(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:32:59 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, which of the following most attracts you to Caucasian males?
Their facial features | 56%
Their physique | 11%
Their attitude and personality | 29%
Their education & cultural values | 4%

Assuming you are an Asian female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Caucasian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 74%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 13%
Assuming you are a Caucasian male, which of the following most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 66%
Their physique | 14%
Their attitude and personality | 17%
Their education & cultural values | 3%

Assuming you are a Caucasian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 76%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 15%

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Tai Bai,

I am an asian guy and I know how you feel, since my girlfriend is caucasian. There seems to be reservations on her part and her family.

All I can say is hang in there. I am rooting for you and your girl.
hen gao shing    Monday, December 02, 2002 at 15:18:27 (PST)    []
To tell you the truth I wasn't attracted to Asian women. But I have recently moved to Houston and live in the west Houston area. And I have found myself more and more attracted to asian women especially the vietnamese girls that live in this area too. I see them at the coffee shops studying for college and have been very impressed with the ones that I have talked with. And I would definitely go out with one. And I don't care what anybody says. But I will say that until I moved to Houston, I never really found myself attracted to Asian women. I don't know why that is. Maybe it that you just don't see a lot of Asian women back in Arkansas where I grew up and went to college.
Craig    Monday, December 02, 2002 at 12:34:45 (PST)    []
Cindy, I am not "sour grapes". Reading your post was entertaining, never have I seen anyone try so hard to impress people on an internet forum. I couldn't care less if you were a model or what you do for a living. All I heard was "blah blah blah blah blah" and "me me me me me". They say you can judge a person by the company they keep, so if your boyfrien's friends are the rejects you make them out to be, what does that say about your boyfriend?
GAG    Wednesday, November 27, 2002 at 09:50:27 (PST)    []
Hi My name is Zino and I just met a japanese women 4 months off the boat from Japan, she has traveled the world and saw her for a week taking long walks and talking. I then invited to cook for her and we ended up making out a little, I found that she being Japanese I must be the aggressive one since I am man. she never makes a move to me sexually. Is this normal. I am not a great looking guy but ok, but she is a knock out so beautiful. My question is to you are asian women more sexual then american women and how can I tell if she is using me just to learn english and then might leave me later. I have heard that some Japanese women do this to American men. They make believe they are your lover and girl friend and then they split in the middle of the night. Please help me out on the cultural differences and why is she so submissive. Do they take love making seriously or is it just to make me happy, thanks for responding Zino
Zino    Thursday, November 21, 2002 at 12:10:41 (PST)    []

I like the cut of your jib! I'm also a CA with an hourglass figure, who travels the world dispensing financial advice (whether or not people are listening) and earns a generous 5 figure salary.......can we hook up?

"if yo man's a headache i'll be yo aspirin"
maxdacat    Thursday, November 21, 2002 at 02:20:58 (PST)    []

I agree that all of it is pathetic. All I am saying is that guy needs to quit letting her hang around with him. If he's made up his mind that he wants you, then she's got to go. End of discussion. The guy should have enough backbone to set her and his friends straight.

Good luck in your endeavors. My wife is a CPA who works very hard and I have a lot of respect for any honest CPA out there.
Hank Lewis    Wednesday, November 20, 2002 at 11:34:09 (PST)    []

The reason the ex is hanging around is b/c she has actively expressed her continued interest in him. And since he doesn't want her back, her strategy is to hang around his friends and hopefully have them convince him that she's right for him. In the mean time she's telling him she likes girls as well and willing to do three-somes with him any time. How pathetic.


if you know his friends and me then you'd know I'm not lying. Since you don't know us then you don't have the right to pass judgment. I'm a very nice person, but I'm not going to put myself down just to sound humble. My lack of respect for his friends is due to their actions towards me. If you must insist on my justification of why I see myself as better (and I did not say I'm better than all people, just his friends). I am a CPA, petite, hour glass figure, and outgoing. I am so liked for my personality that my clients invite to dinner just as friends. How many auditors can say that? His friends on the other hand have personalities fit for the cast of Revenge of the Nerds and Beavis and Butthead. I was recruited by Ford Modeling agency in my teens but decided to go to college instead. As for career, I am doing extremely well in my field, CFOs and CEOs of respectable companies ask for my advice daily. His friends are librarians or unemployed.

