Asian Male/Black Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ BLACK FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:39:10 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to African American females?
Their facial features | 36%
Their physique | 36%
Their attitude and personality | 27%
Their education & cultural values | 1%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with African American females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 2%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 7%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 67%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 24%

Assuming you are an African American female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 77%
Their physique | 4%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 4%

Assuming you are an African American female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 78%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 13%

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I don't think its so cool that J.Chang got his girl pregnant...because its "so cool to impregnate a BW"...
thats not how I see it at all.
I look at it like, kids are a blessing from god. I think its nice they share a baby. Babies are a blessing from god. But, he has to own up to his responsiblity. And jackal, I saw your little nasty comment about...they try to trap men by getting pregnant. What the hell do you know about his girl? You know just as much about her as I do...which is NOTHING.
Perhaps the negative people like Green, and Jackal should take their negativity elsewhere. I am sure noon appreciates the way you spread you negative vibe everywhere. Perhaps your a black male who doesn't like to see BW with AM, or maybe your an angry goth...trying to get some kick out of rude...because noone wanted your boring goth info on here. Well, whomever you are and whatever your case may be. You are not welcome on here. Freedom of speech or no freedom of speech. This is an AM and BW poll.
Chris Lee Friday, March 22, 2002 at 04:41:41 (PST)

Green's comments-
Ok, now I am confused.
Isn't this the AM and BW poll?
Or is this the BM and BW poll?
I came here to hear about AM and BW, not attend an online church today.
WeiWei Friday, March 22, 2002 at 04:01:42 (PST)

Green;
Noone mentioned black men. We have been discussing AM and BW.
This is an AM and BW poll.
Did you know that?

Jen Thursday, March 21, 2002 at 23:32:57 (PST)

Green:
Its seems like you have alot of community ideas. I came on here to hear the views of BW,and their views and experiences with AM. I am very much attracted to BW, and it means no disrespect to them. I just prefer their beauty over other women. I think your comments on J.Chang,Candian BF, and Gail were very judgemental. They were just expressing themselves and their experiences. That is what this poll is supposed to be about. Our interracial experiences. If you don't approve of what anyone has to say, then perhaps you need to try another poll that suits your taste on other issues.Such as community help and activist work.
I have ultimate respect for black women, and don't understand why some such as yourself assume otherwise. Just because I am an asian man. It sounds like your words promote somewhat racial overtones. That kind of negativity is not needed. Everyone has had of enough negative people trying to frequent this poll.

Viet Thursday, March 21, 2002 at 22:33:54 (PST)

Green

Unless you have seen us post where we were dogging black men you can't say what we would say. I have seen black men in this same position and I gave the same advice. Maybe we are just trying to be supportive of somebody who seems to be in a tough situation. I think we are trying to make this in to positive forum. Yes there is a problem with single black mothers that is why most of us were encouraging him to be there for her. I am not here to find an Asian man I already have one. I come here b/c living in the midwest I feel like the only one in an BF/AM relationship and it is nice to know that I am not.
mystique Thursday, March 21, 2002 at 20:26:17 (PST)

I know what you mean Cinnamon. I find my boyfriend many times behaving so odd. Like when I we are having an intimate conversation. I say,"You have such pretty eyes...or,"You have the cutest face" He starts blushing, and its like he gets so embarrassed...like he doesnt' believe me or something. Its like, growing up he was told negative things about himself or something. I don't really know what it is. It makes me feel bad for him sometimes. I was born and raised in Hawaii, and me and my sisters were always told positive things growing up. I am not sure about him though.
HapaHunnyKelani Thursday, March 21, 2002 at 16:36:25 (PST)

Mixed up 1/4 1/4 1/4 1/4 dude,

Oh please don't discredit yourself as "mixed up"! You are a Premium Blend, sweetie!

Hey, maybe if scientists ever make contact with folks from another planet, they can send you as a representative of the entire human race! (I'm tired of those sci fi movies where they send some pale blue-eyed blond -- the least prevalent people on the planet!)

