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Who needs insecure blondes,
Whoever you are, one thing is for sure. You seem to be awfully too too concerned about me. You must be the namestealer.
If you had half a brain you would have seen that someone had been stealing my name. Perhaps you're the name stealer. Its awfully odd to assume that I have thought or said the things you accused me of. I never have, and never will put myself above any other races. How can I be in a relationship with an AM and be a racist? I posted before way back that I wasn't in a relationship with an AM. But what I failed to mention to anyone is that my 1 year old daughter is half chinese.
Time also changes things...because now I am finally in a happy relationship with my daughters father. We have managed to work things out, and be serious with each other. I also have many close non-asian and asian friends. Your comment doesn't make much sense now does it? In my post I said I am a natural blonde. So what. I never said I was better than anyone for that. I just stated the truth and that I didn't think it was a big deal. You sound jealous and insecure or something. Get over your insecurities, and stop stealing my NAME to post. I am not on here to get to know you or befriend you anyway. I am here to hear about positive AM/WF relationships. Whoever you are, I am not interested. Get that through you THICK HEAD. Stop obsessively concerning yourself so much with me Okay. On to another subject, on to someone besides me. How about that? Sounds good to me.
Megan
Friday, June 21, 2002 at 08:33:05 (PDT)
Sorry, Brunette Girl for taking your name!
Actually, this guy is very outging, (too) talkative, and very friendly. He's kind of flirtatious with other women. In other words, he has no problems being completely superficial with other people. I've known him a little while.
With me, he acts completely different (both in front of others and when we are together). No one believes me when I tell them how many arguments we get into! They just don't think he's that kind of person. He'll even play the 'I'm going to ignore you tonight and see if you're watching me while I flirt with this really hot girl over here' game somtimes. Then he denies he does it. It's unusual if we are out with a group of friends and he's not standing or sitting near me. We have lots of deep conversations about everything and usually he is very supportive. So, I thought we were just really close friends. I started to think it was strange when I asked him about his feelings on a platonic level and he would always avoid the topic. I was told by another friend he felt close to me, but when I confronted him about it, he didn't want to have anything to do with the conversation. I encourage him to ask out the girls he flirts with and he just refuses. Likewise, in the past, I mentioned one or two guys I was interested in and his tone changed, like he was jealous or something. It's almost like there are girls and then there's me. I guess it's my woman's intuition telling me it's fear, but is the thing to do just be patient? I've tried avoiding him, but that doesn't work very long.
Ahh! I guess guys are just confusing no matter what their packaging!
Brunette girl, Too!
Thursday, June 20, 2002 at 23:20:18 (PDT)
BrunetteGirl,
WOW! You just describe EXACTLY how my AM friends as well as myself. AM for the most part only give out small hints every now and then. We also tend to observe reactions very closely to see if there are any signs of interest. I'm not sure why it is that we do that. I think any woman who wants to know if an AM is interested in them should read your post.
Proud 2 b Azn
Thursday, June 20, 2002 at 22:43:53 (PDT)
gah!,
"he doesn't like you that way.
he just wants to bang you"
What are you two years old? Grow up loser!
Proud 2 b Azn
Thursday, June 20, 2002 at 22:23:30 (PDT)
confuzedAM,
First of all, forget about social pressures. Who cares what other people think. You are the one dating her, so the only person who should care is you.
Just remember that all mothers are not the same, and it would be an injustice to assume they are. With that said, I'll try to give you some pointers here from what I know.
If you really can't decide if you want to date a single mother, then you might want to start out as friends. That will give you enough time to evaluate her situation without getting yourself in a predicament you would rather not be in.
For instance, you might want to find out what type of relationship she has with the ex. Is it amicable or is it hostile? If it isn't amicable then my advice is to run. You don't need the headache. With that said, it doesn't mean there might not be little bumps in the road from time to time. If the ex isn't in the picture, then you probably won't have much to worry about here. As friends, she will probably talk to you about this stuff.
The other thing to consider is how well she takes care of her kids. Does she keep them clean, or are they dirty most of the time? Are they brats, or does she expect them to be considerate and behave?
Hey, if you're going to spend any time at all with her kids, then you are going to want to know this stuff.
