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ASIAN MALE/ WHITE FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS
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I was "seeing" an AM for 7 months, and it ended earlier this week. After a couple of dates, it was clear that it would never work, but that didn't stop us from getting together (if you know what I mean) every week. He has recently become involved with someone more compatible, and I have found the same. So hopefully, things will work out for both of us. But it still bothers me that he never told anyone about me. I feel like he kept me a secret because I'm white, and his family would soil themselves if they found out I wasn't an AF. I also found it annoying that he would stare at other WFs and make comments right in front of me. How rude. But he would never consider a WF as a potential girlfriend, only something to gawk at. Although I admit I am attracted to AMs, maybe it's even a "fetish" by some standards, I would definately consider them as boyfriends. Anyway, I ran into him this week, and he was telling me about his new girlfriend, and I said that I hope we can remain friends, and he replied, "Sure, we'll still be friends; I can use advice about women from you." Gee, glad I can be of use to you. So then, at that very moment, he saw a WF, and made one of his lewd comments, and I said, loudly, "You really have a white girl fetish, don't you?" He looked angry, and took a step back from me. I said, "What?! You do!" Then, he told me I had a "dirty" mind for thinking such things. I felt like saying, "Hey, you're the one leering and making comments," but I didn't. Yuck, I feel used. I know I'm partly to blame because I kept seeing him, and I accept that much, but he didn't have to be such a JERK.
boo hoo
Friday, June 14, 2002 at 07:15:18 (PDT)
"What attracts Asian men to white women? What qualities do you like about us?"
"Sex,power, and love--not necessarily in that order. What else?"
"In the case of Asian Women, sex and love"
Hmmm...very interesting Asian Machiavelli. And do you also view your own Asian mother and grandmother in the same light? Perhaps even the other women in your family as well? ...as being women with no power ... Or as being incapable of having power? Its ironic how you view White women as having more power. And you see the women within your own race as being powerless wimps. It is interesting. Self hatred seems to be quite common these days. I guess there are many people who live by it. Especially you. Quite sad. Quite ridiculous. I date outside of my race. But I do not put down the men of my race either. Unlike you who is ashamed, I am very proud of my heritage.
Koksijde aan zee , Belgium
Friday, June 14, 2002 at 06:22:37 (PDT)
Megan (and others),
Okay, blondes vs. brunettes.
I gotta say that I'm WHOLEHEARTEDLY into brunettes. There was once a time when I bought into the blonde hair/blue eyed look, but that was when I was a teenager, and totally susceptable to media brainwashing. Ever since I developed opinions of my own (and became unafraid to advertise them) I've been into dark-haired brunettes. (I love, for example, the dark-haired Irish look--just look at The Corrs...I won't listen to them on the radio, but I *love* to watch them on MTV.) So quite frankly, I don't understand the hubbub around blondes. Someone please explain it to me. I just don't get it.
That's my two cents.
Chris (Poet/Warrior) fearless1976@yahoo.com
Friday, June 14, 2002 at 00:24:15 (PDT)
Yeah, I am the only Asian guy that seems to love brunettes, have been with this one beautiful WF brunette for over five years.
She has always been my One & Only "Beautiful"!!!!!!!!!!
Holliday's One & Only
Thursday, June 13, 2002 at 16:00:49 (PDT)
I prefer brunettes than blonde. It especially complements light eye color like blue/hazel/gray well.
just a friend
Thursday, June 13, 2002 at 14:37:58 (PDT)
Bighug,
It's nice and all that you don't care what race of women you date, but this poll is about only two races, WF and AM. I prefer that we stick with couples like ourselves before we wander off the topic too much. I come here to read about couples like myself.
Megan
Thursday, June 13, 2002 at 14:19:23 (PDT)
Hg,
You can buy love, but is love like that worth having? If I want love like that I'd just hire a gigolo to satisfy me, but for true love I want a nice person to be my husband. You sound bitter with women, but you're right that money does matter. I don't date men who are broke.
Megan
Thursday, June 13, 2002 at 14:15:11 (PDT)
Sog,
I have to disagree with you. I think for you to say that only 5% of white females are quality women is an insult to the other 95%. And you actually think 5% is plenty for all Asian men? I don't think that's enough to go around. I'm happy that you are dating a blonde supermodel, but most Asian men are intimidated by my height and looks.
