Asian Male/White Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ WHITE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:39:10 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to White females?
Their facial features | 62%
Their physique | 23%
Their attitude and personality | 12%
Their education & cultural values | 3%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with White females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 12%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 72%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 16%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 74%
Their physique | 7%
Their attitude and personality | 14%
Their education & cultural values | 5%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 8%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 72%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 19%

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Hey Belly Ring

New to the area huh? Do you come around Evergreen?
I have personally met alot of guys on campus.
So you're actually in Lynnwood, well I stay not too far from the Mall.
No, I dont really have too much time anymore.
I have been pretty busy lately with my classes, my schedule has been really crazy. Its been exams after exams! I am also getting ready to transfer and that has been a headache too.
If you want to give me your email address, I can send you a list of some places and some upcoming stuff.

Gina G. Monday, April 22, 2002 at 02:45:10 (PDT)

lordt78,

LOL cool!

:)

Trisha from Manhattan NycGirl328@hotmail.com Monday, April 22, 2002 at 02:15:42 (PDT)

Sunroses
are you from CT? Tried to email you but it bounced back. I'm in West Hartford.
How about you?
ABT pjchen28@hotmail.com Sunday, April 21, 2002 at 22:17:13 (PDT)

Leanne
You can specify "East Asian" men only. So where can I check out your ad?

Simple vegabond123@hotmail.com Sunday, April 21, 2002 at 22:10:12 (PDT)

Southern White Girl,

That's a great question. I have never thought about putting into words what I consider a great personality in a women. There are so many aspects of a persons personality but I will try and do my best to describe what attracts me. I look for a woman who has a personality similar to mine: easy going, care free, up-beat, happy, optimistic, wants something out of life, is always looking forward to what tomorrow has to bring, has high morals/values, such as, self respect, politeness, honesty, is responsible, has confidence, likes doing spur of the moment things, is straight-forward, has patience...I could definitely go on but I think you are getting the idea. Of course, she doesn't have to have all these traits but the more the better. Anyway, I hope this clears some of it up.
Mile High Asian Guy in AZ Sunday, April 21, 2002 at 21:17:54 (PDT)

Elizabeth L.,

I'm a believer that if two people want to be with each other then age, race and all those other little nit-picky things shouldn't matter. With that said, I'm not surprised that people react the way they do to you.

In my opinion, the world is still very closed minded, and I don't think the reactions you've experienced are limited to the Asian culture. However, it would be interesting to hear what some of the guys have to say on this subject.

With that said, it's nice to hear that some guys can appreciate a woman for what she brings to the relationship without letting age be an issue. Kudos to this guy you're dating!!

Outside Looking In Sunday, April 21, 2002 at 19:41:11 (PDT)

Question for AM's, is it really that big a deal when a guy brings a girl home to meet his parents? Just curious. I"ve been dating a fabulous AM for 3 years now and Im hoping we'll get married. His family is wonderful, and he says they're very accepting and like me and don't mind that I'm a WF at all. But the insecure part of me wonders a lot, would they rather have their son marry an AF?

PS I think AMs are just wonderful. I love my man because he's gorgeous, smart, hard working, fun to be with, easy going, treats me like a queen. I've dated white men, black men and asian men before, and they've all had their good and bad points, but I'm happy to have found my man. :)
curious Sunday, April 21, 2002 at 18:47:18 (PDT)

Donna (Maine USA):

Believe it or not, there's a SOFT-CORE PORN movie with an AM in it! I was flipping through the channels one night, and on Cinemax (of course) there was a Zalman King movie tantalizingly called "Women of the Night." Now, I don't usually watch these things (really, I don't...stop laughing...) but I set down the remote because one of the Women had a fantasy about this "Beautiful Asian Man" taking her up in his arms and making sweet love to her, yadda yadda yadda. (Which he does in capital fashion, by the way. Represent.)

Anyway, until you find your perfect AM, you can at least rent this movie and fantasize about it. And then write a letter to Zalman King saying that you want more Asian men in soft-core porn. :)
Chris (Poet/Warrior) fearless1976@yahoo.com Sunday, April 21, 2002 at 18:08:16 (PDT)

Any Asian guys in love with a big and gorgeous WF?
ladytnearCentury21 Sunday, April 21, 2002 at 17:50:26 (PDT)

"The fact is that many AM's feel unattractive because of the impact of the media."

To 'just an opinion':

Well, here you've touched upon a very sensitive subject, but if you think about it, it's really hard to pinpoint exactly what it is that's so denegrating about American media. I'm hard pressed to think of an example where an AM has been portrayed as sexually inadequate. Then again, I'm hard pressed to find an example where an AM was a sex symbol as well (without being an action star at the same time). I think that for the most part, negative media portrayal is just the lack of *any* portrayal at all. It's just derogation by exclusion.

I secretly suspect, however (and I think I'm in good company) that if you erase media stereotyping from everyone's minds, that Asian men would do very well on their own two feet. I used to really lament the lack of AM in the media, but if I close my eyes to this fact, my personal experience tells me, for the most part, AMs are actually something of a find. I meet a lot of WFs; and more often than not, they're the ones who initiate things. I met an actress at the post office, for example, who just gave me her number without me having to ask for it. And it's not like my looks are through the roof or anything like that (although some of my ex's have disagreed). And I'm kinda skinny: 5'9", 140 lbs. What's more, I live and work in Hollywood, which wins the Oscar for the most superficial place in the world. So the really STRANGE thing is that you'd expect that all the 6' athletic WMs would have a monopoly on this town, but lo and behold, lil' ol' Asian me seems to do okay.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that if you buy what the media sells you, sure: AMs would be undersold. But for the majority of AMs--particularly the ones on this forum--your personal experience will probably tell you otherwise.
Chris (Poet/Warrior) fearless1976@yahoo.com Sunday, April 21, 2002 at 17:48:25 (PDT)

Happy Clam-
What was it like when you first got together with your AM husband. Were his family accepting of the relationship with much ease? I am getting ready to meet my fiancee's parents and I am kinda nervous about it.Were you nervous like that too? I am not too worried, I just don't really know what to expect.
Pam Sunday, April 21, 2002 at 15:48:59 (PDT)

Korean American in a sea of itallians-

Yes I have blonde hair and blue eyes. My eyes are blue green. My hair is blondish brown, and I highlight it sometimes so it looks alot lighter.
I am not of completly pure 100% itallian blood :)
Donna (Main, USA) Sunday, April 21, 2002 at 15:32:33 (PDT)

WHOA! where's this explosion of WF writing about their interest in AM coming from? i like it, but it's unusal to read so much posts from WF at the same time.

"how can you be specific without sounding rude or prejudiced about it"

that's thanks to the "race" debacle created by the census bereau. they'll probably include "middle-eastern" more and more in demographic data as there become more immigrants from that region. but maybe you should've just mentioned "eastern-asians" or the countries of interest specifically? and who cares what people think reading the ads in a newspaper? go after what you want and forget the detractors.
life's too short to be bothered by this extreme political-correctness run amock.

"How do AM view virginity? Is it seen as lame?"

i don't think i'm just speaking for myself when i say that to the contrary, you'll probably be valued much more as a "good girl" in our AM views. asian culture places emphasis on virginity and you'll probably be viewed in great regard for being one. and i think also that it's something to be cherished and shared only with somebody you care a great deal about.

now for the females, what are your views about an AM virgin? shucks, i know how american college kids, and my friends, are behaving like rabbits in heat. but what do girls think about dating a guy virgin?
villageidiot Sunday, April 21, 2002 at 13:18:15 (PDT)

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