As a mom, she's going to have a lot of responsibilities so you'll have to be willing to take second place at times. However, this doesn't mean she'll never have time for you or that you'll have to compete with her kids.
You'll also want to find a woman who expects her child to respect you as a person. Some people can't stand it when you have anything negative to say about their kids, even though it might be warranted. If you are being fair about it, and she isn't willing to hear you out without getting defensive, then I would take note of that. Blood isn't always thicker then water, but sometimes it is.
In the end, it will be up to you in deciding if this single mom is worth it or not. They are no better or no worse then anybody else. Nor are they all desperate to land a father figure like some people might believe. The only difference is they have a child. If the thought of being a parent to someone else's child doesn't scare you too bad, then you might want to give it a try.
BTW, I was a single mom for 13 years so I've been through all of this.
DD
Thursday, June 20, 2002 at 22:09:36 (PDT)
The fact is, I adore Asian men. Even though my peers often do not accept my tastes, I would not date a man of any other race!
Nikki cutekawaii_2001@hotmail.com
Thursday, June 20, 2002 at 20:32:53 (PDT)
Let me end this once and for all of those females who wonder why AMs go for blondes. Well, I can't speak for all AMs, but as one AM, I have to say that there is an attraction for a couple of good reasons. First, AMs and WF blondes have to face false stereotypes. AMs being geeky, unsociable, smart, etc. Blondes being ditzy, easy, dumb, bimbos. AMs and blondes don't like these lies because they are far from the truth. Then there is the expression that "opposites attract". A black-haired, golden-skinned, Asian guy next to a blonde, buttermilk complexion WF looks very attractive in my eyes. As a couple, we make a greater impact than the regular Jack and Jill (yawn) couple. Anywho, my mouth waters when I see a very hot blonde. It doesn't matter if you're an Asian, white, black, or hispanic guy. They would most likely pick out a blonde from a crowd of dark hair women.
Loves WF Blondes
Thursday, June 20, 2002 at 20:13:49 (PDT)
I am a white girl....and for some reason, I cant get ANY guys to even aknowledge that I exsist. I have found that I really like asian guys, most of the time because they arent perv's. But I cannot find a way to get any of them to notice me....can anyone help me?
Yoona MidoriSawa@aol.com
Thursday, June 20, 2002 at 19:50:50 (PDT)
I LOVE JAPANESE BOIS! :D
Pale Redhead Miakathemiko@aol.com
Thursday, June 20, 2002 at 12:56:53 (PDT)
Hey I think both brunettes and blondes are beautiful, or redheads or black-haired girls, it's all good! Not that I'm a supermodel or anything, but I'm secure enough in my looks that I don't feel jealous of blonde girls. Sure there are some stunning blonde girls, but I see just as many dark haired girls in magazines that are gorgeous.
Chris- I know exactly what you mean! Before I ever dated Asian men, I certainly never had anything against them, it was just that it never occurred to me, or I didn't interact with them very often. And then when I dated my first Asian boyfriend, I was like "Wow, he is so hot!" and suddenly I found myself looking around at other Asian men in an appreciative way. I saw this GORGEOUS Asian guy on a TV show the other day (bit part on CSI) and I was like- now that is awesome, this guy is gorgeous and smart, and the whole tv-viewing world can see it.
Brunette Girl-
Good luck with this guy. I totally know what you mean about silence being golden. I remember my b/f and I hanging out as friends before we started dating, and we would walk around town in silence, but I could feel a kind of warmth and caring emanating from him. :)
curious girl
Thursday, June 20, 2002 at 10:32:29 (PDT)
"Now, out of the few WFs I'm acquainted with I'm noticing that the ones I'm really attracted to happen to have a kid. They're either divorced or got pregnant out of wedlock."
I don't think I've ever heard of the situation where an Asian male marries a single Caucasian mother. If you had a child with one of these women (in marriage, that is), you'd be raising a "pure" Caucasian child and a bi-racial child as your own. I actually dig that idea.
Koksijde aan zee/Delphine:
You're misreading my post. The ability to attract and marry a Caucasian female represents a "conquest" for the Asian male. The "conquest" thesis doesn't apply to the Asian female.
Asian Machiavelli
Thursday, June 20, 2002 at 10:27:55 (PDT)
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