Asian Male/Black Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ BLACK FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:39:10 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to African American females?
Their facial features | 36%
Their physique | 36%
Their attitude and personality | 27%
Their education & cultural values | 1%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with African American females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 2%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 7%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 67%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 24%

Assuming you are an African American female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 77%
Their physique | 4%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 4%

Assuming you are an African American female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 78%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family and friends. | 13%

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Mixed Malay&Chinese Guy,
There is little out there of black beauty. Music videos are a way to tell a story, or just have fun expressing the music media. In the process it tends to overkill visually with sexy imagery. Hot cars and fast women is the fantasy of choice it seems.
It depends on the music you listen to how the black woman in the video is portrayed. If it is a 'love' type video those ladies outfits are usually much less provacative and more classy. Otherwise, They aren't wearing less than what they'd wear at a public beach. Remember, those individual black women choose to let themselves be portrayed that way. Part of the reason may be as women we aren't usually portrayed as sexy outside of black oriented media. This is especially, the case for black skin, lips, and booty. But most of black men appreciate it. I have to say I thoroughly, appreciate the brothers who tease the female viewers by showing some skin,in turn.We can be beautiful without that, but for me it is all in fun.
Visually speaking when singing about a fine black woman they will show a black woman in a manner they think the viewers consider sexy. In a party or club setting most women dress in a provocative manner. A grandma dress won't do. Artistically, it has visual appeal just asthetically to see well shaped human forms gliding across the screen. Since I tend to associate music with fun fun fun, it doesn't offend me. The bitch and ho' thing though is a completely different matter.
Cookie Sunday, July 21, 2002 at 08:09:27 (PDT)

mixed malay&chinese guy,

No, I don't feel offended by your comment at all. I agree with you 100%. I feel that many music videos are degrading to women. However, there is a double standard in America as there has always been.

Those videos such as "girls' gone wild" and pornos featuring mostly caucasian women like,"Anna Nicole Smith" and different ones- are seen as sexy and beautiful, soft and desirable by men ( from surveys I have seen)

Music videos with black women wearing the amount of clothing as "girls' gone wild" and all of them... the black women are for the most part seen as- loose and wild and out of control. Some men may say they are seen as desirable sexy etc.. but for the most part the double standard stays in many of their minds.

I think double standards are ridiculous.

Personally, I think any women who need to show their body off for attention is degrading. I like to wear tank tops and shorts, especially with it being so hot this summer. But I don't go around showing off my body to everyone, and behaving slutty. There is a difference between slutty and classy.
classy bw Sunday, July 21, 2002 at 06:54:25 (PDT)

Sunflower child, sian, and double d (am), thanks for all your support, thanks. he was truely the love of my life and i will never forget him. im not seeing anyone now, im a busy girl taking care of our 14 month old daughter kaile. but its gonna be hard, raising her by myself, telling her the truth about her father... good luck to all of you here. hope you all have nice lives and meet the men or women of your friends. good luck in all your endeavours...
TRUTH 444 Sunday, July 21, 2002 at 00:11:38 (PDT)

(Commenting on Pissed Off topic/Statement)

How many successful Black females are on this forum? I am TOTALLY sure there are NO lazy people here on this forum.
I find that statement to be very steortyical and close minded.

I didn't come form a great background but I work my A** just as hard as anyone else, trying to be successful.

I am 24 years old, happen to be a business owner of a Start-up Adult Game & Multi Media Enterprise Studio. I have people working for me, that I manage all over the globe, including Asian people. I am very proud of myself.

I have been Married to a white male for 4 yrs, also being the wife, taken care of him, cooking and cleaning. Now I am in the middle of a Divorce. I know very much I am successful and Should be treated with way more respect than I have gotten. Yet I still have to deal with people with this mindset every were I go.

Maybe you should try to look beyond the environment, and more into the heart, and head of a person.
Mynix Mynix@adelphia.net Saturday, July 20, 2002 at 12:19:31 (PDT)

Pissed Off,
Don't leave a sister hanging...=)
Cali Princess KaliDreamxangel@aol.com Saturday, July 20, 2002 at 11:38:27 (PDT)

Hi there Emily,
I know someone who married into the *Elite* type of family. She is miserable as miserable can be. I don't think I could deal with such a situation. I date whomever I like. I would hate someone telling me who I can be with and who I can't be with. I feel for you. I hope everything works out. At least you went ahead with the guy you love. I think you took that first step of moving away from your parents. They seem to want to rule your life.
nisei Saturday, July 20, 2002 at 07:10:10 (PDT)

JUST ASKING;

My friends like the girl I'm with. They all think shes beautiful. We have had a discussion on how I might be happier if I found a nice chinese girl. They know how I feel about her. They all know she is engraved upon my heart. So they know not to bug me about it, or they'll be sorry. My father and mother are longer here. They would have loved her too, I can just tell. In her family there are two people married to korean women.
Dragon Friday, July 19, 2002 at 16:16:42 (PDT)

Its Funny,

I think "Be Careful" had a right to inform him. There are alot of women out there who will purposely take advantage of a good man. I don't think it necessarily applies to BW. Anyone can be a gold-digger. Its good to be safe than sorry.

Emily,

You are going to have to prove your family wrong. It will be hard, but you can do it. I was not raised in the same situation as you. But I did hear my father tell me that he did not want to hear from me until I got rid of my korean bf. As a result? I haven't spoken to him since December of last year. I still have the love and support of my mom and the rest of my family. They don't agree with him. They all like my bf, because they know he treats me well.
opera singer Friday, July 19, 2002 at 13:08:40 (PDT)

Emily CW...

I know what you are talking about and what you are going thru. I tried to e-mail you but wasn't able to. I could go into detail about the subject for you but it'd be too long for this post. If you want to talk, leave an e-mail address and I'll get in touch w/you.
CaliGirl Friday, July 19, 2002 at 12:46:24 (PDT)

Emily C.W.,

That really sucks. Are you going to completely cut off your family? It sucks, and it is really sad. They are your family regardless. I would not give up my family for a guy. How can you do that? What is wrong with you? I don't think your are thinking very clearly. You need to really think about this.
family is important Friday, July 19, 2002 at 08:55:14 (PDT)

"Catfish..." is showing on STARZ! a few times this month. I don't know exactly when, guess you'd have to look it up if interested. Just putting it out there though.
Bluebird Friday, July 19, 2002 at 06:17:32 (PDT)

Truth 444

There's an old yet transcendent truth, that it is far better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.

Does time heal all wounds? I think time makes you forget a lot of things, but healing, no. The pain will only run as deep and last as long as you allow it to.

Fortunate are those who have been in love. There are different degrees of love, but I'm talking about the forever kind of love.

If you believe in an afterlife or another echelon of existence, you can percieve it like this, life is energy, and energy cannot be created or destroyed, it is eternal, energy just transforms itself. I don't believe in death.

What you have gained greatly outweighs your loss. You will be fine.
AM seeking Truth Thursday, July 18, 2002 at 16:23:35 (PDT)

To Emily C.W

You gotta do what works for you. Family isn't always right but if you feel that it is the right thing to do. Then follow through with it. If he makes you happy, is able to light up your day and put a smile on your face then I don't see why your family wouldn't want you to be with him. If you've been married before, I am guessing that you're not some young and arrogant woman. So you can make decisions for youself. I am an asian male and I applaud inter racial couples who follow their hearts and not the expectations of today's society. In short, if he makes you happy then stay with him. If your family can't accept then you have to think about what your family cares about most...your life or their image?
David Thursday, July 18, 2002 at 13:57:20 (PDT)

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