Asian Male/White Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ WHITE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:39:10 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to White females?
Their facial features | 62%
Their physique | 23%
Their attitude and personality | 12%
Their education & cultural values | 3%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with White females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 12%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 72%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 16%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 74%
Their physique | 7%
Their attitude and personality | 14%
Their education & cultural values | 5%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 8%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 72%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 19%

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I don't believe in the concept that AM are gullible when it comes to money. My AM and I are a normal couple. Hes not rich or anything. He has an average job, and so do I. He does buy dinner sometimes...and sometimes I treat him out to dinner too. So, its a 50.50 deal with us. I am comfortable with it, and so is he. If he lost his job today, I would still be with him. I love this man.
Haley Thursday, May 02, 2002 at 07:20:59 (PDT)

Lover of Caucasian Women:
Just let her get to know you. Let her see the great guy that you are. So what, shes a little picky. You be just as picky and don't settle for less either. Its always good to have a challenge. Be yourself and you can't go wrong.
ABT(Hopeless Romantic in CT):
Not all WFs' are gold diggers. There are many of us who are genuinely interested in getting to know an AM for his heart.
Gina G Thursday, May 02, 2002 at 04:45:34 (PDT)

loving tenor, before the relationship i think the man should pay the full price for the dinner, i cant beleive you would let a girl your trying to impress pay for half of the dinner, when i read that it reminded me of what i thought was a bullsh*t scenario in 'The Joy Luck Club' when the asian male husband makes his wife pay for half of everything.
AZN Realist Thursday, May 02, 2002 at 02:21:22 (PDT)

ABC Dude,
I think Trisha is what's known as a snert - they create a make believe posting from a make believe poster. Amazing your email didn't come back to you - usually the one's snerts post are make believe as well.
Poo Wednesday, May 01, 2002 at 19:10:23 (PDT)

I read the poll stating 72% of Asian men that answered it thought white women would not find them attractive. This could not be further from the truth. I absolutely love Asian men. I find they are not responsive to me and thought they did not find white women attractive. I think love can be found in any person regardless of ethnicity. I just happen to prefer Asian men. When people mention I have an Asian look, I find this to be the biggest compliment. I think it is pretty common for most people to believe Asian people are beautiful. At least that's what I find. When someone comments about my looks to hint of an Asian flair I know they mean it as postive.
ladalang ladalang@yahoo.com Wednesday, May 01, 2002 at 17:36:37 (PDT)

Commenting on materialism.

It's been proven that the three leading causes of bad marriages are:

1) Lack of communication
2) Financial issues and arguments
3) Bad sex

The three solutions are:
1) Comminucate. Communicate. Communicate. Don't repress your feelings. Let it out.
2) Come to an agreement on finances and spending with each other. Understand money is finite, and the two of you need to work together to handle it.
3) That's a private issue.

B. Lee Wednesday, May 01, 2002 at 16:42:58 (PDT)

Thanks AM from Down Under! I am a WF dating an AM, and I remember when we first started dating my boyfriend was really surprised that I never expected him to buy me things, or never subtly suggested "Oh wouldn't this look nice on me"? like AF's he'd dated. He specifically said he was tired of dating AFs because they were so materialistic. But we can't make a gross generalization about all AFs or all WFs, but I really don't think that many WFs are gold-diggers. I will sometimes offer to pay for something- movies, dinner, parking, and he will refuse again and again! Sometimes he will offer to pay for something really expensive, but I'll refuse, because I feel better about myself if I bought it with my own hard-earned money. That keeps the relationship 50/50. Each person gives and takes from the other. Also having him buy me expensive things would make me feel obligated to him, or maybe it would make him wonder why I was with him- for him or for his money. I make damn well he knows why I'm with him every day- because he's wonderful, smart, treats me like a queen and simply- I love him.

ABT- hopeless romantic- the little things really do feel so nice. A single rose, or a nice picnic would make any girl feel special. Good luck to you!
curious girl Wednesday, May 01, 2002 at 16:36:50 (PDT)

abc DUDE:
I think it is weird. I tried to email Trish from Manhattan and didn't get any response. What a waste of time.
L.Xiangstyle Wednesday, May 01, 2002 at 16:09:32 (PDT)

"I am having trouble understanding why she doesn't believe in god at all. I wonder if maybe I am not considering her feelings on her beliefs."

it depends on what kind of atheist she is. i'm agnostic, so why don't you introduce us? kidding. but i hang out around the atheists because we have an atheist and agnostic students thing on my campus. maybe you should hang out with her atheist friends sometimes and try to understand their views. most atheists tend to come from strict religious parents and as a way to rebel, turn atheist. i don't know what her reasons are, but it'll do good for your relationship to just both shut-up about whether god exists or not and get to the real issue why do you both believe what you believe. go to an atheist meeting to get their perspective and the "intellectual mumbo-jumbo" about god but afterwards ask your girlfriend why she believes what she believes and how she got to be that way. it's much more productive than to go into pointless theoretical debates about the existence of god. otherwise, give her my email. :D
villageidiot villageidiot1@collegeclub.com Wednesday, May 01, 2002 at 14:40:30 (PDT)

Lover of Caucasian Women,

Just be yourself at your best (i.e., be smart in handling any situation). Don't over do it, and don't under do it. Just handle the situation as you would any other situation in a confident, intelligent, mature fashion. Be reasonable. The woman should appreciate that, and I suspect that she does, because you handle yourself confidently and reasonably in contexts in which she's had a chance to observe you in action.

The expected outcome: she'll fall madly in love with you, if her heart and head are right (she appears to have given you some significant positive signals).

I'm not a "white girl," but I felt that this advice coming from a guy with some experience in successfully attracting and entering into positive relationships with white women in the past might be illuminating.

Koryo Hunk Wednesday, May 01, 2002 at 12:26:56 (PDT)

ABT(Hopeless Romantic in CT)-
I know for a fact there are other WF's like myself who are not just interested in dating a man for his bank account. The love between two people should be worth way more than that. I have always been a woman to work jobs and be independent. Every woman likes to be treated well by a man. But who says being treated well by a man has to involve him opening up his wallet to prove himself?
There are plenty of other WFs' that feel as I do, believe me. Not all of us are superficial and materialistic. Some of us can really appreciate a man for who he really is.

Cindy Wednesday, May 01, 2002 at 11:04:36 (PDT)

Arirang,

Do you have any idea what percentage of people on this planet believe in god?
buddist AM Wednesday, May 01, 2002 at 10:29:36 (PDT)
Lover of Caucasian Women,

Tips for dating extremely beautiful women:
(1) Look 1 mm beyond surface of her skin, and you will see her just like anybody else (an ugly bag of flesh and bone made of mostly water).

(2) Since you are picky, why don't you start qualifying her instead of the other way around?

(3) Tease her and pick on her like she's your bratty little sister. You will probably be the first man ever done that to her. She's tired of all the men she's seen. Do not act like the rest of them -- kissing up to her and being a wuss. Set yourself apart from the crowd. And, say "no" when you don't want to do something she asks. Be a man.

(3) DO NOT compliment on her look. NEVER. DO compliment her on other personal quality.

(4) This is hard: You end the conversion and date first while you are still having fun and make her feel unsatisfied (wanting a second date). First date, I would recommend coffee or lunch. 30-60 min, top.

Good luck!!

An AM Wednesday, May 01, 2002 at 10:21:22 (PDT)

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