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ASIAN MALE/ BLACK FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
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Okay, I haven't posted anything here in a long while, but what is the deal with these extra long rants on skin color?
Everyone is entitled to their preference, and if some Asian men are attracted to light-skinned women...that's their choice. We as black people need to stop this complexion rift.
Just because 1,2, or even a million men find lighter skinned women to be cute, that doesn't take away from the attractiveness of a chocolate skinned person.
I am a dark skinned woman, and i have guys come up to me all the time...but to be honest, I'd rather someone get to know me and find my intelligence and personality alluring rather than just my appearance.
Nubian Goddess, you need to have more confidence in yourself and not let what a few people think get to you.
There are some people who could see Lauryn Hill or Iman walking down the road and never give them a second glance....does that make them any less
beautiful? No. When it comes down to it, only 2 peoples' opinion count: yours and that of the person you choose to be with...so why start complaining about every other person on earth thinks?
There is no absolutely no need to put down anyone in order to lift yourself up. ONE of the many intrigues of our people is the African diaspora and the diversity of our looks.
Please calm down and carry yourself as a true nubian goddess...if you are one.
Bluebird
Sunday, April 28, 2002 at 08:09:22 (PDT)
To the fake Nubian Goddess:
With all that creative thinking and writing- it seems you would have been creative enough to come up with your (OWN) sn. But I guess you have to hide behind other's SNs' to speak (YOUR)mind. It makes me not so much flattered, but more amused than anything. You and I have nothing in common honey. I doubt if you have been to any of my open mic. nights that I have hosted. Sweety, you and I are night and day- Because, I believe in ones (OWN) individuality. Its what makes us all (SPECIAL) dear. All of those showy words mean nothing when you have to (STEAL) ideas from others.
And. I will make this clear to you. I have never put myself above anyone, race or color or creed. Beauty comes in all shapes and forms. If beauty were one sided and one way, it would get quite boring.
I am a freestyle, freespirit who is open minded. I have an AM, and I love him and his individuality. If I didn't open my mind up in the first place, I doubt if I would have discovered his very presence. I have friends who are not like me, and I love them for their own. I am a black woman. I think I describe my hair as 'eau natural' as I always have, naturally curly. I have never used any of the descriptions you have used to portray me. You need to widen out your creativity honey, and get your own SN to go with your ideals. Get your own, you'll feel much better I am sure. Its so important to be yourself. Its healthier.
The real Nubian Goddess/poetess keeping it REAL
Sunday, April 28, 2002 at 05:38:19 (PDT)
Hey NUBIAN GODDESS, think you could be ANYMORE racist than you already are? What kind of elitist nimrod would believe that blacks who are light-skinned aren't really black? Get your head our of your ass for once and stop your silliness.
Ken ken@false-reality.org
Sunday, April 28, 2002 at 05:03:06 (PDT)
I have just read this poll messages and it is sad. I have never actually posted a message yet, but I have always felt like I identified more with my father's black side of the family. My mother's family is white, and never accepted me. My father's side has always treated me more accepting a warmly. I loved them so much for that. I was raised by my father after she left.
So I have always thought of myself as being a black woman, with mixed blood. Dont get me wrong, I love my mom with all my heart. I cannot help what color my skin is. I have very light skin. My hair is not really kinky or anything. But its not a weave or perm it is already long and wavy. So what. So I have wavy long hair, I didn't ask god to give it to me. It was put on my head just like everyone elses. I dont think its right to put others down for looking different. From what I have read, it makes me feel like goldsea managers or moderator people should maybe make a poll specifically for us since black women dont consider us as black women. It makes me feel sad to hear this stuff from black women in particular. It hurts me even more to hear it from a black woman. So much that you can't even begin to understand. If it was a white person or someone else, I probably wouldn't even care. But its really really so sad. This is a BF and AM poll. BF and AM are two different cultures and races. If they get together it is an interracial union. The children might even come out with a different hair texture and body shape and skin color. You never know when you mix races what the child's traits are going to pick up on more or less. Its like mixing paints and colors, you never really know. Its not the fault of the child for that. Thats what happens when you mix. This is supposedly a mixed poll, black women and asian men. If a black woman or any other race of a woman, feels so against mixed raced women then why hook up with an asian man? Why take that step to date an asian man? Why bother to open your mind to something different?
