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pretty please,
Some AM prefer some WF to some AF.
Some AM prefer some AF to some WF.
Some AM prefer some Euro-WF to some US-WF.
Some AM prefer some US-WF to some Euro-WF.
Some WF prefer some AM to some WM.
Some WF prefer some WM to some AM.
And, the list goes on……
If you take the “some”s out, it would surely be a craziness.
If you leave the “some”s in, it’s just a normal world with all different kinds of people.
Generalization and stereotyping often (if not always) do more damaging and less justice. Individuals write from their personal experiences, which are often too limited to make any generalization. If you read it from a book or a study, it would be a different story.
Odysseus
Saturday, January 19, 2002 at 15:01:31 (PST)
Wow, I think the issue with European vs. American women is quite complex but here's my thoughts... First of all, I think the concern is about your average, typical American woman, regardless of ethnic background. Most of the American WF's on this board would NOT fall into that category, given your interest in AM's. So first, I wouldn't take anything personally from the previous comments (though it's hard not to). I believe that what you're seeing is frustration from AM's about dating in the States.
Happy Clam brings up a LOT of good points, many valid ones. As a second generation Chinese-American, I have the same perspective. In some ways, I'm very Americanized (a banana?!) I played sports throughout my life, ride a motorcycle, love to watch baseball and football on TV, eat fast-food, enjoy Disney World, etc.. But there's another part of me that is quite Asian, I love Asian food, enjoy studying, most people would describe me as soft-spoken and humble. I've travelled a bit and have had romantic opportunities with a Finnish woman, a South-African and a Italian-Canadian gal. My cousin who dates quite a bit in NYC has a black book that would look like a United Nations gathering. What's the common denominator? The two of us end up dating women who are pretty, smart, cultured and individualistic; someone's who's willing to think outside of the box and do something as "crazy" as date or sleep with an AM.
The reality is that your typical American has a terrible reputation overseas as being loud, obnoxious, materialistic and un-cultured. When I travelled internationally, I found it's a lot better to say you're Canadian; overseas, people have much more respect for our neighbors up north. The typical American has little regard for other cultures outside of what they see on TV, most don't travel overseas and when they do, expect it to be just like the US. Several years ago I had an opportunity to visit the corporate offices of an old company I worked for in Geneva, Switzerland. At the meetings, they're speaking in Italian, but all of a sudden, they realize I'm sitting in on the meeting and say, "Let's speak in English because Ron's here..." In the hallways, there were scattered conversations in French, German, etc... Would you EVER see that in the US? No, of course not. By default, European's are exposed to a variety of cultures and languages around their borders. From Geneva, I could have popped into Italy or France in under an hour. So what’s my point? Most people, outside of the US, have a much better awareness of being one culture amongst many and are not phased or surprised by outsiders. Now does that mean racism doesn't exist in Europe or overseas? Hell, no! But the opportunity to meet a woman that won't automatically scratch you off the list of romantic possibilities because you're an AM is higher, in my opinion. The typical American woman, has a tall WM as their dream-man, no matter what her color. Berlin Bear's story about the AF ragging on AM's isn't isolated. On US television, how many positive examples do you see of the AM? Virtually none, but there are plenty of AF hotties paired with WM’s on television.
So as an AM in the US, I have two choices. I can play the game like any male in the US, wear a baseball hat and be loud and obnoxious but I'm going to have to work twice as hard at it as a WM and probably have half as much luck. And I’ll be a sell-out. Or I can sit back, let the women get to know me and see who shows interest, basically filter out the women who would have nothing to do with an AM. This is where it get's confusing. Over the years I've had several VERY attractive WF’s chase after me, women who were beautiful, smart and sweet. On the other hand, I’ve asked women out who were nowhere as pretty or nice and gotten slammed. Was race a factor in those rejections? Maybe, but I’ll never know for sure. So with all the uncertainty involved in dating, being an AM throws in an extra twist…
But you know what, I don’t want to get too frustrated about this reality. I’m an American and glad to be here, even with all the BS. Sooner or later, I’m going to end up with a woman who get’s it and appreciates everything I bring to the table as an American AM. So I think the earlier comments about American WF’s was just a bit of venting, no harm intended. For all the WF’s on this board, no matter what country you’re from, I think it’s great that you’re not falling for the canned, commercial version of what romance should be about and what he looks like. And hopefully, I’ll get to prove it to at least a couple of you!
PS, to I Get what I want: Some good advice there, nobody should have to put up with that BS and unfortunately, until we dish some back out, it’ll continue to happen…
Ronbo (Bay Area0 howudoinsf@hotmail.com
Saturday, January 19, 2002 at 11:59:11 (PST)
Pretty Please writes:
"So, Asian men replaces Asian women with White women. Then replaces White American women with White European women. What's next? Will Asian men run out of options and replace White European women with African women?"
