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ASIAN MALE/ WHITE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
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I agree with older posts about how non-asian men try to take advantage of asian guys with WF, it seems like I always have the girl i am with hit on, especially if i am with an WF, I am a not the biggest guy, 5 ' 7 126 lbs, but i can whop ass, trained in hand to hand combat for 10 years, and i am intelligent IQ certified 140, and fairly well off. Why do these WM always try to assume that these WF can do better then me??? They say shit like "you are with him!!" and these girls of course say "yes, whats it to you?" but it just annoys me
Asian Sting
Saturday, February 02, 2002 at 16:53:40 (PST)
To heartbroken in LA: Your post to AMWF love pisses whitey off...is understandable, but don't lump us all in with that idiot. I would be very confident that opinions like his represent less than .0001% of us, so to paint us all with that brush would be very unfair indeed, now wouldn't it? Trust your gut and your heart as to an AM's motivations. I'm sure that a woman with your intellect can discern a true heart from a false heart, once you get to know him.
Naki
Saturday, February 02, 2002 at 15:33:22 (PST)
Girlie Love: Yes, there are plenty of decent and open-minded women in the States, the last one I dated had been with a Korean, Jamaican and Argentinian guy before me. Out of curiosity, you mention seeing a lot of WF/AM couples in your area, which area is that? I'm currently out in the SF/Bay area and surprisingly, I rarely ever see a WF/AM couple. I'll probably run into 10 or more AF/WM couples before I might see one the other way around. I was down in SoCal for a long weekend and I noticed more IR dating down there.
I thought it was a bit odd because I grew up in the New England suburbs as virtually the only Asian around and came out West to try something new. The Asian population is 10 - 20% (higher in some other areas) out here, but in my experience, I probably see fewer WF/AM couples than back East, or maybe I'm just not looking in the right spots. Due to the fact that there are so many Asians out here, many just hang out amongst themselves, there are also quite a few AF's who ONLY date WM's.
There's been a lot of discussion on this board about AM's needing to be more aggressive which is totally true. But just understand that as AM's, we all come from different backgrounds. An AM who's born overseas is going to have a different perspective than someone who's 1st generation vs. an AM who is 3rd or 4th generation. Growing up in the Boston area, all my friends and women I dated were white, not out of choice but circumstances. Someone in the Bay area, may not grow up feeling like much of a minority (especially if they're younger) and may be more aggressive because of that. In the past, I've had some nice Irish-American gals flirt with me and I have to admit, in the back of my head was the thought that if I walked into the wrong bar (especially in South Boston) with her, I wasn’t going to be walking out in one piece... So if you’re an AM that’s meeting WF’s, what’s the point of dumping on the guys that aren’t? They may have some hang-ups but also some real good reasons why they have those hang-ups.
My last thought is that aside from the physical attraction, I’m guessing that a lot of the WF’s out there that groove on AM’s do so because they aren’t your typical American guy. I don’t think that soft-spoken or having a bit of humility has anything to do with a lack of confidence. Over the years, I’ve embarassed a lot of WM’s on the basketball court (they always assume you’re going to suck because your Asian! : ) but never talked trash. I think most Americans equate confidence with somebody who’s loud and brash but I personally don’t buy into that definition. We’ve heard on this board from several WF’s who are married or serious with an AM and I think they understand what they have is very special, and they were able to appreciate the differences rather than expect an AM to be just like every other guy...
Ronbo (Bay Area) howudoinsf@hotmail.com
Saturday, February 02, 2002 at 12:29:39 (PST)
well...girlie love...
my dear, you must be blind....pity.
"I had no idea that some Asian men find white women attractive."
