ASIAN FEMALE/ CAUCASIAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, which of the following most attracts you to Caucasian males?
Their facial features | 56%
Their physique | 11%
Their attitude and personality | 29%
Their education & cultural values | 4%

Assuming you are an Asian female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Caucasian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 74%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 13% 		Assuming you are a Caucasian male, which of the following most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 66%
Their physique | 14%
Their attitude and personality | 17%
Their education & cultural values | 3%

Assuming you are a Caucasian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 76%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 15%

BTW Dim Sum Girl,

Toronto sounds cool....is it anywhere near Minnesota coz i am going there in August for 3 weeks and are looking for somewhere to go on the weekend
maxdacat    Wednesday, May 29, 2002 at 05:32:08 (PDT)
Dim Sum Girl,

agreed....i just think it sounds a bit funny.

you say potato i say potato

ok
maxdacat    Wednesday, May 29, 2002 at 05:30:00 (PDT)
Jennifer,

nice post. Send me a message please
Albi soundofmusicseeksamericanwoman@yahoo.com    Tuesday, May 28, 2002 at 21:41:59 (PDT)
Dim Sum Girl;
You definitely hit the nail on the head. I am an oriental girl (oops should that be "asian girl") living in Canada. I have a lot of black friends (both male and female) and they dont like to be called "African Canadian" or "African American" for that matter; even though that's the politically correct thing to do in the USA. They like to be called "Black" and that is the term that is most commonly used in Canada. I think Canada's multicultural tolerance allows for the use of words like "oriental" and "black" without any derogatory baggage or bad perception.

Kim Chee Girl    Tuesday, May 28, 2002 at 17:06:10 (PDT)
Jennifer,

Sorry babe, but I think YOU'RE the one that sounds all bitter and insecure. Just read what you wrote.
Chill out!    Tuesday, May 28, 2002 at 14:29:49 (PDT)
jennifer, you really should examine your thinking more carefully. This being an AF/WM forum doubtless there's going to be some AM haters posting in here some vituperative garadge. Now you take that to make a blanketing statement that all AM are narrow-minded. Since I'm an AM I'll take that personally and state that you are either really stupid (can't reason well) or just a sell-out at heart. I've known AF/WM couples who are accepted by AM and when WM actually marry AF they marry into the family by the way. Unless of course you are ashamed of your own Asian family and seek to be saved by some sterotypical white dude. Who says that Asian men, especially us American born ones cannot be 'some of the most open-minded, progressive, and supportive men? I for one believe in that as a positive male identity and live by it. by the way i'm not bitter just saddened that there are some AF who have decided that Asian men are inferior to white men. totally your loss sister. Lastly I accept AF/WM couples like any other but as a humanist find it hard to tolerate the couples that exist in which the AF despises her ethnic heritage and the WM is some kinda savior. Jeezus straight outta some low grade hollywood flick where WM are always the hero and AM wimpy and asexual.

Lastly Jennifer, maybe the Asian guys in your age bracket - guessing late 20's to mid 30's are more narrow-minded. Maybe that is so since they came before us younger fellas (late teens/early 20's) who haven't had to experience as much racism at they. Being exposed to white racism surely would lead to bitterness and that in turn would be exacerbated by seeing AF/WM couples. I for one though, see AF/WM couples as normal since we Asians are small in numbers in the US and AM/WF couples are rapidly approaching the same numbers.
young ABC    Tuesday, May 28, 2002 at 12:24:36 (PDT)
jessica-i'm with you, i think that there are lot of great interracial relationships out there but some relationships are really for the wrong reasons. anyway, honestly, i'm korean (or at least i look it) and i really don't mind being called oriental, it has a ring to it that almost sounds like valuable. perhaps it's just me, but some of these things we just need to let go. okay who cares if someone calls you oriental, or if you say white and black, not EVERYONE means it in a racial way. i can understand if the person is meaning to be racist, but if we keep getting affended at every little thing then we are going to end up living our lives in hate. sorry for the little sermon:)
wendy    Tuesday, May 28, 2002 at 10:53:13 (PDT)

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