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ASIAN FEMALE/ CAUCASIAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:32:29 PM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian female, which of the following most attracts you to Caucasian males?
Their facial features | 56%
Their physique | 11%
Their attitude and personality | 29%
Their education & cultural values | 4%

Assuming you are an Asian female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Caucasian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 13%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 74%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 13% 		Assuming you are a Caucasian male, which of the following most attracts you to Asian females?
Their facial features | 66%
Their physique | 14%
Their attitude and personality | 17%
Their education & cultural values | 3%

Assuming you are a Caucasian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 76%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 15%


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some aa girl,

i guess i've been told now and then by my asian friends not too stare.....but sometimes i cant help it.....i try not to make it too obvious of course

are these guys creeps or do they seem OK?

i'm sure if you're stare quality then you'll meet someone soon......i mean what kind of guys do you like?....BTW if you're in PA, NY or MN in a few weeks time......
maxdacat    Thursday, July 11, 2002 at 00:40:20 (PDT)
I am British Chinese + recently I just broke up with my white boyfriend and lo and behold the guy got himself another girlfriend whois also wait for it..an AF

What i am having issues over is
1. The fact he has an an asian fetish and i was probably partly responsible
2. The fact that the new girl cant even string a sentence of English together

I think if his new girlfriend was white i wouldnt have a problem with it, but the fact that she is also Asian and FOB and cant even speak fluent ENglish, seems to me that the ex has an Asian fetish only. I can just imagine as well the new girl thinking that he is her "trophy" because he is her first WM boyfriend.

Spare me. Ill never date a WM ever again.
Ill never date a WM ever again thecrouchingdealer@hotmail.com    Wednesday, July 10, 2002 at 23:04:50 (PDT)
HI all, I'm a Malaysian-Chinese female and a college student. I've been told by people ( caucasians, Asians and Africans ) that I'm beautiful. Race has never occured to me as a problem to not dating outside my own race. But, I've been told several times by the elderly that " Don't ever marry a caucasian man. They are not loyal. Look at the divorce rate in America........they are too open". I told them that's not true but they kept telling me all this crap. I guess this is a stereotype? But, most caucasian males I've met are nice people and very gentlemanly. Maybe these are the stereotype excuses Asians use to "prohibit" Asian-white relationships? I wonder.
Malaysian Chinese Girl    Wednesday, July 10, 2002 at 20:35:33 (PDT)
To Asian guys:

I don't see why you guys seem to get hung up about AF/WM relationships. If you become more aggressive and ask any women whether AF, WF, BF, etc. chances are you will have the opportunity to go out with them. That's all. I hear alot of my friends saying "why is this cute AF going with this ugly WM?". Hell, maybe the WM talked to her and asked her out. Gee, stop talking about them(AF) and talk to them(AF). It's pretty simple in my opinion.
duma    Wednesday, July 10, 2002 at 20:13:26 (PDT)
When i see more inter-racial couples, it just means to me that it's ok for me to date other races also. So when i see an AF/WM, i think to myself that it's ok to date WF which i have been asking out and dating for the past 2 yrs.
AZN dude    Wednesday, July 10, 2002 at 20:06:20 (PDT)
I have never dated an Asian and always preferred whites to any other race. I briefly dated other races but mostly stuck with whites because I eventually wanted children who looked like both races, as I always thought that MOST interracial couples had the most attractive children with the most to offer.
Lana    Wednesday, July 10, 2002 at 14:12:33 (PDT)
I would also like to offer a cautious hello in the same vein as AM transplant in CA. I am a WF dating an AM. I have no problem with AFs dating WMs, or with AFs dating BMs, etc etc. I think being in an IR takes a lot of courage. Since we have a lot of common, why not promote unity and friendship?
curious girl    Wednesday, July 10, 2002 at 11:18:03 (PDT)
AM transplant in CA:

I don't know about the others who post here, but I do realize that most AMs are too busy with their own lives to "try to sabotage" my relationship with my wife. Also I don't "hate AMs like Dubbya hates Saddam Hussein." In fact, out of my close male friends and casual buddies, about ½ of them are Asian American.

While I do realize that there are some AMs out there who are quietly resentful of A FEW WM/AF relationships, most AMs are neutral/apathetic or are even willing to presume something positive about a WM/AF relationship.

A WM who has a relationship with an AF out of "novelty, experimentation or fetish" is not going to really try to get to know her other friends or family, especially the male ones. These relationships won't last and these guys will go on to marry WFs, thinking that they have shown their openmindedness by dating an AF or two back in the day. Those guys personally disgust me.

A WM who gets seriously involved with/falls in love with/marries an AF out of love, desire and respect for her as a woman regardless of ethnicity is going to be open to her other friends and of her family, especially including the AMs in these circles. These fellows will do their best to engage in small talk, invite over to watch sports, get to know and befriend these AMs who are connected to their love. In some cases, these fellows have been known to treat AMs with equality, dignity and respect as fellow men. WHICH IS HOW IT SHOULD BE.

My wife and I have a circle of friends which includes 6 A/W couples we know through our large multiethnic Church in Houson. 4 are WM/AF and 2 are AM/WF. The common experiences we share, as well as the differences are priceless. They have helped us all grow as individuals and make us feel supported since we know we're not alone in navigating this transethnic, bicultural maze that we live. You and your wife sound like you'd fit right in.
Hank Lewis    Wednesday, July 10, 2002 at 10:56:54 (PDT)
maxdacat --

there is no way I would say hi to someone staring at me. Scare me to death! for this reason, I don't know how I will ever meet anyone!
some aa girl    Wednesday, July 10, 2002 at 04:24:02 (PDT)
Ngoc,

thanks for your reply....i guess more generally i just don't like the idea of any parents telling their kids to date along racial lines.....i don't see why any modern western country needs to import that kind of racism

i wasn't referring to a specific ex GF as such so I can't say i've been burned like other guys.....anyway i think it's the lamest excuse to end a relationship

i guess it's not always cut and dried so it would be interesting to hear other peoples points of view
maxdacat    Tuesday, July 09, 2002 at 23:34:18 (PDT)
Hey all,

I would first like to throw out a cautious hello, as I know that you guys here hate Asian guys like Dubbya Bush hates Saddam Hussein or Osama Bin Laden. ;) I've read the threads here a few times, but have never posted here before.

At the risk of the Ed cutting out my post (for being an AM - how unfair =)), I would just like to say that some AM are not intimidated nor sore about AFs and WMs being together. I am bringing this up after reading the whole thread with "Contemplative" (sorry to dig up old stories again), as your treatment of him bothered me a little. Some of us are busy with our own girlfriends, wives, work, and play. I enjoy my job, snowboarding and playing guitar in my band, as well as being with my wife, who happens to be non-Asian. Let's just relax and enjoy life!!!

So basically I just wish that some of the people here would stop operating under the assumption that ALL Asian men are out to get you or sabotage your IR relationships. Sometimes I smile or say a friendly hello to AF/WM couples in shopping malls or golf courses, and they act all stunned, like they expected me to spit at them instead. What's that about?? Is it my confidence that intimidates them? My good looks? The fact that my wife is Swedish American? Or simply the fact that I am an Asian American man? Ladies and gents, some of you should let down your guard and not be so pretentious or presumptuous. I think most people are very neutral/don't CARE about your business. And I for one, actually want to be FRIENDS with you! =)

Thanks for listening.
AM transplant in CA    Tuesday, July 09, 2002 at 19:37:35 (PDT)

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