Asian Male/Black Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ BLACK FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:39:10 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to African American females?
Their facial features | 36%
Their physique | 36%
Their attitude and personality | 27%
Their education & cultural values | 1%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with African American females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 2%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 7%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 67%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 24%

Assuming you are an African American female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 77%
Their physique | 4%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 4%

Assuming you are an African American female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 78%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 13%

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Confused-
You are confused. How can you say that about someone and then say you want to marry them? When I was a kid I went to a predominantly hispanic elementary and middle school and then moved and went to a white high school and in both environments I heard a lot of stereotypes about black people being unattractive but I'm strong enough to think for myself. And as for asians struggling with racial pride, where the hell did you grow up? My friends and I have Nip, Chinese, Vietnamese, and Philipino pride. It sounds like you have issues you need to deal with before you even think about marrying someone who's culture you dislike.
Akai sincity-You better recognize! Thursday, December 13, 2001 at 22:01:48 (PST)

Confused,

Was your post an honest one or a "troll" posting? Your situation is contradictory and very hard to understand.

For instance, I don't understand how someone who ridiculed a race of people( even though you were probably very young at the time-nonetheless not every youngster does this), and who is not attracted to those people, would date one. If your boyfriend really does struggle with racial pride, I'm not sure you are the person to help. That should probably come from within...his race. I must also say I don't think the average asian is any more or less proud of their race than the average latino, white, or black.

If you want advice, it would be not to date someone you don't feel crazy enough about that it fills him with a sense of confidence in your relationship and his position in your life.

Give him more or let him go. It might be healthier for him if you did.
A Black Female who is confused by "Confused" Thursday, December 13, 2001 at 21:02:17 (PST)

Confused:

Firstly I'm very glad that you at least did some SELF evaluation before you went off blaming it on the guy for your slight displeasure.

Secondly, getting rid of prejudices can be very hard. It takes time and of course you will be wholly insecure because you will have nothing to shield you from any rejection that may occur during your trek into Asian Culture.

It may be irrelevant, but when I met my boyfriend he took me to this restaurant that he said only Asians went too. I was scared shitless. I even asked if any white people would be there so that I could at least feel a little comfortable. I automatically assumed that

A) The people there were going to rude to me because of my race.

B) I couldn't enjoy myself at all because if I slipped up than it would instill bad stereotypes in their minds about African Americans forever.

Once I got there however, I had a great time and even got to try out some of my horrid Korean with the Waitress. I told you this little anecdote so you could see that sometimes our fears and prejudices are wholly unfounded. Of course you will have those few jerks who will hound you for being interested in "their culture" but these types are far and few between. Most people are very happy when they find someone outside of their culture interested in it.

As for the attraction thing, I really believe that this could destroy a relationship. There is always some form of physical attraction involved in most relationships (Unless you're Ivana Trump. Than consider this point Mute)and the fact that you don't fid your mate attractive can not only damage his self esteem, but later in your relationship you could end up either straying or feeling bitter about how you may have "settled". I'm not saying this will happen but it could and since good men are hard to find (of any race) than I certainly don't want this one to slip away from you.

I suggest "Culture Shock" (A term my friends used for when someone completely dives into another culture through kick ass outings and reading with coffee) and lots of sex.

That's right.

Sex.

And look him in the eyes too, this will help you establish a soulful link with him that will bring that inner beauty you see in him to the surface. A man you love is better than a so called pretty face because a pretty face fades with time, but love never does.
JTHM Thursday, December 13, 2001 at 15:37:28 (PST)

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