Different is supposed to be a new and beautiful experience. I have heard some black women accuse biracial women of thinking we are better or something. It may or may not be true with some mixed women. But as for me? No.I don't feel like that. I dont feel less of a woman because of my looks, and I dont feel like more. I am just me. I accept people for who they are. I appreciate my black blood. And yes, I appreciate my other half...although its hard because my mom's family don't accept me. They didn't want my mother with my father. They were real prejudiced white people. I was just a baby. How can you have so much hatred towards an innocent little baby? Thats just insane. I won't be posting on here, or visiting this site anymore. Not ever again. I guess its because I thought it was a black women and asian men poll. I have found some asian men attractive. I havent really dated any, but had thought about it. Someone told me to check it out, that I might be able to maybe talk to some nice people on here and get some ideas of what its like. Instead I have just heard racist bad mouthing of other black women, who have mixed blood. All I have heard so far is that if you are not a dark skin woman with kink hair then you are not welcome on the site. I will try checking out some other sites on the net. Maybe some asian sites or something. I have found a few of them, so far I haven't heard any of the racist shit I have seen on here. This has definitely been another bad experience. When the whites say "your not wanted here"
and blacks say "your not wanted here"
if its like this...why bother to discuss interracial relationships? Why bother to date interracially?
Why are any of these women on here to even discuss it, if they hate the interracial result so much?
Good luck everybody. I wont be coming here anymore. One love everybody! Peace to you all! Even to those of you who are not open minded enough. And to those of you who are...Much love to you.
Tiffany Estrada
Saturday, April 27, 2002 at 14:39:18 (PDT)
Nubian Goddess,
You have the poet's spirit in you. I married a True Nubian Sistah, and I'm glad that she didn't come with fur.
Asian Male Demi-God
Saturday, April 27, 2002 at 12:27:43 (PDT)
Check this out. I was in LA the other evening after a night of poppin collars. I was dressed to the T, all black, polished shoes, blings in the ears and on the wrist. Me and a partner went to a low key restaurant and I noticed two figures walking behind us. I paid them no attention but decided to wait and hold the door open for them. Turns out to be some white female and one bodacious, foine Black female. In my head I'm like DAMN girl! But I play it cool and give her my dimpled smile. She starts to walk through then stops and throws a line, "don't I know you?" I reciprocate and we exchange introductions. She asks me what am I and I give her one chance to guess, she says Samoan. I say no baby, Filipino. She is astonished and says that I am the biggest Filipino she's ever seen. All this time our hands are embraced. We chop it up for at least 10 minutes, smiling, exchanging looks, hand in hand. We know what we want, then her hater friend pulls her away. Its cool, I take it or leave it. I say it was a pleasure to have met her and I hope that our paths cross again someday and our eyes part. As I reach to shake her hand, she takes my hand and kisses it.
Why do females always gotta roll with a hater friend that isn't getting any?
Azn Mack
Saturday, April 27, 2002 at 00:31:13 (PDT)
NUBIANNE GODDESS,
You have a real problem. As a light-skinned BLACK woman, with long hair, I take real offense to your argument. So, my sister is dark like you; things just worked out that way; you never know what past genes will creep up, as happened in my case. So, you're telling me my full blooded sister is Black, but I'm not??? That I have no right to call myself a BW? That's dumb and an insane attempt to divide the Black race. So should we all separate; light vs. dark? No thanks, I know East Indians do that and they are PATHETIC for that behavior. I don't want to be pathetic like that. OKAY!? Thanks!
Cinnamon
Friday, April 26, 2002 at 18:36:40 (PDT)
Nubian Goddess:
Hmmmm...
Some women are mixed. Mixed is mixed.
There is no mixed poll on the goldsea.Are mixed women alowed on here? Women who are half and half? Identifying with black culture? You yourself may have kinky hair and all that. But not all of us do. Some of us have parents who are in an interracial relationship. It has nothing to do with all that "roots to africa" stuff you brought up to school us all. Just because someone does not look dark black skin, doesnt make them less black. I have light eyes and light hair...I guess I am white huh? Natural light eyes and hair. No contacts or nothing. I was just trying to say from one mixed female to another for her not to feel discouraged about her being mixed. Many times women like us deal with other black women who say we think we are trying to be something we are not...or that we are not black enough. Trying to make us feel ashamed in little ways. Not everybody but some do this. And no, I am not ashamed. I don't try and be something that I am not, and no I dont try to pass myself off. I look different, and thats how I was born from my mothers womb. Just like you are proud of your dark skin and kinky hair...I am proud of my light hair and light eyes...I am not proud that I think I am better than anyone. And I am not someone who thinks that light is better than dark. I dont think like that. That would be ignorant on my part. I just have a right to not be ashamed of who I am. I see nothing wrong with me cheering that girl up. She and I and anyone else that are mixed with black and whatever are just as good as anyone else. It doesnt make us "high yellow". Yea, I have heard that one many times. Or how about"yellow trash" "yellow white" blah blah blah...I have heard it all before. And well, so what if I am yellow. I didn't ask for my parents to give birth to my yellow a**, did I.
Dark skinned is beautiful, and so is light skin...reddish brown...its all beautiful, and its all good. Why is this even on the goldsea poll? Why dont we just make this the freakin census bureau?
