(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:33:56 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most attracts you to African American males?
Their facial features | 45%
Their physique | 12%
Their attitude and personality | 32%
Their education & cultural values | 11%

Assuming you are an Asian female, what most dissuades you from relations with African American males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 64%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 23%
Assuming you are an African American male, what most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 62%
Their physique | 13%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 10%

Assuming you are an African American male, what most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 6%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 81%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 12%

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Chris Amos
I whole heartily agree, but in the "real" world such concerns as color, culture, and race are very important issues to quite a lot of people be they black, asian, white, or whatever. It certainly would be nice if that weren't the case, but we all unfortunately were born into a world that we didn't make.
Geoffrey    Tuesday, December 17, 2002 at 13:13:54 (PST)    []
Chris Amos:
I think I understand the intent of your comment and this is not to disagree with your assesment, but to complement it.
I can tell I'm black and I have never once looked down on myself or allowed how others treat me to be part of my experience. The remainder of your comment I happen to agree with for the most part.
Vincent    Monday, December 16, 2002 at 13:53:56 (PST)    []
As a human being,
I really don't see the big deal with the whole color and cultural issues.
People are just people. My advice to BMs is to look at AFs as people first and get to know them. The same goes for AFs as well.

For the AFs who are reading this, i'll just give you some insight from the BM's perspective. (This might sound a little complicated but...)

To be a BM is a little strange...
You can't really feel your skin on you; or take it off. The only real way to tell that your black is if you look in the mirror, look down at yourself, or by the way alot of people treat you.

BMs get treated differly by other cultures. People expect most of us to speak and understand ghetto slang when a percentage of don't, or act and think a certain way, when not all of us do.

They are some BMs who just want sex (from any female, and not just asians) and there are some BMs who are looking for meaningful relationships that happen to be with asian women.

Some of us really do respect AFs and some of us really don't. There are many types of people, but we should have any preconcieved notions right off the bat about anyone.

My point is that AF and BM should ultimately get to know each other first; and NOT be afraid to talk to each just because of the skin colour that we were born with, and are half the time not even aware of until the world points it out to us.

Hopefully one day it won't be so hard for us to get along....

Chris Amos,
Toronto, Canada
21 year old
Black Male
Chris Amos    Sunday, December 15, 2002 at 13:47:40 (PST)    []
Last comment for 2002. I don't care about what people think of the Black Male. I live in Japan and I travel extensively through Asia. Generally, on a 1-on-1 basis, Asian women are very friendly and in spite of negative ideas surrounding the Black male's "image", a large percentage of the people I have met are open minded enough to see around that. So, to all you "brothers" on this forum that are hung up on crying about "image" woes, I suggest that you all get out and do a little bit of traveling and see more of the world. The things we can do to change the image is represent ourselves and be good examples. PEACE!!
KamenHANYA    Friday, December 13, 2002 at 22:37:11 (PST)    []
Maurice Harris
Strong accurate commentary! However, my brother I know and you know that your pearls of wisdom for the most part will only fall on deaf ears, and yes often times the brothers simply don't tell the truth....sad to say. Stay the course, don't give into the closed mindiness of those that fail to excercise this real life experience.

Mrs. Ali's book is great! I've had it for about 7 years now. Many brothers that I have shared it with came back mad as a "wet hen", but it's only because the truth is a mighty big pill to swallow.I would strongly recommend that all black men not only pick it up but read it too!
Jon    Friday, December 13, 2002 at 14:47:17 (PST)    []
Brothers Sam & Paul
It's good to read some truthful, and realistic comments in here, minus all the nonsense and "BS". You brothers are absolutely on the right track, and believe me we despartly need more of you. Thank you for your constructive input.
Tony    Friday, December 13, 2002 at 14:27:57 (PST)    []
To Paul:

Halleluiah for your post!!! I couldnāt have agreed with you more, Bro. There is precious little I can add to what you wrote, because you pretty much said it all. We Blacks are responsible for inflicting upon ourselves a great many of the ills that we suffer from. We are the only ones who simply donāt see things that way.

I do not know the exact racial composition of our local high school. But they have a great many Asian and White students, although the Blacks appear to be majority. After school at 3 PM, the Whites and Asians would go straight home. But the Blacks would still be hanging around 3 hours later, until the police show up with a bullhorn and tell them to disperse.

The tremendous numbers of fatherless kids in our community has done a lot to damage us. I see some neighbors kids straggling home 3 hours after school ended, and I just donāt get, because these are just kids ö 9, 10 and 11 year olds. When I was that age in Africa, if my father does not see me for one hour, heād be out looking for me with a heavy leather belt! My father was fanatical about knowing where I am at all times, who I am with and what I am doing. I used to hate it! But now, as an adult, I have come to appreciate it.
Sam    Thursday, December 12, 2002 at 20:48:58 (PST)    []

If I implied in my earlier posts that some of the couples did not share an equal sense of disatisfaction with marriage, then I made an error. I am perfectly aware that families of many Asian and African people do not wish to have interracial marriage.
Im just suprised at the successes I do see when Im not in America and travel abroad. Of course, when I mention Koreans and Japanese, I also imply that there are just some Asian people who have a lower likelihood of marrying anyone outside there own race or moving to another country. That is reflected by the fact that Asians are 4.3% of the US Population and out of thatnumber, ove 70% are Chinese wherin, Chinese women have been found to be more likely to marry outside their own race.
NS PHD EMP nicholiservia@hotmail    Thursday, December 12, 2002 at 20:00:06 (PST)    []
I don't know what the other black men in here are thinking about, but I'm just dying to read some comments by some Asian females in this forum, that's why I'm here in the first place! And, I haven't seen that for a while. True, black male image is an important issue, but I don't think that this is, or never should've been the right forum to discuss this concern. We don't need to wash our dirty linen in public (which always seems to be the case), and we need to take that discussion off-line
Geoffrey    Thursday, December 12, 2002 at 12:55:12 (PST)    []