Asian Male/White Female Relationships | Asian American Poll

ASIAN MALE/ WHITE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
(Updated Wednesday, Jan 22, 2025, 06:39:10 AM to reflect the 100 most recent valid responses.)

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most attracts you to White females?
Their facial features | 61%
Their physique | 22%
Their attitude and personality | 14%
Their education & cultural values | 3%

Assuming you are an Asian male, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with White females?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 0%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 11%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 74%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 15%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most attracts you to Asian males?
Their facial features | 73%
Their physique | 6%
Their attitude and personality | 15%
Their education & cultural values | 6%

Assuming you are a White female, which of the following most dissuades you from relations with Asian males?
I don't find them physically attractive. | 1%
I don't find their personalities and attitudes appealing. | 9%
I don't think they would find me attractive. | 73%
I'd rather not deal with the disapproval of family. | 17%

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dim sum girl,

you are not a wf so you don't belong here.
cute n blond Wednesday, May 29, 2002 at 08:03:12 (PDT)

thanks gordian99!

now we know that 4 beautiful airbrushed white women think that asian men have best face and hands we can all go out and get piss faced drunk because of that.
so instead of using our intellect we shoud run around and wave our hands around in the air like fags and shove our faces into the faces of white women and they will all love us and want us. right?
villageidiot Wednesday, May 29, 2002 at 07:30:54 (PDT)

Asian and Italian?

Hi all, Just a little thought about this subject. I think the main reason for why AM to be attactive toward WF or vice versa, is mostly a physical attraction. If a person likes another person for who she/he is then the subject of AM and WF and or WF and AM would never come up.

Now, to be specific about Asian and Italian, I really think it is more than just physical, it also is a fantasy that we have between our races. Cultures, religion, families might have something to do with it but it is very general and if that is the case then it doesn't have to be just between Asian and Italian.
Please tell me if I am wrong!!!

Shawn
Shawny_74 shawny_74@yahoo.com Wednesday, May 29, 2002 at 05:23:59 (PDT)

Ok. you're missing one bubble in each section for Asian Males, ones that might get a lot of votes, for better or for worse. I'm an Asian male and I have dated quite a lot of white females, and one of the reasons is just to date a white female. I'm not saying I'm proud of it, but it's a pride thing. it's sort of an assertion of racial equality, or even a victory, of sorts, over white males. basically, I do it for the looks I get from white males when i walk down the street with my arm around a pretty white girl. Like i said, it's not something I'm proud of. I do it subconciously more than anything but I have to acknowledge that it is a reason, even if it's a small one (I wouldn't date someone solely for that). As for the other bubble in the "dissuasion" section, it would be the fact that they're not asian. I'm half asian (my father is Chinese) and I don't have a lot of pressure from him to marry Asian because of that, but I still have a desire for my children to be Chinese. Being already half white (nobody can tell I'm half white though), my genes are already somewhat adulterated and if I marry a white girl, my kids will be even more dilute. basically, I don't want my last name to just be a last name. Again... not necessarily a good thing. But it's there. Don't think this is the only reason an Asian guy would date a white girl, and I don't think if an asian guy was in love with a white girl he'd decide not to marry her just because he's worried about the racial purity of his kids (I wouldn't); it's probably not as common as I think but I don't think I'm the only one either.
cf johnnyhamburger@hotmail.com Wednesday, May 29, 2002 at 00:36:20 (PDT)

OK ok ok.. I was completely drunk when I posted up that last post. I apologize for wasting valuable internet space hahahaha.

Some words about outside pressure in IR relationship. I don't think its uncommon to draw some flak regardless of ethnicity. Hell, think about BM / WF
couples, I certainly don't think they have any easier a time than we do. On the weekend, I saw this classically beautiful blonde at Starbucks with her East Indian man- I just wanted to high five that mofo, cuz thats what I'm talkin about!!!!

