Asian Women & Caucasian Men Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN FEMALE/ CAUCASIAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:32:40 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, which of the following most attracts you to Caucasian males?
Their facial features | 56%
Their physique | 11%
Their attitude and personality | 29%
Their education & cultural values | 4%

Assuming you are an Asian female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Caucasian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 74%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 13%

Assuming you are a Caucasian male, which of the following most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 66%
Their physique | 14%
Their attitude and personality | 17%
Their education & cultural values | 3%

Assuming you are a Caucasian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 76%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 15%

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I met an Aussie guy thru' the internet. He's too good to be true. Even more so when he came over to visit me before he continued his trip to London. But sadly enough, I don't think the relationship will work due to many reasons. But I'm still hoping that fate will be good to me. :(
Babybabes for_what@wouldilie.com Saturday, June 08, 2002 at 07:58:52 (PDT)

maxdacat,

I was being sarcastic with my post. people on this forum are so jumpy about the word fetish. I just wanted to point it out to them.

I know I don't have a fetish, I have always been attracted to asian men. And I am completely serious when I say no asian man has ever asked me out. I refuse to chase after someone just b/c we're the same reace. If he's not interested in me, why should I pursue him? As for me dating white men, they ARE the only ones that ask me out.

I think all women should be careful of who they date, but if you happen to find one that makes you happy and cherrish you (like my boyfriend does:) then don't think too much. You'll ruin something great if you use too much brain.
Cindy Friday, June 07, 2002 at 12:31:21 (PDT)

Cindy,

I don't think you got a fetish...having personal preferences one way or the other doesn't qualify you for a session on the shrink's couch...which is the connotation the term fetish has....even a strong dating preference isn't abnormal
maxdacat Friday, June 07, 2002 at 03:42:43 (PDT)

Maxdacat,

I remember watching a T.V. program that analyzed what most people consider to be physically beautiful in a women. I believe the characteristics were large eyes, symmetrical face, small nose, full lips, high cheekbones, slender feminine body, and a few others I can't remember. They even showed photos to babies to see which photos they liked to look at the longest. They all seemed to spend more time looking at beautiful faces rather than unattractive faces. There are physically beautiful people in all cultures. So it seems that we (very early on) are preprogrammed to know what is attractive and unattractive. However we aren't born racists and that is taught (please be patient, I know we're not talking about racism). Some people make connections about people based on their appearance which is something that they have learned from somewhere. A person can choose to be a racist based on stereotypes AND a person can also choose to date a mate that fulfills their ideal physical image based on stereotype as well. Racism and fetishes are both based on stupidity/ignorance. They aren't based on logic. You're right lots of people date others for the wrong reasons or are in denial. I don't think you have a fetish since you're not attaching a stereotype to that person, you're probably just thinking "Wow, she's pretty" but you don't think "Wow, she's asian and asian woman are ....". You can be attracted to someone who has attractive superficial features (which can be found in all nationalities, just watch the Miss Universe pageant). However if you only choose to date a particular nationality exclusively (based on a stereotype), then that is for the wrong reason. I think fetishes are stupid.
jessica Thursday, June 06, 2002 at 18:46:23 (PDT)

Arlene,

It sounds as if your ex-husband (yes, a white man) had a fetish for you, as an as Asian female, and you got dumped by him, because you refused to play the part of the Orientalist fetish (the "quiet," "submissive," etc. rubbish). He, therefore, felt "betrayed" by you, and ended up behaving in the cowardly and immature manner you described in your posting.

Hmmmmm Thursday, June 06, 2002 at 12:16:29 (PDT)

this is a topic very close to home because i am a mixed 20 year old girl trying to establish relationships and a sense of identity. am australian, chinese, indonesian who can speak fluent english (australian accent), indonesian, basic japanese, and relearning chinese. i have lived in Medan, Bandung, Jakarta, Bali (Indonesia), Sydney, Newcastle, Perth (Australia), Papua New Guinea, and Singapore. to say i have an identity crisis would be an understatement.
cath eboniki@hotmail.com Thursday, June 06, 2002 at 09:51:16 (PDT)

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