Asian Women & Caucasian Men Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN FEMALE/ CAUCASIAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:32:41 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, which of the following most attracts you to Caucasian males?
Their facial features | 56%
Their physique | 11%
Their attitude and personality | 29%
Their education & cultural values | 4%

Assuming you are an Asian female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Caucasian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 74%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 13%

Assuming you are a Caucasian male, which of the following most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 66%
Their physique | 14%
Their attitude and personality | 17%
Their education & cultural values | 3%

Assuming you are a Caucasian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 76%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 15%

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Alright even going back to the original definition. Are asian women artificial?
Well by saying that white men love for artificial reasons that is obviously a lie. Asian women are not artifacts.

And another thing psychology is a pseudoscience so none of this argumentation matters anyhow. Psychology attempts to crystalize processes that are in motion (organic).

But we all now how the dictionary attempts to oppress the white man.

p.s. Jessica you can pm on yahoo messenger at soundofmusicseeksamericanwoman
Albiyes Thursday, June 06, 2002 at 08:56:36 (PDT)

I think a lot of Asian women would not dream of making the first contact with a man.
Michael photminn2000@yahoo.com Thursday, June 06, 2002 at 08:46:05 (PDT)

All,

I was wondering what asian women think about changing their names if they get married to a white guy. I guess there are a few alternatives:

-keep your surname as is....then what about the kids?

-hyphenate it eg Kristy Lu-Stout (CNNAsia technology coresspondent)

- change it over....i know one or two who have done this

- both change.....yeah right!

any ideas/experiences etc?
maxdacat Thursday, June 06, 2002 at 06:20:00 (PDT)

Jessica,

point taken....i guess i was just saying that a lot of people might be attracted based on superficial features (me included!) and that could make a lot of people "fetishists".....i agree a lot of WM date AF's for the wrong reasons....i think this makes them stoopid...not fetishists
maxdacat Thursday, June 06, 2002 at 05:27:40 (PDT)

I realize that in the initial stages that visual "physical attraction" is the motivator in relating to a potential mate biologically specking.

What I find hard to believe that as large and developed as the human brain is above that of animals is that we allow our base (animal magnetism) to judge others as compatible based on appearance! How can we be surprised at the divorce rate in this country if popular culture leads us to believe this is acceptable behavior in terms of rational human social interaction?

We have become such a lazy bunch of apes! My personal experience leads me to believe that we go about this attraction thing completely wrong!
My former husband of ten years and three children decides that he doesn�t want to be married to me because he felt suffocated and deceived in our marriage.

I ask you how do you convince yourself that it's a good idea to build a home, career, and a lifestyle that includes children and then decide that your life is too crowded or unmanageable and simply give up! No one believes in getting a return on their investments unless it involves self-gratification or money. Are people and relationships the next dinosaurs?

Dinkie911ab arlene27@hotmail.com Wednesday, June 05, 2002 at 15:58:43 (PDT)

ok, I have a question. My boyfriend has never dated asian women before but always found them attractive. I am the first asian girl he has ever dated. He is 30 years old and I'm 27. Does that mean he's got a fetish?

I know there are some weirdos out there that insist on dating only asians b/c of some weird twisted stereotype (mostly negative) but what about the ones that truly are attracted to asian women, and for the right reasons? Do they still have fetishes?

I have only dated all white men in my life, do I have a fetish? I don't think so, since no asian guy has ever asked me out and the ones who does happens to be white. Should I chase after asian men who don't show any interest in me just in the name of racial unity?

Cindy Wednesday, June 05, 2002 at 13:03:57 (PDT)

Maxdacat,

I think the term "fetish" can generally apply to someone who selects a particular mate merely on appearance. They make assumptions about that person based on stereotypes or their need to fill their inadequacies.

If an asian male prefers to date an asian female, it is generally due to their common backgrounds based on ethnicity. Say they only dated asian females with large chests, that would be a fetish.

If a guy prefers to date blondes only, then I would also say it's a fetish. This male is fixated on her appearance, not her personality. It's more common to think of a fetish with white male & asian female rather than any male with a blonde. In western society, the ideal appearance is tall, blond, blue eyes (Barbie). Since it is considered the ideal, the term fetish generally is not used. The term fetish also seems to apply to situations that are not generally widespread. i.e most people I know don't have foot fetishes. Many men (& women) idealize the Barbie-look so it's pretty widespread and the term "fetish" not common. I do believe it is a fetish. By the way, I only referred to caucasian men & asian females because that was the subject heading of this messageboard (and did not delve into other races/nationalities). Generally if a person has a strong preference to a particular look and dates them exclusively, I would definitely say it's a fetish.

I'm only speaking for myself and don't expect others to agree with me. Everyone has different experiences, different perspectives, different interpretations, etc. I think we should be satisfied with sharing and not get upset if someone doesn't agree with us. It's called open-mindedness.

P.S. Albi/Albiyes should get rid of the chip on his shoulder. We're not out to get you.

jessica Tuesday, June 04, 2002 at 18:31:06 (PDT)

From www.dictionary.com

Main Entry: fe�tish
Variant(s): also fe�tich /'fe-tish also 'fE-/
Function: noun
Etymology: French & Portuguese; French f�tiche, from Portuguese feiti�o, from feiti�o artificial, false, from Latin facticius factitious
Date: 1613
1 a : an object (as a small stone carving of an animal) believed to have magical power to protect or aid its owner; broadly : a material object regarded with superstitious or extravagant trust or reverence b : an object of irrational reverence or obsessive devotion : PREPOSSESSION c : an object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression
2 : a rite or cult of fetish worshipers
3 : FIXATION
jessica Tuesday, June 04, 2002 at 17:37:33 (PDT)

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