(not ashamed)
Friday, April 26, 2002 at 17:35:10 (PDT)
Can we PLEASE go back to talking about LOVE?
Okay, for those of you who are having a hard time finding an interesting Asian man / Black woman in your area, I just got a great idea. Last weekend, I went to an all-day converence on Minorities Writers in Television. It was a lot of people (maybe 200?) crammed in a little room, and people of all ethnicities were there, including several Asian guys and many Black women. During lunch, everyone had to eat quickly in one big room, so we all got to mingle and make new acquaintances (or "contacts" as they call it in LA). By the end of it, people were exchanging phone numbers, making plans to get together, etc. And best of all, I distinctly remember seeing a cute Asian guy hanging out with a bunch of Black women there!
So are there any "mixed minority" events in your town? Any sort of "white people have been in charge of this thing long enough and now it's our turn" local issues? I realize that if you're the shy type it's hard to get out there, but if you can get passionate enough about something to leave the house, you may find some else who shares your passion, just not your race.
Peace and love for all,
SistaMoonkitty
Friday, April 26, 2002 at 14:12:58 (PDT)
NUBIAN GODDESS,
Perhaps you think you're just expressing your opinion, but you must realize that at least 80% of African-Americans today have some white blood in their veins due to 400 years of slavery. Not one of these people, myself included, have any control over the genes that God gave us, nor would most of us want to be anything other than who we are. God made every single one of us on special order.
Your words insult not just me, but my entire family tree going back to the African slave who had to make a life and death decision by spreading her legs. She chose life and now we're here to honor and remember her sacrifice.
I normally don't engage in name calling, but your comments remind me of Hitler's justification for an Aryan race. Surely you can find a way to be proud of your attibutes without denigrating those of others. Surely you can find a way to elevate yourself without tearing down others. Surely you can find a way to spead love instead of hatred.
If not, I'm sure there is a board somewhere for your ideas. If not, why don't you go start it? Then the rest of us here can go back to discussing the joys and trials of INTERACIAL love, even if it involves dark skin, straight hair, flat asses or half-leg waxes. Jeez!
Peace and love for all,
SistaMoonkitty
Friday, April 26, 2002 at 13:59:14 (PDT)
Nubian Goddess:
Wow, where to start? Well erm...I'm very happy to see that you are happy with yourself however I must point out a few things to you that I think you over look. Firstly, African genes are the strongest and most dominant in the world. Therefore a so called "bi-racial" woman who has African lineage could mate with a white man and produce a darker complected child. It has happened and is scientifically possible.
And another thing, welcome to the forum. I'm sure your childishness will fit in greatly with the self loathing, whiny, poor-me-victim, bullshit that goes on here often.
I would never call myself your sister, perhaps because I have more sense than to associate myself with people who deny others just to make themselves feel as if they have some minute chance at self worth.
TRUE Nubian Goddesses don't do that. TRUE Nubian Goddesses were mothers who nurtured all of mankind and fed milk through their breasts to humanity.
JTHM
Friday, April 26, 2002 at 13:16:29 (PDT)
To NUBIAN GODDESS:
What exactly are you getting at! I, like most African Americans, am of mixed heritage. I don't know of any African Americans who can actually say they have no other heritage than African (in the US). Are you from America? You don't have to answer this if your uncomfortable with this question. I ask this because I'm African American with dark brown skin, medium length kinky hair and Black features...but I do have a mixed heritage. And yes, all people regarded their race are beautiful! We are all unique no one is exactly the same. =P Err...what was the point of your post again? Please keep in mind Blacks in the US and Africa vary in shade/skin color, body and facial features. Have a nice day! ^_^
Proud2BeMe
Friday, April 26, 2002 at 13:00:53 (PDT)
NUBIAN GODDESS,
I think most of us know the facts about why some people are a little hairy than others. At least, I do.
In American society, the government has set up the system in such a way that even if you're mixed with black, you are considered black, no matter how light the skin is (prime example: ME). I don't consider myself black. I don't consider myself white or Native American (although I admit, I identify more with whites, Latins, Asians, and other groups more than blacks. that could be due to the fact that most blacks I encounter think I'm white-wash or a sell out just b/c I don't degrade myself with listening to most of the filth that can be found in rap music and rap videos; and maybe it's because I will not degrade myself with tight and overly revealing clothing. Or it just could be because I'm so light that most of them wish they could have my light skin and be able to mix in different environments). Anyway, I don't see a reason as to why I should consider myself only black, especially when I'm not. I see myself as mixed. When people ask me what am I, I do tell them I'm mixed, but my birth certificate states black. I am more than black; I'm also white and Native American. But I am still black, at least, to most of the people in this country. To be completely upfront and honest, I'm a person . . . a person that suffers through the pains of life and rejoices in the pleasures that life offers as well. I have to admit, I slightly resent how you put down on us that are mixed and not pure blood. We are just as beautiful (and intelligent) as those that are pure blood. Personally, and I know I'm just as bias as you, but I think I have the best of every world that my family's little fingers have dipped into. And there has been a lot of racial mixing. Anyway, just remember, you are insulting those of us that are just as beautiful as the purer counterparts we're compared to. And you never know, you might find yourself with a white man instead of an Asian one. Can't knock it until you try it (if you haven't already).
