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"When you support your wife or your girlfriend, they can truly be something wonderful. But if you suppress them, all of a sudden the passion is gone and you don't know why."

Q: She wasn't Asian.
A: No.

Q: Was this a one-night stand, or part of a steady relationship?
A: It was not a one-night stand. It was a short-lived relationship with a girl from school. It's kind of strange calling it a "relationship," it sounds so formal.

Q: How many of those types of relationships did you have before you got married?
A: There was a period in my life when chasing after women was everything.

Q: When was that?
A: From high school up until the point that I got married three years ago.

Q: You had a Jewish girlfriend for two or three years, didn't you?
A: I don't really want to talk about that, because a very close Jewish friend of mine married her recently.

Q: Do you have any hard feelings that your friend married her?
A: No. In fact, I was very happy about it, because I think they are two very good people. My friend came up to me one day, and he said, "I need to talk to you." I said, "What?" and he said he was dating her. This was after I got married. He said, "I know it doesn't mean anything because you're married, but it means something between you and I. I'm about to cross that line, and I didn't want to cross it before I had this conversation with you."
     Now to me, that is a man. I like that approach. He had balls, he laid out his feelings. If he had married her without even talking to me, I think it would have been very disrespectful. I judge peoples' character a lot by their actions.

Q: Were you hurt at all?
A: It's part of growing up. Everybody goes through some hurt at one point of a relationship or another.

Q: How important do you think women should be in a man's life?
A: I truly believe in the philosophy that behind every great man stands a great woman. Women have a tendency to bring out the best in men, or the worst in men. If you do not understand that quality in a woman, you can get in a relationship with a woman who brings out your worst and you won't know it.
     It's completely different from the way my parents, my ancestors in the Asian culture, were brought up. Asian philosophy is to suppress the woman. A woman's place is at home, you know, keep them there to do the housework. I do not believe that 100 percent. Yes, a woman's place is the home, but at the same time, you don't want to come home to a maid. After a time, your feelings of attraction that you had when you were dating all dissipate, it's gone, and your eye starts to wander.

Q: You still do that, after three years?
A: Absolutely. And I will do that until I die. I think it's important. It's amazing, when you support your wife or your girlfriend, they can truly be something wonderful. But if you suppress them, all of a sudden the passion is gone and you don't know why.
     Asian philosophy has a tendency to say it's a man's world, do a man's thing, but at the same time, they don't take care of their women very well. So what happens is, they go to those room salons. They become attracted to women of the night who wear tight dresses and what have you. They go in and spend a couple of thousand dollars a night just to have a drink.
     I have a completely different philosophy. I like staying at home, but I make my home very comfortable. I make sure to always have plenty of food in the refrigerator, I have the best wine, good music, stuff like that. So I don't need to go out. PAGE 6

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