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ASIAN FEMALE/ CAUCASIAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
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I have been dating an asian girl for four months, and am caucasian. I hadn't even thought about difference in ethnicity until I came on this forum.
To be honest I am just enjoying exploring the personality of a beautiful girl who's backround is a little different from my own.
Bob
Wednesday, July 03, 2002 at 05:48:33 (PDT)
"Good Luck"
Thanks for the input. Very kind of you.
thuyni
Tuesday, July 02, 2002 at 21:59:25 (PDT)
Thuyni:
What kinds of foods is he having the most trouble with? Those which are pungent? Or is he complaining about not being able to identify which part of the pig/cow/chicken/etc. the meat came from? I ask this because I know that some non-Asian Americans, and some Asian Americans who have acculterated, refuse to eat something whose source they "cannot identify" as far as meats go.
I take it you are of Viet ancestry? If so, do you or does your mom cook Bun Thit Nuong, Chau yau or Goi cuon? Those are easier Viet dishes for Westerners to start with. I was seriously involve with a Viet gal back in grad school and was hesitant to eat some Viet cuisine at first because I couldn't identify the type of meat that was in it. However, I felt that out of love and respect for my then-girlfriend, I had to at least try some of those dishes. Not suprisingly, I found myself liking most of the dishes I tried--ban cuon gia lua, com tam bi suon, (with nuoc mam kai, of course) all kinds of pho and banh mi, and so forth on down the line.
In fact there's very little in Viet Cuisine I won't eat. The only exception I've found is anything that has pig's ears in it, including that version of gia lua. The cartilage is just to crunchy in the wrong kind of way for me to be able to eat it.
I suggest you try to start him on some simple dishes which aren't too complex or use "mystery meat." Be sure to show him the meat in the package before it's cooked so he can identify it. This will take some patience on your part, but I figure if you ease his fears and ignorance a little, he'll come around. If the guy really loves you, he'll have no argument once you take a little more time to make him comfortable.
WM who's been there and gotten over it.
Tuesday, July 02, 2002 at 12:41:42 (PDT)
[Tolerance is nice, but let's get back to the theme of this page -- AF/WM relationships. We won't be posting any more AM perspectives, no matter how sympathetic. --Ed]
Jessica,
Contemplative was an Asian Man. Why did he post here? I dont understand this. Its confusing. Shannon is a hapa. You have a point, she is half asian. Okay, you have made that point. Maybe she identifies more with her Asianess.
But Contemplative admitted he's an Asian man. Whats he doing posting too? A person at the Country Club told me that the chinese name Wei Wei is a Chinese guys name.
So was Wei Wei an Asian guy too? Whats with all these Asian guys? I am a White man. I like dating Asian Women. I belong here.
Jinny Sim,
Technically you are not fully an Asian woman. But I guess its okay since you have a korean father and your mom also has some korean blood too. I find korean women so desirable and pretty. I think they are a bit too assertive at times. Chinese women are easier for me to handle.
Todd
Tuesday, July 02, 2002 at 07:03:29 (PDT)
Regarding the whole maelstrom stirred up my Contemplative,
I think that this is fantastic. I really admire the way that both white men and Asian women on this board are supporting an individual who did nothing wrong. It's easy to let your insecurities take over and just blame whoever you find to be a threat. But despite Contemplative's ethnicity and sex, you guys came to his defense. I think that despite the few insecure morons who initially lashed out at him, the words of the truly warm and intelligent individuals out-shone their idiocy. Cheers to you all!
Oh, and a special shoutout to Contemplative and Shannon -- Contemplative for bravely speaking out and Shannon for having the conviction and courage to stand up for what she believes in. I honestly didn't expect such support for an Asian male in a normally hostile board such as this place. Both of you must be beautiful people -- people with such integrity and courage are more often beautiful than not.
Golden Boy
Tuesday, July 02, 2002 at 00:36:35 (PDT)
thuyni,
Sorry to hear that. I guess if you knew that eating preferences were going to be such an important issue, you should've thought about it more beofre getting serious with this guy. I am a Korean American who grew up in a VERY 'ethnic' household, and my last girlfriend (who was a total white-bread German-Swedish girl from Iowa) had a problem with my fondness for pungent Korean foods. That wasn't the main reason we broke up, but because food is so important to me both as a cultural device and my hunger pangs =), I knew that it couldn't work in a long-term domesticated setting unless she learned to deal with it. I cant really offer any serious advice, but I feel for you. Sorry to hear about your trouble.
Good luck.
Tuesday, July 02, 2002 at 00:27:33 (PDT)
jessica,
I agree with you, that's the great thing about internet chat sites, is that you can be totally anonymous, so why not say exactly what you think? Be honest with yourself and others, question your thoughts and beliefs, this is the best way to grow as a person. It's not easy to take a good long look at yourself sometimes and examine who and what you are.
human
Monday, July 01, 2002 at 11:52:17 (PDT)
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