Hey everyone, i'm new to this site and I just want to know what you all think of interracial couples.

I'm white and my future husband is korean. No matter where we go we get stared at and people shake thier heads at us. Sometimes I can hear peoples rude comments. Once I even had some lady get in my face and tell me to stick with my own race. I don't understand if color is just skin deep why people are bothered so much. I don't mean to generalize but the only people who seem to be more excepting really are other asians.

I see so many tattered families... kids out of wedlock and divorces but even though we are so in love and so happy people don't except that


This is a picture of me and my future husband

Hi Mulana,

My husband and I experienced the same things when we were dating. I am African-American he is Chinese. A Black woman and Asian man together is a rare sight indeed. We got the look of shock and curiosity from people, disapproving looks from the older asians. Its just something we don't let get to us. We love each other very much and everyone loves our little 2 year old daughter. (the elder asians had to admit she is beautiful) I nearly fainted . How did you two meet?

We met at my last job. He always came in to play 'dance dance revolution' and one day I was so incredibly tired and I was cleaning so I could go home and he just made a joke. After that it opened the doors of communication. We talked forever when he would come in and after about 9 months we started hanging out and then dating. And now we couldn't be happier

How did you meet your husband?

mulana, you're under 17 (according to your page), so its not surprising that you'd be shocked by people looking at you in your PARTICULAR interracial coupling of white woman / asian man.

there are a number of reasons, but the bottom line is that in a white male dominated society, we're simply used to seeing white men and asian women (if looking at an asian/white mix).

i've been in a few interracial couples, and the one that got the most stairs was my first girlfriend (about 22 years ago), who is mexican american. because her features made her look greek or italian, older white folks would call her 'whore' and 'n**ger lover', right in front of me. we just got used to it.

i've been in two interracial relationships since, including my current girlfriend, and the both were/are asian. as times have changed a LOT, the only stairs i noticed were from black women, and really only a few from them.

it's going to happen. its not 'good', but as long as you truly like/love your boyfriend, that's all that matters.

To al of you young interracial couples:
I am a korean man(50 years old) with three daughters two of them born in korea,one here(Queens,NY). My oldest daughter is married to a Salvadoran man(who looks european white) and they have a blondish looking child.
traditionally, i would of been happy about their marriage,but I learned to accept their decision.
After all they are adults. My younger daughters have dated white,black,latin,and asian men. I worry more about my daughters promiscuity than about their choice of boyfriends.
So my advice to all of you is to stick up to your principles,and don't let other people to influence your life choices. Iused to look down upon interracial couples,but not anymore. i came to realize that love comes in all colors and flavors. Unfortunately,prejudice and racism will always be part of our human nature and will always be a thorn on everyone.
Most of my asian neighbors disdain my daughter and her husband for being different,but this people are still living in the past. i told my daughters to not pay attention or ignore the stupid comments they get from neighbors and people in the street,many white people stares at them,as wellas other asians,and blacks. But they are living and managing their own life and should not let other people tell them what to do. So the advice is stick to your decisions. and hang in there.

My husband and I met at work. He was very shy and we had a mutual friend, so she basically brought us together and she didn't realize it. We were both nervous about our relationship at first, he had not really dated that much and had never brought anyone home to meet his family, I was also nervous about his families reaction to me. Race was not a big deal on my side ( my mother is black and my step-father is white). You will go through your ups and downs just like any other couple with a bit of a twist, be sensitive to each others cultures and traditions (they will be your childrens as well).

Hi Mulana,
I was curious about your profile: You list yourself as chinese-american,yet on your post you say you're white,and even show a pic looking white.???????????
Can you please elaboarate to avoid confusion or misinterpretations? Thank you,and good luck.

I don't think there's anything wrong with inter-racial dating/marriages. But, you want to know what sucks even more? People who think you're an inter-racial couple, when you're not!


My boyfriend and I are both Indians (the ones from India), but people think that we're an inter-racial couple. Some people think that he's South-East Asian, but he's as Indian as anything. Chinese, Koreans, and Phillipinos have given us dirty looks, because they were so quick to assume that he was either a Cambodian or Phillipino guy dating an Indian girl. There were even a few moronic Indians, who thought we were a Phillipinio male/Indian female couple. One Indian girl gave us a dirty look, and another girl said "Awww.. How cute." They both were suprised to find out that my boyfriend was Indian.