As the former little black boy/current amphibian-humanoid Michael Jackson might sing, "You are the world, you are the children." Be proud.

Peace and love for all,
SistaMoonKitty (3/4 black,1/8 moonbeam, 1/8 kitty) Thursday, March 21, 2002 at 15:27:51 (PST)

J.Chang,

Wow, things sure got exciting here! While you say that you're really happy about the baby, how does your girlfriend feel about it? You describe her as a virginal bookworm with strong values, so I assume that she's a young woman with career aspirations. A baby could easily derail them...

...or not. I really feel for all of you, you, your girl, your parents, her parents. As misguided as they are, your folks only want the best for you, right? And what do the girl's parents think about this? I ask this because if you guys decide to go ahead and have this baby, you are gonna need as much support as you can get from as many family members possible.

Being a new mother is a hard, scary, isolating experience -- are you prepared to support your girl through this? And most of all, are you two prepared mentally and emotionally to be parents? Have you lived out enough of your hopes and dreams so that you won't feel resentful of the kid for requiring so much of your time and energy?

Maybe it'll all work out. I've found that usually, even in the most painful family situations, a baby is a blessing that brings people together. I've also seen babies come into families that weren't equipped mentally, emotionally or financially to handle the responsibility. I don't know what category you and your girl fall into. But you do.

All I can say is that you need to be REALLY honest with yourselves -- how will having a child now affect your futures for the rest of your lives together (whether you stay together or not as a couple, this child will bind you and your families forever)? Would you have the resources to pull it off? Might it be better to wait so that you have more to give? And most importantly, what does your gut tell you both about this situation? Be honest, no matter what the answer. This may be one of the biggest decisions of your lives. I wish you all the best of luck.

Peace and love for all,
SistaMoonKitty Thursday, March 21, 2002 at 15:15:11 (PST)

Hello:

I've just joined this conversation and noted several discussions of interest. One of which I'm inclined to address is the issue of what kind of black women Asian men are attracted to.

I've made exploring interracial relationships a side career because I am a black woman who is married to a Filipino and I'm the host and founder of the NEW MILLENNIUM CONSULTING website and forum.

My husband is a very successful captain in the military and we have two small sons, who based on their appearances we are raising to be Filipino first and black second, as the world will see them.

I have a master degree and my husband is highly educated as well which will be my first point: Ladies if you wish to date and marry an Asian man of quality you, yourself must first possess higher education. A GED is not going to suffice. So obtain as many college degrees as you possibly can, this will make finding an Asian husband much more easier and make his family acceptance of you much easier as well.

Also, if you must be presentable and that will include erasing all ghetto type behavior including the use of ebonics, extremely long fingernails, unnaturally looking hair weaves and blue contact lens and obvious signs of obesity.

Unfortunately, the majority of black women fall under those categories and this is way the majority of black women will never find themselves with an Asian mate.

Another point I would like to make is that Asian men are exceedingly handsome and I always find myself looking at them whenever I'm alone shopping. So, wouldn't handsome men only want beautiful women?

Using myself for an example and understand why it was very easy for my Asian husband to pick me out of all those other black females who were vying for his attention.

My counseling and consulting work has boldly included and often focused on service delivery considering the cultural perspective of the group or individual being served. Specifically, I have trained other mental health professionals, business leaders, and managers to deliver care and services cross-culturally.

I give talks for various organizations, especially during heritage celebrations like Black History Month and Asian Pacific American Heritage Month.

For three years running, for example, I presented at the National Defense University during Women's History Month.

In 1997, I spoke on Issues for African American Women in the Workplace.

In 1998 I discussed cross-gender and cross-cultural mentorship of women and people of color.

In 1999, I presented "The Healing Fiction of Women Writers" which highlighted books by women of many ethnicities. I wrote regularly for the African American Voice in Colorado Springs, CO.

I also periodically wrote for publications like Washington Families and Prince William Parent, magazines circulated in the Washington DC metropolitan and Prince William County, VA areas, respectively.