Some??? It is all about subtleness and the passion that is behind it. It is a large part of what makes asian males sooo very attractive.
heartbroken in LA emptymeyer@hotmail.com
Saturday, February 02, 2002 at 11:41:34 (PST)
I think some white chicks r hot and I know some of them are down for asian love but mostly most Asian guys stick with asian girls cause it's easier and more comfortable. Sometimes when i see a cute white girl i first think, well she might not even be interested. Then I think of all the work i have to do to cross that bridge. I think the closer someone is to your culture the easier. If I went out with a viet girl it would be easier cause we could just deal with our similarities. But white girls, I would'nt know where to begin. What would i do with her? what would we talk about? WOuld she feel wierd if i took her to an all asian place or around my asian friends, stuff like that. So most of the time I just don't even bother, lazy I guess.
goodlookingasnguy
Saturday, February 02, 2002 at 04:24:31 (PST)
to girlie love, what part of malaysia did you go to. Too bad im here at the moment i could of showed you around.
Borneon
Saturday, February 02, 2002 at 03:39:02 (PST)
Girlie Love,
I agree with you that more Asian men should start ignoring the stereotypes and step up to White women.
I try my best not to get caught up with negativity, but many times when white women turn me down, I have to wonder if it has to do with my race. Don't get me wrong, I'm not whining. In fact, I've had my share of attractive white women, but I can't help but think that Asian stereotypes have somewhat hindered me. The ironic thing is that I am the opposite of the stereotypes. I am over 6 ft. tall, a sexy muscular (not overly beefy) build, and I have very handsome sharp features. Nonetheless, many times at a club, a white women would turn me down, then later on, I'd see her getting it on with some non-Asian guy who is often not close to as attractive as I am, objectively speaking.
Nonetheless, I am not afraid of rejection, and that has landed me much experience with beautiful white women, and other types of women. I encourage more and more Asian men to have this attitude, it's the only way to change people's perceptions. The media definitely has a lot to do with how you are percieved initially, but YOU have the FINAL say in what people's final perception of you is. I have to say that most of my past white gf's confessed to me that they never thought about dating an Asian guy until I stepped up, and that they've been introduced to a whole new world. So Asian men, get out there and change and open minds!
Steve
Saturday, February 02, 2002 at 02:04:28 (PST)
Ms. Wrong,
so you told us what his parents want, but you haven't told us what HE wants.
does he want to date you?
tighty whitey
Friday, February 01, 2002 at 17:51:58 (PST)
Hey, guys. I think it is natural for a white girl to like an Asian man. This one girl told me that "Asian men are so sexy!" A lot of white girls hit on me everyday, but I am so picky that I am not really giving a nice response to them. Don't worry guys. I am an actor/filmmaker and I will change all the negative image of Asian men in the media. Trust me. So, have confidence and ask out any girl you like. Life is short,man.
Best Actor
Friday, February 01, 2002 at 17:13:03 (PST)
AznB-Boi bLuNtz knows what he is saying. You guys should listen. bLuNtz is the only guy in here getting peoples attention, that's something we need more often. Attention towards asians. A ABC that's able to speak his mind like that is rare and always a plus.
Two Thums Up
Friday, February 01, 2002 at 14:21:43 (PST)
Girlie Love,
RE: I see a lot of AM/WF couples in my area.
What area are you in?
tbt
Friday, February 01, 2002 at 13:20:29 (PST)
AzN-Boi bLuNtz,
RE: It really upsets me that my own kind is hating on me, when all I was doing is giving you guys some help.
I agree with some of what you said, and praise you for giving out tips/help. I know people act stupidly a lot of time when they hear about advises, which are actually good for them. Here is my little $0.02.
Do you remember the last time your parents yelled at you? How did you feel? Did you listen to them?
Proper forms of language is imporant in effective communication. Unless, you don't care about others, and you just wannt vent your anger, then it doesn't matter to you how effective is your style of communication.
It's people's fault when they don't get it, but it's my fault if I didn't say it in a way that they will listen.
A question for you, if an Asain was not born here in the US (not ABC or ABA), how can he get the fly white girl like you described? since language (English) would be a weakness for him. Many people in the US put you down if you don't speak correct English even if you hold two advance degrees from Ivy League. Any suggestion?
Odysseus
Friday, February 01, 2002 at 11:26:07 (PST)
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