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villageidiot, point well taken, you are right that I should not let that girl get to me and get worked up over nothing. She just made me mad!
CBC- Thanks for your post. I think you're right, that AFs being jealous of WF/AM relationships is probably based on insecurity and jealousy. I know that I will never fully understand what it's like to be a minority, but that shouldn't stop anyone from having a happy and fulfilling relationship with a member of another race. If we thought "oh it's futile, we could never really understand each other, what's the point?" then no IR would ever happen.
Lanterna Magicus-
My advice to you- just go for it. Casually ask her out for lunch, or coffee, or if you're really adventurous-dinner and a movie! If she says no, then at least you tried, and it may not be because you're asian, maybe she just doesn't feel like dating, or just got out of a relationship, or whatever. But you never know until you try!!
curious girl
Tuesday, June 04, 2002 at 08:21:27 (PDT)
Lanterna,
I am a WF on the other end of a similar situation and hope some of this will be of help. The way you speak of her is heartwarming and sweet; surely she is interested in you, but is unsure of how you feel. Yes, if she's anything like me you'll need to rent a billboard! ;)
Through work I met this amazing AM who has this ability to make me forget my own name when he smiles at me! It has been a year since I met him and the more I get to know him, the more beautiful and unique he is to me. I'll spare you pages of his attributes, but I will say that he has captivated me like no one else. We are friends and I value that immensely; he is also a client of mine and needless to say it would be very inappropriate for me to initiate anything further. I do suspect he feels for me too- he even referred his parents to me and reassured me several times(!)that they like me. So basically it is in his hands, as I would never do anything to jeopardize the relationship we do have. A couple of times he asked what I was doing after work, but at the time I just thought he was making conversation...
Anyway my point is that she could, for whatever reason, be waiting for you to make the first move and my advice is do it! I understand your reluctance but you have so much to gain here, judging by how highly you regard her. There is nothing wrong with developing the friendship first...good solid foundation and a helluva lot less scary! Good luck to you Lanterna, I hope you get your heart's desire...
Cinstinna
Monday, June 03, 2002 at 21:54:56 (PDT)
allo Vanessa:
Regarding your question about the relative scarcity of Asian men in Quebec. It depends where you are. Certainly in Montral there still is a reasonable size Vietnamese and Chinese population even though many of thr Canadian born Asians have emigrated to other Canadian provinces mainly for employment reasons and also in recent years because of the "National Question". Many Asian and even Middle Class Francophones want their children to learn English in addition to French. The PQ policy of requiring recent immigrant children to enter French schools is a disincentive for many Asians to choose Quebec as a province to which to migrate.
Allophone Chinois Hopsing97@hotmail.com
Monday, June 03, 2002 at 13:27:05 (PDT)
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