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ASIAN FEMALE/ CAUCASIAN MALE RELATIONSHIPS
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Tuesday, Apr 1, 2008, 05:32:28 PM
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I am Asian-American and grew up in the states. I have never experienced any Japanese culture and have never really been attracted to asian men. I have always preferred men who look all american, blonde hair, blue eyes, etc. I guess opposites attract. I have been married now for 6 years to an american man. Because I speak no Japanese and was raised completely american, I feel sort of sad that I cannot get in touch with my Japanese side.
Jamie Jamie.Irvin@pcg.com
Friday, July 12, 2002 at 07:14:01 (PDT)
I'll never date a WM again,
two Asian GF's do not a fetish make....i mean some guys prefer blondes, some guys like X, some like Y, and some like asian
it sounds like he may just be a jerk so who cares about his dating preference
as far as the FOB chick goes i would say good on her for dating white - at least it shows an interest in the culture of the country she has arrived in (England I presume??)
BTW - i flying back to london for 2 weeks today....wanna hook up & discuss fetishes?
maxdacat
Friday, July 12, 2002 at 01:48:30 (PDT)
Ill never date a WM ever again,
You're probably right about him having an asian fetish, but I wouldn't immediately jump into conclusions because I've never met the guy. You also said; "I think if his new girlfriend was white i wouldnt have a problem with it". I'm pretty sure you'd have problems with it, trust me, whenever we're the dumped ones we have issues even with the smallest things. Anyway try to relax a little and let time heal the wounds, ok? :)
ck (am)
Thursday, July 11, 2002 at 14:44:58 (PDT)
Malaysian Chinese Girl:
White guys like any other guys, are all the same: go figure that one out. Anyway, as you were saying "White guys are gentlemenly", that's just a front.
Any guy can just ACT like a gentleman, they'll wine and dine you, take you home to mom, treat you like a queen, etc., etc.
However, once you get to know them you'll find that regardless of any race: most guys are out there for the punany, SEX.
One thing that I do notice about white guys is that if they do cheat on you, at least they are often times upfront about it. Asian men cheat too, they're just really good at hiding it. Perhaps, that's why divorce among whites are so prevalent, they're honest about their infidelity.
I know lots of asian couples who remain married after infidelity, but chose not to tell their wives/husbands. It's just kept quiet, that's all.
Don't be fooled!
Thursday, July 11, 2002 at 14:33:46 (PDT)
Malaysian Chinese Girl:
White guys like any other guys, are all the same: go figure that one out. Anyway, as you were saying "White guys are gentlemenly", that's just a front.
Any guy can just ACT like a gentleman, they'll wine and dine you, take you home to mom, treat you like a queen, etc., etc.
However, once you get to know them you'll find that regardless of any race: most guys are out there for the punany, SEX.
One thing that I do notice about white guys is that if they do cheat on you, at least they are often times upfront about it. Asian men cheat too, they're just really good at hiding it. Perhaps, that's why divorce among whites are so prevalent, they're honest about their infidelity.
I know lots of asian couples who remain married after infidelity, but chose not to tell their wives/husbands. It's just kept quiet, that's all.
Don't be fooled!
Thursday, July 11, 2002 at 14:33:42 (PDT)
I think many WM are more aggressive towards AF because they don't respect them. These same guys don't have the guts to apporach attractive WF. I know this from experience. WM are so aggressive in hitting on me and will not take no for an answer. I dated some of them and eventualy showed their lack of respect. I didn't realize this until I started dating AM. I've turned to dating AM and I can tell you it's so much nicer being in a relationship where there is mutual respect.
If you are an AF who has never honestly dated an AM and put your heart into it, then you should try it some time. You may like it.
Tiffany
Thursday, July 11, 2002 at 13:27:51 (PDT)
Malaysian Chinese Girl,
OK. Here's a question: an Asian male and a white male approach you. Deep down, who would you talk to. Don't answer by saying it depends. Assuming both had equal senses of humor, were neither fantastic looking or ugly compared to all men of their respective races, and in most regards very similar. What's your answer? Your honest answer?
Sparkler
Thursday, July 11, 2002 at 13:22:59 (PDT)
To Duma,
OK. Here's a question: an Asian male and a white male approach you. Deep down, who would you talk to. Don't answer by saying it depends. Assuming both had equal senses of humor, were neither fantastic looking or ugly compared to all men of their respective races, and in most regards very similar. What's your answer? Your honest answer?
