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ASIAN MALE/ WHITE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
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Hi Curious Girl,
Frankly speaking, I simply love a woman who is huggable and who has that zest for life, albeit she maybe Asian, Black, Caucasian, Latina, etc. I am sure that most of the women feel the same way about men. Let's be honest, would you date a guy who is fat and a slob BUT has a so called "good heart" in him? OK, some of you ladies would date him, BUT how long would that last? Wouldn't you prefer to date a guy who has a good heart and huggable?
Curious Girl, I personally do not have any race preferences about women. If a woman is smart and good looking and shows sincere interest in a guy, I think that the guy would not care what race she is. I believe that any guys in this forum (although they are interested in a Caucasian woman) would gladly date any good looking woman if she fits their taste.
In reality, either men or women, we seek the same things. We are looking for someone who is mentally healthy and physically attractive person. In my humble opinion, we should not be fixated on our skin color; instead, we should be fixated on finding healthy and attractive persons. When we find them, we should simply hug them!
bighug
Thursday, June 13, 2002 at 07:41:41 (PDT)
Curious girl,
An interesting question, as I too was wondering along the same lines recently given that a majority of AMs here voted facial features as the predominant factor attracting them to WFs.
Guess I belong to the minority who prefer attitude and personality. While I can't speak for anyone else, I tend to look for someone who's outgoing, open-minded, independent without coming off as being indifferent, a sense of humor, compassion toward others, has her own sense of style without becoming a mindless slave to the latest fashion nonsense and a sense of adventure. It's not a checklist of 'must-haves' by any means, just some of the qualities I look for whether the other person is caucasian or asian. Again, others may disagree, but based on personal experience, I tend to find more of those qualities in the WFs I encounter.
As for all the advice given to Madly thus far, I tend to agree with Villageidiot, as they certainly ring of bitterness. Sounds like some of these people were seriously jilted at one time or another, hence all the rhetoric about letting the girl chase you and not the other way around, they're a dime a dozen, etc., etc. A "you can't hurt me because I won't give you the chance to" sort of mentality. While some of the advice given may protect you from getting hurt on occasion, it certainly won't immuninze you to all the heartaches of life. Somewhere down the line, you will inevitably face rejection, heartache, pain, disappointment, and loss. But you will also come to know warmth, understanding, compassion, caring, laughter, loyalty, honesty, and passion. Also, and I may be wrong on this, but I think sticking to such a defensive approach may deprive you the opportunity of meeting some great women simply because you were following some inane set of dating rules.
I personally don't believe in any hard and fast 'rules' of dating, for each person is unique unto themselves. Some women I meet are inherently shy and require more effort on my part if I am truly captivated by her, while others are more outgoing and amenable to being approached. I, for one, am grateful for such variety, otherwise I would be bored out of my gourd!
Just my usual incoherent rant. Hope no one takes it too seriously. =)
Lanterna Magicus lanterna_magicus@yahoo.com
Thursday, June 13, 2002 at 01:23:06 (PDT)
Well curious girl,
I am attracted to blondes because of their hair. Gorgeous, straight blonde hair is pretty cooool, long or short. =) Brunettes are easy on the eyes too, coz they have soulful brown eyes. I ESPECIALLY love a cute blonde with soulful brown eyes. =P
As far as body types go, I love that some white women have loooong legs that go up to 'all the way there'. It's nice having them wrapped around your back. haha....
Personality wise, white women are a mixed bunch. In my experience, some of them have been total psychos -- they were either played too many times by white guys and are all to' up in the head (and body, ahem) or are angry and mistrustful, or they seem to like to have more 'fun' than responsibilites (Then again, I am from a middle class household in an mostly upperclass area, so maybe I see a lot of spoiled white girls not because of race or culture, but because of social/economic background. I also attend an Ivy League college, so that doesn't really help my situation).
But those are the bad ones -- many of them are actually very fun, not to mention sweet. They are animated conversators that keep me wanting more! I love their upbeatness and enthusiasm. I am a very chill, laid-back guy, so their energy balances me out. But interestingly, I find that my laid-backness sometimes makes white girls feel a little uneasy/insecure about me, since it seems that many of them need a guy who is also verbal and likes to vocalize their thoughts and emotions a whole lot. Otherwise they feel that they're not on the same wavelength with a guy (ah, the Achilles' Heel of any relationship... female insecurity). I guess its mainly a cultural difference, compounded with male reticence. What are your opinions regarding this matter? Can anyone verify or refute this observation? Is it really related to race/culture, or is this problem more closely related to individual temperments?
