Asian Male/Black Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ BLACK FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:39:10 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to African American females?
Their facial features | 36%
Their physique | 36%
Their attitude and personality | 27%
Their education & cultural values | 1%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with African American females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 2%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 7%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 67%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 24%

Assuming you are an African American female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 77%
Their physique | 4%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 4%

Assuming you are an African American female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 78%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 13%

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ok Moks/Garota_de_norte or whoever you are claiming to be this week. Funny very funny. I see you are trying to get back at me for having you banned from a particular AM/BW club. You obviously have been entertaining yourself with my yahoo profile. Maybe the kids are part of your shabby old life. But excuse me, don't make them a part of mines. You are still a loser I see. You know what I truly wish, that you would get some type of cancer from your pc and croak. I think everyone is tired of you. You don't have a bit of decency in your body. Stop hatin' and do something good for yourself. Like go away. Maybe you could possibly get a life. If you didn't spend so much time pretending to be someone else online.
Garota Friday, December 28, 2001 at 04:38:35 (PST)

Johnny I hope I spelled your name right. I get your piont because I used to think that all white and asian people were ugly but as I got older I stopped thinking that way, although most of them I still think are ugly. I have seen some good looking ones to. By the way us as black people,well I don't know if you're black but we make the mistake of misunderstanding our African culture. Kwanzaa was kind of but not really invented by Dr.Karenga. Kwanzaa is celebrated in Africa worldwide. Its the first fruit of harvest where they give thanks to the Creator and go through a rites of passage it is a very spritual occasion. Now Dr. Karenga did give it the name Kwanzaa but he didn't make it up: He may have added things to it though. I know some of things Kwanzaa but not alot. I'll try to get some more information on the real first fruit of harvest that is celebrated by Africans.
Lilbit Thursday, December 27, 2001 at 18:52:31 (PST)

To AM for BF:

What part of So Cal are you in?

To Lilbit and Johnny the...: Agree
Urada ЙЬ Сј Thursday, December 27, 2001 at 18:16:28 (PST)

Danielle

Girl you've made a good decision in dating asian men. They are as sweet as sugar, but I've also found they have a quiet freaky side also. I've been with my baby for 2 years and I have'nt regreted a minute of it. He's short ( well actually we are the same height) but let me tell you good things come in small packages

NOOR
NOOR Thursday, December 27, 2001 at 16:20:11 (PST)

Moks,

Have you tried an online dating service yet? It seems like the perfect solution for a secret cyber geek like yourself and you could probably find someone with the same interests as you. I would suggest Match.com because they have a 7-day free trial (at least they used to) and Nerve.com personals since you're looking for someone on nice AND horny (plus it's a really cool site if you like your smut on the highbrow side).

Have you ever met any asian guys in your yoga class? Or maybe in a latin couples dancing class where the white folks all seem to pair up, leaving the assorted people of color to fend for themselves (I've danced with a few asian guys this way)? Or better yet, head down to a karoke bar where you know there will be asian guys then serenade one from the stage!

But before you find that special someone, I strongly suggest that you dissolve your writer's block and make concrete plans for returning to school (yes I realize that it's hard with 3 kids, but this is important and will actually benefit all 5 of you -- you + your kids + the lucky guy). When you can get things right with yourself and let your creativity flow, it's amazing how the pieces of your life can just fall together.

You sound like a really creative and dynamic woman -- I hope you find a guy who can keep up with you!

Peace and love for all,
SistaMoonkitty Thursday, December 27, 2001 at 15:43:13 (PST)

Atypical AM for BF,

Your post reminds me of a cartoon on the now-defunct Breakup Girl website... there was this man called Loft Guy who kept pursuing girls he liked, and kept ending up in the friend zone, no matter how many times he let them cry on his shoulder, how many times he baked them cookies, or how many lofts he built for these girls' Manhattan apartments (hence the name Loft Guy).

I wish I could remember her advice to him... I do remember that she told him to forcibly remove himself from the friend zone by dressing and carrying himself as a hottie (although from your description, you already sound pretty confident). She also told him to act more like a suitor and less like a buddy for a while in hopes that the girl would see him differently. I also think it might be a good idea to pursue other girls, then ask her for advice on how to get with them -- then she'd see that you really are a datable guy, and if she tries to see you from some other girl's point of view, she might realize what a hottie you are.

But none of this matters right now since you really SHOULD NOT be trying to pursue her right now.

Really. Stop it. Don't go there.

Why? Becuase as you said, she's still sprung on some other guy!!!! She is not available to you! At best she'll hook up with you in a fit of despair and use you as a transitional man (kinda like a human bandaid) until she's back on her feet and ready to pursue some guy who hasn't yet watched her weep through a box of Puffs Plus.

At worse, you'll lose the companionship of a woman who you really care about. Believe me, you want her to CHOOSE you when she's feeling great -- you don't want her to just ACCEPT you because she's feeling down.

So my advice is, wait til her heart is open again, then approach her like you mean business. If you act like she's really into you, she may even forget to see you as a friend.

And if it doesn't work out, go on with your life, but keep your friendship with this girl. Sometimes cupid's arrow takes a few laps around the track before it finally strikes. Your day will come, sweetie.

Peace and love for all,
SistaMoonkitty Thursday, December 27, 2001 at 15:27:04 (PST)

To: AM for BF

Try to stay patient even though I know that you may feel like you are waisting your time. Have you sat down and told her how you really feel about her? If not, try to pick the right moment to tell her, tell her everything and see what happens.

Good luck to you!

NB28 Thursday, December 27, 2001 at 14:05:58 (PST)

Garota_de_norte what are you doing here manhunting?

Uh. I guess you forgot that you're married.
dropping dimes Thursday, December 27, 2001 at 13:15:06 (PST)

Johnny the Yuletide Homicidal Maniacal Reindeer

Of course YOU would rather celebrate Chanukkah than Kwanzaa, since you are one of those black sellouts that would jump at the chance to worship anything white related!
slide Thursday, December 27, 2001 at 13:11:46 (PST)

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