Megan
Thursday, June 13, 2002 at 14:11:37 (PDT)
P.S. Bloody Hell- tell me more about why you think female insecurity ruins relationships. Any experiences with this?
curious girl
Thursday, June 13, 2002 at 13:27:21 (PDT)
Hey guys, thanks for all the answers, good to hear so much different feedback. But man you guys are too fixated on blondes!! Us brunettes are cute too! ;)
bighug- Awesome post. I totally agree that we should not fixate on race but on who is going to make us happy. I didn't choose to date my AM boyfriend because he was Asian, but because he was an awesome guy. I've dated black, white, asian guys before, I just let myself be open to new experiences.
Bloody hell, (white) females.... j/k =P
What a crabby name you have! ;) I think the problem you describe is the age old male/female communication problem. Ever hear of Mars and Venus? I don't think it's unique to any race. It depends on the individuals.
AM Spiderman- your advice is priceless. Guys, just get out there and meet people and be open and more outgoing! Let everyone get a chance to know the real you.
curious girl
Thursday, June 13, 2002 at 13:04:30 (PDT)
"Like dark aura."
isn't that an oxymoron? i mean the force can be either light or dark, but never heard of "aura" that's dark.
villageidiot
Thursday, June 13, 2002 at 13:02:05 (PDT)
"I am definitely not a thief."
HEY bad pick up line time. why aren't you a thief? you stole my heart and i want it back! :D
villageidiot
Thursday, June 13, 2002 at 13:00:12 (PDT)
"I just wondered why do you all seem that way? Maybe you were just trying to help with friendly advice. But it sounded far from friendly."
OUCH! i don't know what i've written to deserve this, care to refresh my memory on what you've got against me?
as for some AM who need to get a pair. i was once too hung up on the same girl and seemed desperate for her one and only attention. until i realized marlon brando's immortal words: YOU'RE GONNA ACT LIKE A MAN! *SLAP* i admit i'm still reluctant to go up and hit on girls, but i've seen enough and been through enough to realize all the signs; if i sense that a girl is playing mind games then it's see you down the line and don't ever call me again. but this is not the same as playing minds games...
"I think sticking to such a defensive approach may deprive you the opportunity of meeting some great women simply because you were following some inane set of dating rules"
HEAR HEAR! you sir, is what more AM need to be, real men. "nothing ventured nothing gained" and "tis better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all." all these dating rules crap on how to manipulate feelings and not end up manipulated are just so childish. real love needs no tricks, it simply is.
villageidiot
Thursday, June 13, 2002 at 12:47:07 (PDT)
"Don't you guys ever see a beautiful brunette?"
why? are you a beautiful brunette? i have to say that some of the more "lacking" AM posters here seem to be after the stereotypical trophy white girlfriend who's blonde blue eyes and two pairs that point out like truck beamers.
listen, you want any "quality" in an AM and if you're a blonde, dye your hair brunette and see what the AM reaction is and then you know if you've got a keeper or not.
villageidiot
Thursday, June 13, 2002 at 12:40:04 (PDT)
To Megan:
From what other AM's have said, it's because blondes, the real ones anyway, tend to show the most interest in AM for whatever reason. It maybe because of the "opposites attract" thing. That may also explain why it seems that many AM appear to be most attracted to blondes. Western media images of blondes as the apex of western beauty probably doesn't hurt either.
Makoto
Thursday, June 13, 2002 at 11:58:00 (PDT)
"clouds the mind & sees into your soul,"
Why are you attacking me specifically? Go read my post again, why is it negative, no one else here is complaining about me. Just because a girl ignores you, you move on. WHAT? You want me to kiss a girl's ass and call her 15 times a day and beg her for a date? If a guy does that, he's a girly man. hmm...i'm starting to think that you're Trisha O'Brien because you didn't mention your buddy Loving Tenor in your post and because I stopped emailing you. :-) Sorry honey, there are just so many more beautiful white women out there to get to know, you had your chance. HG, now that's a man who knows women!
lordt78
Thursday, June 13, 2002 at 10:46:04 (PDT)
Megan,
Even though you used my name again to comment I must admit, I do have to agree with you on this one. It is interesting that it seems to be a blonde thing. I am a blonde, but I don't think of it as being such a big deal. What is the big attraction to it? Its just hair right?
Megan
Thursday, June 13, 2002 at 09:34:58 (PDT)
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