Not to spread any antagonism, but merely to cap off my day's thoughts, I couldn't help but notice all the flak I was catching from AFs today. "I'm too good for you" glances and body language.
I wouldn't say WFs treat me any better, but the communication is vastly different, and they smile and keep eye contact with me- HUGE!! Ah, I'm still waiting to meet someone I really want to chase after (literally of course hahaha =)

ok off to sleep

CBC in Montreal ... the sober version samueltam@hotmail.com Wednesday, May 29, 2002 at 00:28:44 (PDT)

DimSumGirl,

It's interesting what you say about your husband. You say you love him, and that he is a wonderful husband. But on the other hand, you get really upset when you see White women with AM. You also said you get mad at him because you think he is looking at White women. This does not sound like love to me. It sound more like you are possesive and insecure. If you really loved and trusted your husband, you would not get upset over all this nonsence. You would trust him. Think about it. It's really amazing how total strangers can make you so angry. Perhaps you two should talk about it, either that or you need some anger management counseling.
Sothias Tuesday, May 28, 2002 at 22:25:00 (PDT)

hahaha no offence but i'm a asian male and i think asian girls are so damn snobbey but white girls? noOoo they are kind, very out going and most of them actually give a guy like me who isn't very big on looks or being mr cool guy a try so to 80% of you asian girls don't get jealous just cause i'm with a white hunnie hahaha payce beotch!!
babieb0i_azn _cuti3 Tuesday, May 28, 2002 at 21:19:43 (PDT)

"Hi guys, in the latest FHM magazine they had an article on a contest to pick the "perfect" body parts. The judges were four beautiful women (white). Guess what, the asian guy won best "face" and "hands" :) They said he had kissable lips and excellent bone structure. Thought that was interesting.
Gordian99 Monday, May 27, 2002 at 23:14:45 (PDT)"

But who won best body type, buttocks, and "you-know-what" ? The whole information would be interesting to know.
Gotta Know AM Tuesday, May 28, 2002 at 21:15:36 (PDT)

There have been several comments about how many AF's will only date AM and they don't like the WF/AM relationship. However, my experience has been entirely different as far as the IR relationship is concerned. I have dated several WF's, a HF, and a BF, but I have never dated an AF. The AF's that I have tried to date prefer WM's. Most of the time they were pretty rude in expressing that they were not interested. Which isn't an entirely bad thing because than I don't waste my time on them. The unintrested WF's that I have approached are usually friendlier in expressing that they're not intrested and, most of the time, they still give me the opportunity to get to know them. The AF's seem to have a "better than you attitude" and won't even carry a conversation. The times when I have dated a WF, it seems that it catches the attention of other WF's and they become intrested in the possibilities. The AF's seem that they couldn't care less. Anyway, remember this is generalized. I've definitely run into WF's that have bad attitudes and I've definitely run into AF's that are wonderful women, even though I have yet to date one.

Oh well. I don't date based on race. I think I'm partial to WF's because I've had success with them. If an AF catches my attention I will still approach her despite my experiences. Hey, you never know!
Mile High Asian Guy Tuesday, May 28, 2002 at 20:18:33 (PDT)

<<<>>>
I came on here before and people were telling me that I'm not really white because I am half itallian/white. I think that was really stupid. Because I don't have to prove my identity to anyone at all. Noone else should have to either. Thats wrong.
I don't think its right to tell people they are not allowed to post their experiences. We can all learn something from each other. I think its really rude to deny people of that. This is supposedly an interracial poll (so you say) Well interracial relationships aren't always based on the opposite sex, dating etc.relationships. I think it can also include friendships with people as well. Dim Sum Girl is a woman just like the rest of us on here. She has every right to post here too. I am very interested in hearing more of her comments. I haven't read any negative things from her.

