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ASIAN MALE/ BLACK FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
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do samoan women consider themselves black? I'm a 19 year old asian guy who thinks they're fine as hell.
asian guy19
Friday, March 01, 2002 at 08:54:39 (PST)
JTHM,
Don't even get me started on "A Baby Story"! Aside from "Wedding Planner," my other post-retirement dream job is "Midwife." I spent 2 months helping my sister prepare for the birth of her son, going to doctors visits, taking doula classes, and watching 2 episodes of "A Baby Story" with her every day! It was one of the best experiences of my life.
On "A Wedding Story" my favorite moment is DEFINETELY when the groom sees the bride at the end of the aisle for the first time... priceless, especially when the guys get all teary! My other favorite moments are when the strut back down the aisle as husband and wife ("whew, we actually made it through the ceremony!") and, of course, watching everyone getting all liquored up and rowdy at the reception.
Lola,
I haven't seen Muriel's Wedding yet, but from what I hear it's right up my alley. My boyfriend recommended it, but I thought it was because he seems to have a thing for Toni Colette, the chick on 6 Feet Under, and the music of ABBA (don't ask...). But I'll check it out!
Peace and love for all, weddings and babies for whoever wants 'em,
SistaMoonKitty
Thursday, February 28, 2002 at 20:37:48 (PST)
HELP! from the south,
First of all, let me just say how very HAPPY I am for you and your girl! How wonderful that you and your beloved are hooked up mind, body and soul! It doesn't get any better than this! And it doesn't get any scarier, does it?
I could go on and on and on about how terrified my boyfriend and I were when we first hooked up. We were from completely different places racially, culturally, educationally, geographically, and even personality-wise... and yet when we were together it just CLICKED. It felt like the perfect relationship was there all along, just waiting for us to enter it hand-in-hand. It defied logic! I was convinced that at any moment, our magic was going to revealed for the illusion it truly was!
I was a basket case. I wanted to see him, but I was kinda avoiding him. I didn't want to get sucked into... into... well, I wasn't sure what it was, but if the relationship was this good now, what horrible things did the future hold for me? I really wanted to run. I wanted to hit the reset button, I wanted to make all the anxiety go away.
Instead, I walked over to the couch, curled up next to him, and told him that I really liked him, but I was scared. He said he felt the same way. I was shocked because he always seemed so blissfully calm around me. He said that when he was with me, he didn't think about the scary stuff, he was just happy to be with me. So I took a deep breath and just relaxed. Stroked his hair while he took my other hand and interlaced our fingers. Refused to think of anything but how wonderful it felt to be with him in that moment. Next thing I knew, I was blissfully calm too.
Now I'm not saying that our pretty little garden of love hasn't had its share of weeds and brambles. We both get insecure sometimes. But it always comes down to taking a deep breath, holding hands, sharing our feelings, and resolving to work through the issue together.
One other thing, commitment doesn't necessarily mean going from "What's your sign, baby" to a ring, a mortgage, a screaming kid and a shared burial plot. Seriously, you can take your time. Figure out what makes you both comfortable and agree to hang out there until you're both ready to go deeper. And remember that no matter how much you love someone else, you take care of yourself first.
Wait, one last thing, I swear... check out the book IF THE BUDDHA DATED by Charlotte Kasl. It's all about how to fall in love without losing yourself. It has some great sections on what to do if you start freaking out, how to learn from your anxiety, and how NOT to screw your relationship and/or your life up when fear momentarily hijacks true love.
So relax, enjoy and stay present! You'll be fine!
Peace and love for all,
SistaMoonKitty
Thursday, February 28, 2002 at 20:12:16 (PST)
Did you guys see the grammys last night?
It's sad India didn't get an award. She looked like she was going to crack when U2 won an award. I heard this guy on the radio talking about Alicia Keys was probably going to win because she was light skinned so that makes her more marketable.
BLACKSAMBO
Thursday, February 28, 2002 at 14:33:38 (PST)
First of all, I want to say that the past couple of weeks, this poll has become a very positive and pleasant one. Everyone is giving good advice to those who seek to be in an AMBW relationships.
You all have wonderful personalities from the posts I have been reading and I think it's great. The point of this poll is for AM and BW to come together, get to know each other, build bridges and that is what I'm seeing.
So everyone, keep it, stay positive, love one another, and keep communicating with each other.
PJ
Thursday, February 28, 2002 at 13:28:52 (PST)
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