Are you suggesting, then, that African women are a last resort, a booby prize left for those who can't attain your white charms?
Another reason to be wary of the Ugly American. . .
Quelle vanite
Saturday, January 19, 2002 at 11:27:03 (PST)
I get what I want
I am Korean too. And I guess I am not mild-mannered. (who could say ex-member of ROK special force a mild-mannered guy?)yet, I really didn't want to be a part of the nasty scene in front of my dear friends. It was shameful enough to show them how an Asian woman could be a low quality scum.
As I said before, I am not disillusioned to Asian women ,but I 'd like to point out that oddly enough, there are too many asian women who bash on Asian men to their boyfriends from diffrent racial group,on the other hand, there are not many white, hispanic, black women who bash on their men just because they have a relationship with diffrent races.
I guess it might be a part of the reason why Asian men always tend to be described as a laughingstock in media.
Berlin Bear
Saturday, January 19, 2002 at 06:37:37 (PST)
It's ok pretty please :p (Aren't there any smiley icons here?)
Well I'm from North America, Canada and that part when you say "Asian men don't like Asian women and consider Asian women to be golddiggers and unattractive, but White women are better" made me feel like you just read my mind. :D
So just forget "don't like white American women and consider us to be golddiggers and unattractive, but consider European women to be better. It's confusing."
Sure it's fun to read about how great they are. That sounds like good news and Europe seems very tempting indeed now. However, to switch so quickly just by hearing little rumors? That's kinda sick and coward isn't it. I'm very sure there are such wonderful WFs in America too. Just haven't found any yet... ^_^; (Hey high school really isn't a great place ya know! I'm so glad I'll be out of there next year!)
Canadian Vietnamese
Friday, January 18, 2002 at 22:59:09 (PST)
"Will Asian men run out of options and replace White European women with African women?"
there's always the good ole fashioned self loving to fall back to if nothing works out.
;-)
villageidiot
Friday, January 18, 2002 at 22:02:50 (PST)
"I'm a person. Not a number."
try telling that to the IRS.
:)
villageidiot :
Friday, January 18, 2002 at 22:00:56 (PST)
what is this, war of the females for attention? sweet baby jesus. a woman can be beautiful no matter what "race" she is or culture she pertains to. Saying that american girls are better than european girls or vice versa OR ANY OTHER RACIAL CATEGORY is just stereotypical bullshit. And caucasian American women are of european heritage anyways! No, I'm not saying they're all the same, just clarifying the inaneness (is that a word) of the argument.
rockstar
Friday, January 18, 2002 at 21:59:34 (PST)
American women = European women.
1.They are white.
2.They are female.
-Stop talking that shit ....please.
korean gentleman
Friday, January 18, 2002 at 21:54:40 (PST)
ParlezVous Fracais
Most of us aren't comparing European vs American looks. We are speaking of attitudes among European and American women in GERNERAL. Its simple as a whole American society is much more racist than in Western Europe. I don't blame you, I blame the Hollywood Jew assholes.
Pretty please
You're nothing but your average white American trash with nothing to contribute, don't hate your counterparts in Europe. You are just full of sterotypes of European women, that shows how IGNORANT you really are.
Europhile
Friday, January 18, 2002 at 19:50:24 (PST)
The sterotypical comedy segments of the burly hairy European women come from the same jackasses that have Asian males with buck teeth, sayinf " I ruv roo" and wearing highwater pants.
Too bad Village Idiot took that name - seems to me it suits you.
Puh-leez
Friday, January 18, 2002 at 15:45:55 (PST)
what is wrong with African women?
huh?
Friday, January 18, 2002 at 14:30:01 (PST)
Monika, Czech Republic:
You sound like a beautiful and sweet woman. I'm split between work and life as well -- too busy for a full blown relationship. I think young and goal oriented, attractive men and women today are remaining single well into their late 20's or early 30's for that reason.
I've had relationships with many beautiful women, almost exclusivly brunettes or blondes. The underlying catalysts behind their failures: demands of work (relocation/long distance never seems to work) or cultural/personal differences(rarely) and sometimes, the ever changing facets of women as they grow into a different person in their 20's.
One day, I hope to meet the woman of my dreams: caring, friendly, beautiful, intelligent and playful.
Monika, do you plan to live in US for a while? I'd like to move to the west coast.
Ishka laertes26@yahoo.com
Friday, January 18, 2002 at 10:50:20 (PST)
"If European women were such prized then why are so many European men falling all over themselves over American women? They go crazy of American models, actresses and the average American girl next door and dream of dating and marrying us."
Over here in Italy, there's a sterotype that American women are easy, in that when they hook up or have sex with a man, they won't expect the men to become serious boyfriends or marriage partners. In other words, they f*** a lot. What can I say? I'm friends with some Italians, and they all ask me to introduce them to an American girl b/c they seem easy.
It's True
Friday, January 18, 2002 at 10:41:29 (PST)
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