In the February 1998 issue of Washington Families my article "Black biracials: Talking above the whisper" appeared. Other articles appeared in Prince William's Family Focus and The Community Voice papers and in northern Virginia's Metro Herald.

Finally, I served on the Board of Directors for The Interracial Family Circle, Inc.

Currently, I teach in the Communications and Humanities Department of Southwestern Illinois College. Books I use in my courses include The Sweeter the Juice by S. Haizlip; The Bean Trees by B. Kingsolver; Half and Half multiple authors/edited by O'Hearn; Significant Others by Kitt; and Black Ice by L. Cary.

http://www.mxtbag.com/

So, ladies of the poll, if you are as well accomplished, meeting, dating and marrying an equality as accomplished Asian man will not be something that is out of your reach. Work on your appearances, improve your viability's and change those hoodrat attitudes and see what happens.
Venetia biracialid@aol.com Thursday, March 21, 2002 at 14:02:19 (PST)

Green is right. I don't have any other advice to give to J Chang or couples like him and his girlfriend except that if you have no problem to engaged in sexual activities then you should have no problem dealing with the consequences.

BF in Houston is making that story up about Aaliyah, I've searched everywhere and nobody have heard of that story and it's nowhere on the Internet. People who show up and make up things like that are just looking for some attention.

I think Cinnamon, that you and your boyfriend make a nice couple since you both want to pass anyway. =)
Luscious Jackson Thursday, March 21, 2002 at 13:19:21 (PST)

Green you sound pretty angry that black women want asian men. Oh well. Thats how it is honey, get over it.
Thats what this poll is about. Black women and asian men. Its about sexuality or whatever else. Its not a birthcontrol class, and its not a self help therapy class. Its not a community action agency, or an governmental awareness program.So..If you really don't care tooooo much for it, then get the H*ll off the poll.

Mrs. Trina Li Thursday, March 21, 2002 at 12:04:48 (PST)

Green,
In your response to Gail,and to Canadian BF...What are a liscensed Psychiatrist? It doesn't even really matter...Noone wants to hear you narrow thinking.
I think your on the wrong forum. Whatever your trying to preach, you should preach it somewhere else. Noone is on here looking for the "Preach of the Day"
So, really...
BORRRRRRRIIIINNNNNNGGGGGGG!!!!!!
BORRRRIINNNNNNNNNNNNNGGGGGGG!!!!!!
Try the preaching network, I am sure many would be interested in what you have to say. As for now...BORINNNGGG!

Tired of the Trolls Thursday, March 21, 2002 at 11:52:35 (PST)

Green(whoever you are)
Noone was congratulating J.Chang. If you read "all" of the responses, you might have noticed that most of us...say he should be RESPONSIBLE...be a man. So, I think you have your facts WRONG. Because noone was saying that.
If you would pay more attention to what is really being said, then you wouldn't come to such negative little conclusions. I hope your not another someone coming on here with you negative thoughts...if so...
do everyone a big favor and take it somewhere else. Its not wanted here.
Sing Thursday, March 21, 2002 at 11:44:36 (PST)

Luscious Jackson:

I'm so glad we have that link. Intellectual conversation is very stimulating and can provide the basis for debate and in some cases a new perspective on life. However, I do not have a degree in sociology, (I am in the middle of receiving my B.S. in Organic Chemistry) just an abundance of books on the subject.

I completely agree with you on the topic of stereotypes being an easy way to classify people and I would love to hear your thoughts on why you think this happens? What stimulates people into forming broad opinions about a single race or group of people?

By the way...what University did you attend?

JTHM Thursday, March 21, 2002 at 10:03:39 (PST)

Green:

I can't agree with you more, but Chang has to make a decision and I hope he stays with his family. I feel that it is a negative impact on both the man and the woman. The woman gets more negative attention, but it takes two to tango.

Are you in the film industry? Did you make any contributions to "Romeo Must Die?"

Luscious Jackson Thursday, March 21, 2002 at 08:58:13 (PST)

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