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ASIAN MALE/ WHITE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
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OUCH!!! Such harsh words from "Dating is Hell in Korea" It may perhaps be true but here in America, Korean brothers are hella more open minded. That's my two cents people...
DKalistyli
Wednesday, January 09, 2002 at 08:43:42 (PST)
Well, ya don't win over a WF. Today's man has to surrender for WF to win.
There are ways to persuade her to like you more, but it has to do with your willingness to take risks, be more perceptive, and social on-demand. Skills you already have but only use it with family and friends.
Regardless of intentions and expectations, be it love, sex or pen pal, the bottomline will always be that she wants to know more about you. The girl who likes you is exactly JOHNNY 5 reading a book in 2 seconds. She wants INPUT! Hey, the less you expect, the more you get. And DON'T DWELL! That's a no no...
Confident ABC
Wednesday, January 09, 2002 at 00:24:38 (PST)
ABT,
Please feel free to e-mail me if you like. I think you should try and reach her in person at least one more time before you give up. There is a small possibility that her roomate forgot to give her the message. However, if you try a few times and don't get a call back, I think you should take it as a sign that she is giving you the brush off without wanting to tell you herself.
But if that happens don't give upon WFs, there are others that like AM. You just have to figure out how to find them. For me there IS no substitute for a pretty blue eyed blonde and my perserverence has paid off.
One odd thing I noticed... I would NEVER in my life end a 1st phone call with a girl I really liked because I was eating!!!!! Are you out of your mind????
Tan Man tanman@usa.com
Tuesday, January 08, 2002 at 23:28:58 (PST)
Speak for yourself Blue eyed caucasian girl. About Korea being Hell I mean. I was once in the military and I had a tour of duty there and as a white female, those Korean men behaved like complete gentlemen to me. I had more dates than I could handle and their families welcomed me into their homes. Maybe Hell for one is paradise for another.
I saw paradise in Korea
Tuesday, January 08, 2002 at 23:15:15 (PST)
Laffing Asian,
Just because a WF may be physically attracted to AM doesn't mean that they aren't subjected to the unfortunate pressures of our somewhat prejudiced society. The prejudice isn't just from the Whites but also from the Asians. I sometimes get the most weird stares from other asians. Of course my W GF and I have enough confidence to laugh it off. In fact sometimes my W GF will purposely come up to me and give me a long smooch on the lips when she sees someone staring. She is quite a rebel and loves to defy convention.
However, in the past I have had relationships with WFs who had to battle feelings of insecurity and snide comments from co-workers and friends. Despite this I have had to fight off marriage proposals. So I must be doing something right.
So you can hope to find a WF who is tough like my GF which isn't very common (and has it's own set of problems since she is stubborn as hell ;D ). Or, if your goal is to pickup a WF and have some fun you can change you image a little and have a much greater chance of success.
I would be interested in hearing how successful YOU have been in dating WF since you seem such a smartass.
Tan Man tanman@usa.com
Tuesday, January 08, 2002 at 23:09:19 (PST)
Confident ABC: Thanks dude, actually there was a lot to talk about. We talked for about an hour. I had a lot of questions but not enough time. But then again I figure save them for another time. Don't want to talk about everything at once and have nothing to talk about the next time. Thanks for your wisdom though.
Well, I'm glad I waited because she called me and told me she was busy on friday and the weekend. There was a lot to talk about. But the coolest was when she asked me about past relationships. She asked me about mine and then told me that I don't have to tell if I don't want to. I said "No, I don't mind telling you. I feel comfortable talking to you and feel that I can be very open with you" Then I told her about the past. Then I asked her. Apparently, she was dating some guy for about 3 months then called it quits. The reason: He started closing himself from her. I thought to myself: I definitely said that at the right time. We talked about favorite movies, going overseas, movies coming out. I asked her when is the best time to call you because I know you're busy and don't want to bother you. She said anytime is fine. Sounds good to me so far. I'll probably call her on Thursday or Friday. I just need some more topics to talk about and more wittier comments. I'm not too good at that stuff.