Sparkler
Thursday, July 11, 2002 at 13:13:33 (PDT)
To all Asian Females with a white guy:
I wonder how do you handle settings and situations: Where there are huge white gatherings? Like an all-white family reunion or bbq's? or how about travelling through an all-white town or city?
Do you feel out of place or do you feel parnoid inside that everyone is watching you and your White b-friend? Do they stare at you indiscriminately or do they fake smile to you?
Do you get bad service at a resturant because you are with a White guy? Do people try hard to say things not to say anything Asian?
Do they ask and question your relationship with the white guy?
How about when either the white guy you are with or his friends accidentally or intentionally slips out the Chink or Gook word? How do you handle that?
Or if the white guy you are with ends up to be a Bigot or a racist and dating you is his way to get back at the race his is angry with?
Things you get less of if you date a ASIAN MAN.
Like to know how the AF deals with it
Thursday, July 11, 2002 at 13:03:27 (PDT)
Never date a WM again,
I hate to burst your bubble honey, your ex didn't develop an asian fetishes overnight. He probably already had one and you didn't realize it.
Also just because his new girlfriend is asian doesn't mean he has a fetish. Give the girl a break, maybe she's really nice. Maybe he finds her attractive and enjoys her company. And I don't see her not speaking English well makes her less attractive. Zhang Zi-Yi speaks awful English but would you say she's less beautiful because of it? You should stop insulting the new girl, she didn't do anything to you.
I think the reason you're angry, and you have every right to be so, is that he moved on so quickly. You didn't expect to be replace so quickly and it hurts your ego. But sweetie, you will be angry no matter what race his next girlfriend is. Sounds to me you need to move on from this relationship. It only hurts you.
What is it about him dating another asian girl that bothers you? That you might be replaced in his heart? Or you just want to be the token asian girl in his life? Chances are, you'll be, no matter who he dates in the future.
I know it hurts, I've been there. My ex had 5 girls lined up the week after we broke up. They were girls of all races. That just makes him a jerk, and I was hurt too but I'm glad to be rid of him. My new boyfriend, a WM, treats me like a princess. If I had your attitude and crosses out all WM, I would be missing out on a great guy.
Kate
Thursday, July 11, 2002 at 12:39:17 (PDT)
"Maybe these are the stereotype excuses Asians use to "prohibit" Asian-white relationships?"
Yes!
"Spare me. Ill never date a WM ever again.....Ill never date a WM ever again"
Would you feel the same way if an AM abandoned you for a WF...or do you have this attitude only towards someone from another race?
"I have never dated an Asian and always preferred whites to any other race. I briefly dated other races but mostly stuck with whites because I eventually wanted children who looked like both races, as I always thought that MOST interracial couples had the most attractive children with the most to offer."
Just your prejudice.
Sociologist
Thursday, July 11, 2002 at 11:21:54 (PDT)
Curious Girl,
You are a White female. What are you doing on here? What is wrong with you? You are not an Asian female. Get off this poll.
I am open minded as the next guy. But I am sick of these Asian men and White females coming to this poll. Maybe these people can't read or something. Illiteracy seems to be a tremendous issue here!
Todd the open minded guy
Thursday, July 11, 2002 at 11:16:55 (PDT)
I'll Never Date a WM again:
If a WM dates AFs and happens to date 2 in a row, that doesn't mean he has an "Asian Fetish." If the guy dates AFs and treats them like objects, thinks they're sexy because of stereotypes and doesn't regard them as a human being, but as a toy or novelty, then he has a fetish.
There are some AFs out there who will serially date WMs, but ONLY if they are the FIRST AND ONLY AF they've ever dated. They automatically assume that a WM has an Asian fetish if they've dated even ONE other AF in the past, all the while they've dated these other WMs. I call that hypocrisy.
You should figure that if a WM has dated WFs and/or other races along with having dated AFs, then he doesn't have a fetish, he's just open to dating women whom he finds attractive in general.
Sorry about the guy you dated, but don't judge all of us WMs on the basis of your ex. You'll be shutting out a lot of good men if you do.
Dennis O'Connell
Thursday, July 11, 2002 at 11:06:32 (PDT)
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