So before you accuse me of being full of myself, maybe you should learn the facts. Or I should just choose your path of thinking and assume that you are a sour grape who does not like to hear that a woman is in control of her relationship enough not to succumb to the jealousy and venditiveness of other. By the way, sour grapes, I didn't say none of them like me. Just the crowd that's friends with his ex and has been manipulated to prejudge me.
Cindy    Tuesday, November 19, 2002 at 13:03:07 (PST)    []

If the guy really loves you and stays with you long enough, he'll eventually see his friends for what they are--a bunch of sour grapes.

The only thing which bugs me a bit is why is this guy friends with his exes? Unless a guy was like a long-term friend PRIOR to dating a woman, it is NEVER a good thing for him to be friends with an ex-girlfriend. In my experience, often when ex-lovers are friends afterwards, it's because one or both of them still have an interest on some level or other. That is something he needs to think about, and so should you.
Hank Lewis    Thursday, November 14, 2002 at 07:19:44 (PST)    []
cutie girl,

Are you an AF?
curious    Wednesday, November 13, 2002 at 09:41:54 (PST)    []
"Their approval means nothing to me, they are not on par with me in terms of attractiveness, personality, or career."

Good god could you BE any more full of yourself? No wonder none of these people like you.
GAG    Wednesday, November 13, 2002 at 09:36:30 (PST)    []

I am sorry you have to deal with it. I know even if those people are completely nothing, the way they act can get on your nerves. I was in cituation like your myself. I used to date WM too. His parents loved me, but his friends didn't want to accept me either. They kept on telling him that must have been an idiot if he wanted to date me. But he didn't care. He really loved me. But time passed and everybody saw that I was a great girlfriend. None of his ex-es would even stand a mile next to me. He knew that and then it became obvious to everybody else. If people are as good as you are, they understand you. If they don't understand you, that means that they are not even worth giving a chance. They are not even worth your attention.

The reason they keep on talking about your boyfrind and what a great time they had together with his ex is because they are all college friends. It's not about you being a bad girlfriend, it's just about they being all friends and they just protect and feel easier with each other. You know sometimes people are just lazy to stand up and do something new. They prefer to stick to what they already have even if it's not good. They are just too lazy to change something. Well, that's good that your boyfriend is not as lazy as his friends and is not so close-minded. The most important is that he loves you and you love him. Enjoy every moment with him and don't pay attention to anybody else.
Cutiegirl    Tuesday, November 12, 2002 at 14:21:17 (PST)    []
Asian woman,

I have met my boyfriend's mother and will meet his brother and the brother's family (wife, kids) this Christmas. His mother absolutely loves me, I was told that his sister-in-law won't ever accept me but will be cordial. Whatever, I simply don't care what someone I only have to deal with once a year think of me. Especially since his mom and dad is ok with me already and they hate her.

Problem is his friends and ex hadn't openly said anything negative to him about me so he really can't "defend" me. They just simply stop talking when we walk into the room and make up some lame story when he ask what's going on. I don't know about the marriage thing, but I think he does take me seriously. He has dinner with my parents every Sunday with me, he learned to play Chinese chess so he can bond with my non-English speaking father, and takes care of my two dogs that could be quite a handful while I'm on travel. He even fixes my house and cooks me breakfast on the weekends.

Problem is his friends, they always seclude me from the group by talking about the good old times when he used to date his ex and they're all hanging together. He can't very well make his friends accept me when they didn't make it obvious. It's those little subtle things that makes them "polite" biggots. They didn't say you're out, you're just not included in.

By the way, not to be vain, but his friends and ex-es are such dweebs that I wouldn't want to be friends with them. Their approval means nothing to me, they are not on par with me in terms of attractiveness, personality, or career. They are the perfect cast for revenge of the nerds movies. Strange that it's the socially inept that tend to be biggots huh? He's only friends with them because they went to college together. It's alright, if they really disapprove they will eventually speak up. And if they don't, they'll just have to suffer and watch us get marry, have kids, and live happily ever after. If they do speak up and my boyfriend won't do anything, he'll be toss to the side immediately.
Cindy    Monday, November 11, 2002 at 13:24:04 (PST)    []