Bloody hell, (white) females.... j/k =P
Wednesday, June 12, 2002 at 22:58:01 (PDT)
I'm thinking of moving out to California. I think it's south of the San Jose area, Pleasenton or something like that. Does anyone have an opinion about the area and how Asian friendly is it and how open are the people to IR relationships? Thanks
Mile High Asian Guy
Wednesday, June 12, 2002 at 21:43:47 (PDT)
AM Superman,
It DOESN'T matter, bro. Stop analyzing, and start doing. Interested in your look or not, just start talking to women EVERYWHERE. Not just the ones you are interested. Not even has to be women only. Be a caring and nice person who talk to people (men and women) constantly, and you will be making many friends (and potential girl friends?).
Good luck!!!
AM Spiderman
Wednesday, June 12, 2002 at 21:40:25 (PDT)
AM Superman's story sounds interesting.
I often find myself in similar situations with women. With Asian women, I find that I can read them better, due to cultural similarities. Asian men and women flirt (in my opinion) in subtle ways, so even if an Asian woman is passive like AM Superman's girl was, I can more easily determine that as shyness and act accordingly. With white or other non Asian women, I'm not so sure. I'd also like to get some feedback on this matter.
Stumped
Wednesday, June 12, 2002 at 20:31:54 (PDT)
"and you sir/madame,i bet is the troll that keeps stealing people's s/n"
No I am definitely not a thief. And I am far from being a troll. I just think its odd how this guy is pouring his heart out. And you men jumped all over him with bitter advice. It sounded like you three have issues with women? I just wondered why do you all seem that way? Maybe you were just trying to help with friendly advice. But it sounded far from friendly. It sounded like negative energy. Like dark aura.
I read some of lordt's posts. He just seemed cold and rude to women. I could be wrong. But it seems this way, from what I have read. It is hard to tell what a person is really like. I am just telling you what I see.
BluePsyche "clouds the mind & sees into your soul..."
Wednesday, June 12, 2002 at 18:49:03 (PDT)
Cynicism is a most reliable shield against overwhelmingly ubiquitous hypocracites. maybe two digit holder like you couldn't possibly understand three digit holder like me at all..
"Be an observer, Never be a participant."
-Ernst Junger
Pangolin
Wednesday, June 12, 2002 at 15:39:12 (PDT)
curious girl,
yeah right. as much as you like to say things like "it's not what you have, it's who you have", you know it's all bullshit. the only time when money didn't matter was when we were little kids in JHS and early HS, when we didn't think about things like that.
but its ok, im determined to be sucessful, and when i get rich, i can buy the more important things, like love. =)
hg
Wednesday, June 12, 2002 at 15:22:03 (PDT)
"What attracts Asian men to white women? What qualities do you like about us?"
Sex, power, and love--not necessarily in that order. What else?
In the case of Asian women, sex and love.
Asian Machiavelli
Wednesday, June 12, 2002 at 13:06:31 (PDT)
"I'm fairly sure I was just being a schmuck. What do ya'll think?"
like they say in alcoholics anonymous, the first step to recovery is self-realization and admit that you have a problem. ;)
villageidiot
Wednesday, June 12, 2002 at 11:24:57 (PDT)
Curious Girl,
Physically? The blonde hair, facial features, complexion of the skin. I'm surrounded by them since I live in the New England area. Especially where I work. I'm interested in this one lady but the W.A.S.P. thing seems to stop me. Hate to say that.
Personality wise? Upbeat, nice, outgoing attitude, etc.
ABT pjchen28@hotmail.com
Wednesday, June 12, 2002 at 11:22:11 (PDT)
curious girl
why I like wf. Wow, because my girlfriend is german american and literally my heart skips a few beats everytime i see her. She has PERFECT skin, nice brown hair with blonde streaks, 5'11 and looks just angelic. I cant say all wf look like her, but i noticed they are just so beautiful. Of course I am not attracted to them. cause i got the best already :) But I know they are very pretty. Like in any race of people, quality is hard to find. I think only 5% of wf is quality women. But thats plenty for all the asian brothers out there!!!. Besides all that, we make beautiful gorgous babies.
SOG
Wednesday, June 12, 2002 at 11:01:18 (PDT)
am superman
NO that does not mean she wants to talk to you. Gosh dude. lol. Everyman thinks just because a chick looks at him, they want to sleep with them. lol
Well its true... I felt that way before. he he he.
SOG
Wednesday, June 12, 2002 at 10:57:17 (PDT)
AM Superman,
Your blonde was just looking for attention and not a date. Why is every story told here starts with, I saw this beautiful blonde. Don't you guys ever see a beautiful brunette?
Megan
Wednesday, June 12, 2002 at 08:54:12 (PDT)
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