the same complaints from hispanic and some white dudes who accuse us of taking their own women. Misery does surely love company, and victimization complexes know no blood, race, creed, age, or gender. That's okay if one wishes to critque the dating status quo but it's not productive when you do nothing to empower your situation and yourself.

Back to the original topic, I already admire many of the female posters who have the courage and tenacity and understanding of the risks for their decision to be with their asian hubands. I find no self-esteem issues to the likes of our certain opinionated poster. So far, I don't see any one of them back down from a difficult situation and qui so easily..

this isn't really about interracial as it is about half breeds and the human race in general, how they interact with people.

those asian american authors/activists who claim pride and then sell out by marrying white: frank chin, amy tan, david mura... all coulda had something good until they sold out and lost all their credibility to speak. they have no voice at all, or anything in being a hypocrite.

there's nothing inherently wrong w/ dating/marrying someone who is of a different race/ethnicity ...

the problem is that some forms of interracial stuff reinforce age-old stereotypes...or people enter into these things based on some unrealistic fantasy about the other group....

and we as asian-americans know all too well what the classic example is: the white male/"knight in shining armor" "liberating" the asian female from her "oppressor," that vile creature called the asian-male!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

does anyone know which group of men in the u.s. are the greatest wife-beaters, sexual assaulters, rapers, etc.???

hint, it's NOT the yellow man!!!!!!!!!!

i could care less about that and it's out of my control. but when you see these half-breeds created by asian men? just, no.

if you can marry and procreate wiht your own race, asian guys, please do. if not, get a bride from your home country and get a prenup just in case she adopts that gimme gimme american attitude. Or just stay single. you don't want the baggage associated with interracial kids.

i live in hawaii and let me tell you, it's very racialized here. in local government, in society and in the jobs and neighborhoods. look at human history and you'll see people tend not to mix interracially unless some kind of upheaval occurs, which is rare. so choose to not do it if you can.

sounds like you've had a bad personal experience...

maybe somewhat counterintuitively, a place where asians are in the majority is NOT the right place for you...

i not trying to "diss the sistaz," but dating/marrying an asian-american woman is hardly a picnic...and an asian male should definitely not do it for "the cause"...that's a terrible reason to, in my view from time to time though not always, throw ur life down the drain.. ..

still hoping to hear about that racial utopia out there....when i find it, i'll be packing my bags....

you miss the point. mixed race kids do not get along as well as one race kids, and asian men should be smart enough not to make the mistake that others have made, that's too much problem, too much explaining. there's gonna be subtle racism at family meetings, hate stares and always a hint of paranoia while out in public, etc, for simply creating a kid who's mixed race and being interracial.

and secondarily, look at the couples themselves. it won't matter if it's a common interracial or not. you see all these interracial couples getting rejected, ignored, stared at, denied certain courtesies. why would a man want that? sure, a woman would go for that if there was some money or attention in it for them. but a man? what possible benefit could there be going interracial? not much. so if you're offered the choice, the path of least resistance is really better. make the right decision from the beginning.

being mixed race is worse than being gay cause you can't hide it.

Pearlcity is a TROLL



Man, I hope you choke up full of anger every time you see an interracial couple. Soon you'll die of a heart attack.

i don't really get angry at interracial couples. i could care less. most people here don't see life with mixed kids like how i see it.

i don't really get angry at interracial couples. i could care less. most people here don't see life with mixed kids like how i see it.

pearlcityguy,

1) What woman rejected you?2) Why is it too much problem, too much explaining to other people about interracial children? Who said they had to explain anything?

The reason why interracial children have problems of being accepted into society is because of the attitudes and comments that poeple like you use. Half-breed?! C'mon this isn't the 70s. I mean you make it sound like if one asian male goes outside of his race for love, then the whole asian race is doomed for eternity.

Why do you compare everything to Hawaii? Every other place in the US is not the same as your area of existence. Where I'm located, it's not unusual to see mixed children. It's no big deal here.

For someone who doesn't really care about interracial couples, sure did an a lot of angry posting on this subject.

lioncub21

black women seek after asian men because both are social rejects of mass america. but that doesnt mean that because black men rejected you and white men dont want black women, that asian men will want black women. that's only an added insult to us. get out of goldsea. go back to your hood on blackplanet or wherever you go.

pearlycityguy:

" being mixed race is worse than being gay cause you can't hide it."

I'm starting to think you're hiding you're gay. I guess that makes sense, you're not having "mixed-kids" anytime soon

ohh yea. totally gay babe