<<>>!!!!!
I read your comments and I can relate to what you are saying. You receive dirty looks from White Women. They could be intimidated by you or jealous. That seems to happen many times when men are involved. Some women tend to think in a jealous way like;
"why is SHE with him. why isn't HE looking at me?" or something like that. I get the same thing from some other women sometimes. I hope that you will feel free to post whenever.

Its a free country everyone. Right?
? right?

Donna !!!!! 8) Tuesday, May 28, 2002 at 15:06:33 (PDT)

I am a Korean male and I've dated a few white females in the last few years. My confidence to approach them and engage in a conversation has increased. I simply released my fears of their perceptions and started to socialize. What are a few items that attract white females to asian males? I'm very curious to hear some feedback.

Mark
http://members.aol.com/runbeagle/Mark.jpg
Mark in Virginia runbeagle@aol.com Tuesday, May 28, 2002 at 14:00:36 (PDT)

I really think Asian guys are handsome. Whether or not they dye their hair, I don't care. I'm more likely to check out an Asian guy before a white guy, given the opportunity. And Asian women are beautiful too. I just don't think I'd date one. *Laughs*

I think I like Asian guys only because of taste. That's the only way I can exsplain it. There are so few Asian guys at my highschool (I think only 3) and they're either older or younger than I am. It's really a pity.
August Tuesday, May 28, 2002 at 13:50:05 (PDT)

Dim Sum Girl,

Yes you are not a WF or an AM. That is not the main issue here. I have seen your other comments posted on other polls before. You don't have the right to post on here. You have a problem with AM being with WFs. I have seen you post negative things about white people in general before on other posts. I was very insulted by some of the nasty things you said about us. I saw what you posted. But out of respect for those polls I didn't comment about what you said. It wasn't a WF and AM poll, so I just let it go. I am sure if the other WFs on here saw some of the things you write, they would understand exactly what I am talking about. I have respect for others and I don't need to criticize people of other cultures and racial backgrounds. Some of your comments I have read before were borderline racist. If I or any of the other WFs on this poll were to turn the tables and say some of the things you have posted before, I guarrantee you that we would be immediately called 'white bigots'. Its very easy for us to be labeled as that. But its okay for other people to say whatever racist/borderline racist things they want, and it not be labled as so...just because they are not white. I don't have a problem with people posting. I am an open minded person. Like I said in my other comment to you: I have read your other posts on other polls. I know the way you think. With your ways of seeing things, you shouldn't come on here. You have no right. You are a negative influence and we don't need your negativity. There are enough negative things posted at times. Everyone is getting tired of it. It would be different if you were someone positive about AM/Wfs being together, regardless of what race you are. But you are not. You are a BIGOT, and this is the honest truth. Bigots come in all shapes,colors and sizes. I don't have any problems or issues with AFs. I just have a problem with bigots. You say I shouldn't shoo people away. I am not shooing people away. I only shoo away bigotry and racism.
my feelings... Tuesday, May 28, 2002 at 11:54:56 (PDT)

AzN-aKiRa NYC, Gina G., Happyclam

Thanks so much for all your posts, it's soooo nice to have all of you to talk to about this stuff!! I will try to take your advice and not let other people's opinions get to me, and to just focus on the positive aspects of my relationship. Obviously my boyfriend and I have a lot in common and make each other happy, otherwise we wouldn't have been dating for this long. I'm lucky in that his family doesn't seem to be overtly anti-white, nor do they every say that he should marry an asian girl. I think in general they do look down on white culture and people, but that's their viewpoint, and they are repsectful and good to me, and I am to them, so that's all that matters. I think if we do buy a house together I would definitely incorporate some Feng Shui elements and ask his Mom for advice.
curious girl feels happy today :) Tuesday, May 28, 2002 at 11:41:50 (PDT)

There are soooo many AF/WM couples out there, that it's about time AM/WF hook up. Besides, it seems like some AFs I've observed don't even like AMs--they're always clinging on to their WMs like some kind of trophy.
AM admirer Tuesday, May 28, 2002 at 11:08:43 (PDT)

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