I'm mixed, and I AM JUST AS BEAUTIFUL.
lilli98 lilli98@collegeclub.com
Friday, April 26, 2002 at 12:50:41 (PDT)
Destiny,
I agree with Crystal Luv. Don't despair. I, too, am mixed. When I go to Latin parties, I'm mistaken for Latin, and compared to some of my white friend girls, I'm lighter. And there are times when I look very much the Native American. I'm partly white, black, indian (native american). I'm so very proud of who I am, and you should be too. Don't let the fact that some men find such a beautiful mix intimidating. The next man that comes along won't be as shy and/or intimidated by such a beautiful and intelligent lady, and you'll be glad that the others didn't approach you. Maybe, just maybe, you should let them know you're interested. It never hurts, you know. What's the worst that could happen . . . rejection. We all have to face that at some point. I've had to deal with rejection too. It can be embarrassing at first, but afterwards, it's not that bad, especially when you pull yourself together by saying, "his loss." There are a lot of beautiful mixed women in this world, and you and I, along with so many others, are a part of that group. Like I said, I'm very proud of who I am, and I know you are too. You will find your prince (whatever his ehtnicity/nationality).
lilli98 lilli98@collegeclub.com
Friday, April 26, 2002 at 12:16:22 (PDT)
Nubian Goddess,
I dont know what to say. All I can do is make comments from a scientific perspective. You say that there is only one true type African woman. Don't you know that there is more genetic diversity in the humans in Africa than exists in the rest of the world? Genetic studies have shown that humans outside of Africa whether white, asian, hispanic, or whatever are pretty much the same. However in Africa the genetic differences from one group to another are huge. Take the pygmies and the neighboring Bantu tribe for example. The pygmies average less than 5 feet in height while the Bantu are over 7 feet! That is why scientist believe the human race originated in Africa, because there is so much variety there.
P
Friday, April 26, 2002 at 11:25:53 (PDT)
CRYSTAL LUV,
If indeed you are "mixed" then what are you doing a board made for Black women and Asian men? I am just curious why so many bi racial and mixed women hang around sites that clearly state its for "BLACK WOMEN"? maybe you shoud write the webmasters and tell them they need a seperate catagory for Asian men and "Mixed women" to be fair to yourselves and the Black women you are insulting by saying you are "mixed" but yet you are on a dating baord for BLACK WOMEN nad Asian men not Asian mena nd Mixed women.
When are you mixed and bi racial women going to get your own stuff instead of intruding in the space of REAL BLACK WOMEN?
Personally mixed women do not represent True Black Nubian beauty so I can't understand why so many of you go to Black women boards but claim to not be Black women (which you aren't).
I think too many times people confuse a bi racial woman with being a "Black woman" and we need to put an end to this. If you do not look like this:
Dark smooth skin, thick shiny kinky hair, high cheekbones, good height, good bone structure, nice firm round ass and breasts that look like grapefrutis, and other MOTHER AFRICA features then you are NOT A BLACK WOMAN.
Mixed women IMO do not have the Nubian Bone structure or Nubian features to be Black women.
Wouldn't bi racial women feel much better having their own identities? i would think so. SO why do you come to boards for BLACK WOMEN and say you are "mixed"? that confuses me. Maybe you do not want to compete with other bi racial women and want to use societies baises towards beautiful Nubian goddesses to build yourselves up? Hmmm.
This board should be for Asian men who are looking for REAL BLACK WOMEN as the title of the board says "Asian men and BLACK WOMEN", not "Asian men and MIXED WOMEN". if there are Asian men who are looking for Alliyah types and Ashanti types and mixed women then I think it would be FAIR to everyone to have them include a board for Asian men and Mixed women. Dontcha think? That way the ones who need that true Nubain essence will not have to jump hurdles over women who are just a mixture of Black as opposed to Nubian.
See where I am coming from? I do not see how being "mixed" makes a woman Black. Light skin does not make a woman Black. ONLY dark complected Black women with NUBIAN features are BLACK. the rest are just knock offs of Nubian beauty.
This needs to be made clear.
NUBIAN GODDESS
Friday, April 26, 2002 at 09:48:44 (PDT)
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