Thank you all for sharing your wisdom with me.
ABT pjchen28@hotmail.com
Tuesday, January 08, 2002 at 21:11:45 (PST)
laffing asian,
in my book, she can look like the bearded lady but as long no leopard man or twin midgets are with the package.
and speaking of the circus, why can't more WF be like the contortionists? i know i'll get flamed for spouting "unrealistic" expectations. but if more WF were like those crazy chinese contortionist girls, i'd bet AM would be chasing after them like foxes in the chicken coop.
and for the record: WHO'S BEING FUNNY? i'm deadly serious here!
signed,
villageidiot (because a village just isn't a village without one)
Tuesday, January 08, 2002 at 19:45:09 (PST)
ABT,
"I've lived in the Northeast New England are for awhile and can't seem to find the ladies who are open-minded enough to even acknowledge me. Believe me I've looked long and hard and haven't succeeded."
Depends where you live. If you're talking about the area around Boston, I think you're wrong. But around Maine, I guess you could be right.
But I hope you didn't come up w/ that conclusion because white females didn't seem to be interested in you. They were probably not giving you the time because of other various reasons. In other words, I hope you aren't blaming the situation on the fact that you are Asian.
jjk
Tuesday, January 08, 2002 at 19:16:22 (PST)
Hey American Beauty
Tsk, tsk tsk...you need to retract your claws. I have dated many many many white women from America, Europe to South America and I have to agree with the guy who believes European women are more open minded. ITS true!
I find Western European women to be more easy going, less materialistic, more cultured and sure less pretentious than American women in general.
Maybeit has to do with America being so influential but an average Americna women don't know shit about other cultures. They are so caught up on superficial beauty, i like a combination of beauty with intelligence.
Well I have only one life and I want to see and expereince what the world has to offer not limit myself only to the borders of U.S.
I agree w/traveled guy
Tuesday, January 08, 2002 at 16:46:24 (PST)
Confident ABC
I read the stuff in this forum once in a while, usually when somebody/something catches my attention. I've noticed some of the messages you add to this message board and I hope I'm not being too invasive, but do you have a girlfriend? Is she white? Or do you want a girlfriend (a white one) and that is why you are here?
You have a great personality and your messages are usually pretty funny. Would you say that you are as confident in person as you are in writing like this? I would guess that you probably don't have much trouble with the ladies, unless you aren't letting them see your personality like you show it in here. Just wondering.
Curious WF
Tuesday, January 08, 2002 at 16:15:31 (PST)
As a Korean living in the US, I think I'd only date Korean girls if I lived in Korea. I wouldn't think about dating white girls. But that's really weird because in the US, I've only dated white girls. *shrug*
If you are a white person who've been assimilated into Korean culture, I assure you you'll become a celebrity in Korea. There are a couple of white people who are always on TV because, well, they are "Korean." One of them is a woman named Ida-Dosh (something like that) who actually liked Korea so much she gave up her French citizenship to become a Korean person. And Koreans welcome her, even though she might be white.
jjk
Tuesday, January 08, 2002 at 14:26:48 (PST)
"In my experience most attractive women like guys who are "cool" & self confident but are nice inside even though they don't really show it. The "cool" image is especially important in a AM/WF relationship because many WF already feel a little selfconcious being with an AM and it helps when she believes that others see him as a "cool" guy and not a nobody asian. "
This is not true. Which white girl does not want to be with someone who's "cool"? They (the ones that are interested in interracial relationships) want to be w/ white "cool" guys or black "cool" guys, noone wants to be w/ a loser. You only think Asian guys need to be more "cool" because you think too much about race.
jjk
Tuesday, January 08, 2002 at 14:18:58 (PST)
Cream Soda,
Thank you for your response to my inquiry. I won't dare ask what pek-pek stands for. Laughing out loud!
do you yahoo?!
Tuesday, January 08, 2002 at 14:15:37 (PST)
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