It was funny at first, but now it's annoying. The thing is is that I think it's easy to discern that my boyfriend is Indian. But, it's difficult for others to recognize that. It's a pain in the ass to be mistaken for something that you're not everyday, and have people tell you "Oh my goodness! How can you be (insert nationality here)?"

mulana,

if anybody gives ever gives you $hit i and many people on this forum will be ready to pounce on them.

god bless you & you have a very handsome bf!

Andre,
I don't understand what is wrong with my profile... I fix it and It keeps going back to saying I'm younger then 17 and I'm chinese, and I'm not either. Yes, I am white as you can tell by my pic and I'm 18. Sorry about the confussion, I repeatidly fix it but it keeps screwing up.

hahaha.... Thank you amourpropre that mad my day :0)

True love is hard to find so when you do find it take that journey for as long as you can. If the relationship is worth it, go for it. In fact if anything is worth it, go for it.

Love is grand, stay strong!

Prejudice is as natural as anything else for us humans. Jews hate palestinians and vice-versa, whites hate blacks,and vice-versa(claiming they commit most of the crimes in the cities), blacks don't like koreans( I am still wondering why? korean commercial success???) koreans and other asians don't like blacks(thye think of them as troublemakers) and so on. also, whites and blacks don't like latinos(they see them as a pest). so go figure and arrive at your own conclusions!

I have a friend who is white and is married to a Jewish man. She has had Jewish women tell her that only Jewish women should marry Jewish men, including her mother in law

There will always be ignorant people, or as Andre said people living the past.

I have been married to my wonderful korean husband for 17 years and what ever people think does not matter, they wish they had the love that we do. Good luck to you, it will be fine. Hold on to each other.
Ann and Jimma

Mulana, don't worry about it. I walk down the street with my wife (she's Caucasian-American) and I'm Japanese-Canadian. I find I get my share of nasty stares from whites as well as Asians. I don't worry about it. Stares don't bother me. If someone tries to get in my face about it and start something, well hells bells, then I'll finish it. But if it's just stares...who cares. Words are words. Mostly it's from WWII era types who figure "What's a [Japanese] like him mingling with one of us?" or "What's a pretty girl like her doing with a [Japanese]?" Well, who gives a rat's butt about it? I certainly don't. My mother and uncles may have been interned in Slocan during WWII and hold resentment towards whites, but why should I? Life's full of more pressing matters to deal with than to hold on to grudges.

In any case, the only thing that should matter to you is the satisfaction that you get from the relationship that you and your husband have together.

I'm Chinese-Canadian and engaged to an African American.

We met through an online dating service a year ago. I admit that on my profile, I put that I was open to men of any ethnic background (because I am--skin color is not criteria to me) but I was quietly sifting the black guys, Indians, latinos etc, out of my inbox. I narrowed my selection to Mongoloid-Asians and Whites--simply because these races are only acceptable to my family (parents, aunts, uncles) and I didn't want any trouble. Obvious to say that my parents are not supportive of interracial relationships.

But life has a funny way of making your life hell by giving you a guy who meets almost all your criterias (and surpasses some of them) but he just happens to be black (AND American, lol). It's funny at his end too--he thought I was part black based on my pictures.

My parents are really upset that my little sister is marrying an older white guy that doesn't have a 'real' job. However, my dating a sucessful, handsome black guy was even WORST. I recall many many family fights that ended with me running up to my room and balling my eyes out.

Sigh. This is definitely not easy as I love and adore my parents, and to see them oppose my choice of man really hurts me.

Thanks for pointing that out Andre. I often hear the term ASIA PACIFIC. I dont know why this exists in the USA??? In other parts of the globe like New Zealand Australia, Asian and Pacific communities are different VERY different. Never say to a Samoan they are Asian. Bad move.

I will say that i love the Japanese! I havent had affiliation with Korean Chinese or other Asian people.

laters

I hope everything will come right soon. You are so beautiful! Keep the love alive!

All the best.

We are only responsible for our
Own selves predjudice is only born of ignorance which is bliss for most.

I am successful,black
And have dated more
Asian American females
Then the number of
Black females I can
Count on my fingers.

Do I prefer one over
The other?Not necessarily...I just
Want someone who truly
Makes me a better person.

The last girl I dated
Ironically was adopted
By a Black Chicagoan
Family. It didn't work
Because she doted on
My attention...All the time. Unfortunately
I produce television
And film and the hours
Long and arduous.
She had no real understanding of earning.Ultimately
She was happy celebrating mediocrity
While I continously
Sacrificed for the future.

I thought you were black, too. You said that you're Chinese, but why do you look black? There must be black somewhere in your family.